Should "Mumsnet" be renamed?

Mumsnet should change their name to something less cozy and appealing, to publicise how unfriendly it is?😂

I don't think the internet is the place for you, if Mumsnet is too hardcore. There are stupidly debates, the odd bitchy posters, but come onnnn

Mmmm things like this. Purposely obtuse.

@Lorrymum try posting in the Mental Health forum.

Absolutely the same here, the times I've typed something out and then deleted it because it just isn't worth it. It's almost like competitive sarcasm or just outright meanness.

Some people don't have supportive relationships in real life and needing some solidarity or empathy now and then isn't a weakness. Nor is giving it.

the title does suggest a more supportive vibe than can be found here.

It really does depend where you post. Generally, the more niche the board, the more supportive the vibe. AIBU can be a vipers' nest but in fairness you are posting to ask 'am I being unreasonable' so you must be prepared to be told you are.

Sometimes, plain-spoken advice can be more helpful than fluffiness. Mums, or might I say women generally, shouldn't be pigeonholed as everyone's emotional support tool.

We don't exist to be your mummy.

@Shithole101 agree, there is a huge difference between reading an answer you didn’t want, and reading plain rudeness.

And that old favourite, “grow up”. Is there any response lazier and more useless than this?

I don't think it should be renamed . That won't change anything.

What I do find sad is when someone makes a thread. Looking for support . And the first few replies are nasty. Not a difference of opinion but actually nasty . Then other people follow suit . The thread becomes pointless and poor op is feeling more shit than they did in the first place. Points can be put across without nastiness. I do feel it's sometimes done on purpose. But people often know how to sail close to the MN talk guidelines. Without actually going over it.

The thing is you never know what response you will get and you can't control what other people say. All you can do is ignore the bids that are not helpful. And just take the bits that do help.

I think on the whole MN is OK. There's much more good than there is bad. But when your going through a hard time. Feel vulnerable and emotional the bad bits magnify

After learning the hard way, I no longer OP about anything emotional or that's upset me. Even on the sub forums. With the possible exception of the mh board I've always ended up feeling worse

The scope of the forums is much broader now than when it started as a parenting forum/website (I've only ever used the forums) and while the 'Don't label ME brigade' will rear up at the mere suggestion of being seen as kind 'just because they're a mum', the title does suggest a more supportive vibe than can be found here.

It is such a cosy, comforting title which eludes to a safe space. Sadly it really isn't!

It’s a space primarily for mothers/parents to talk to each other. Not for women to act like your kind, wholesome mum.

It doesn’t need to be renamed and there’s no way it would happen anyway. Everyone knows the brand ‘mumsnet’.

If someone doesn’t enjoy it here, I don’t understand why they would stay. It’s just the internet.

Well you could start your own cuddly site if you want. maybe call it "MumsBe KindNet". It will probably be the most boring site ever, but you never know.

People can be helpful on the many threads that are about particular issues. But a lot of posters on AIBU seem shocked that other people have different points of view or think that, actually, yes, you're being incredibly unreasonable. And then start accusing others of being biased or bullies. If you're posting on AIBU, accept that you might be!

Why do you stay?

1: it is cosy
2: it is a safe space
3: newbie, are you?
4: ffs

But doesn't everyone have a mum? (at some point)

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Yes, agree with all of this.. It's the internet! I don't know what people are expecting 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think I've said anything nasty at all. I'm telling the truth. Mumsnet is not a compulsory part of life. There are loads of 'softer' websites the op could use. Most people who have responded have agreed that the name doesn't need changing.

The idea that mums should be ' cosy' is quite dodgy really!

It's not just for mums; it's not all about parenting; and there's a lot of blokes on it. So "Mumsnet" is somewhat misleading - and not just because of any impressions it may give about cosiness.

I'm not a mum and never will be, but I'm comfortable with the name Mumsnet. I imagine if a census were done, the majority here would be mums or intending to become mums. The site has grown beyond its name to include other things; like many brand names have, such as 'Carphone Warehouse' or 'Scottish Widows'.

Why would anyone think it’s a safe space, surely everyone who registers knows there is no check into the individual and that it’s anonymous, even if they don’t know there is about 10 million on here.