Been on my own for 5 days

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Lookatthesizeofthatpizza · 10/08/2024 12:49

With Dd, 5, and I’m exhausted.
Dh is away with work for a week. I live abroad so no family around, lots of friends but they have their own families etc, I’d only reach out in an emergency. Dd is wonderful, but very intense and energetic, v wilful (going through assessment for adhd)
She’s not fallen asleep until 9.30 ish and up at 6.30. I think it’s doing every bedtime that’s been harder (Dh and I normally alternate)
Ive just found it such hard work and take my hat off to single mums 💪
Is this normal? Feels a bit pathetic, but to only have a couple of hours to myself once she’s asleep, then falling asleep myself makes me feel so trapped

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Clarinet1 · 10/08/2024 13:16

On another occasion is there anything like a holiday scheme DD could go to? It would give you a break during the day.

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Lookatthesizeofthatpizza · 10/08/2024 13:07

@PlantDoctor Yes, I always think I could do it all on my own..but maybe I couldn’t, at least until she’s older 10 plus maybe

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PlantDoctor · 10/08/2024 12:55

Those are long days with a young kid. I know I'm glad for DH to take over in the evening sometimes, with a similar age DD. We don't have family help either so I know it's relentless!

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Lookatthesizeofthatpizza · 10/08/2024 12:54

@Dramatic I can imagine, that’s incredible you did that 🤍
I mean, tbh I do the majority of everything anyway as he works more hours, but with it being school holidays and then by bedtime, I have zero patience left and just want to be alone, not with my Dd getting up and down or continuing to talk my ear off 😩it’s the lack of space/peace

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Dramatic · 10/08/2024 12:51

No it's not unreasonable for you to feel like this, it's hard going on your own. I was a single parent for 6 years and felt very much alone even though I had people around to help on occasion, it's the everyday grind that gets you down.

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