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Need urgent advice to lose weight quickly- bridesmaid dress doesn’t fit!

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AngeloMysterioso · 10/08/2024 12:04

I’m due to be bridesmaid for a good friend next Saturday. She’s just been round to drop my dress off, and I tried it on while she was here- we couldn’t get it done up!

I’m 5’ 5.5” and according to my scales I weigh 64.7kgs, or 10 stone 2lbs and 10oz. My clothes are mostly a size 10. So I’m not exactly big- I’ve got a 9mo baby that is still breastfed but I’ve just checked and back in February when the dresses were first ordered (and I was weighing myself regularly to see if the baby weight was coming off) I was 62kgs!! But I don’t weigh myself that often now as I tend to just go by how my clothes fit, and whilst some things are a little on the tight side atm there’s nothing that I can’t get into.

My friend has taken the dress home to see if she can get it altered to let it out a little bit, but we had a look and there isn’t really any extra fabric to play with and the style of it means that it would be quite complicated to make any big adjustments to. So basically I’ve got a week to lose enough weight to fit into this dress.

Help!!

OP posts:
Jimmyneutronsforehead · 10/08/2024 12:47

I would remove the zip and have a seam cut down both sides and have a mini ribbon corset added to both sides symmetrically ad opposed to a traditional back corset.

BobandRobertaSmith · 10/08/2024 12:46

Find a good dressmaker, they will have a solution. It’s really not a good idea to be dieting when you are breastfeeding and if it doesn’t work it will be too late to do anything! Also, if you are breastfeeding, you are probably a bit bigger around the bust and dieting isn’t going to change that.

OlympicBlue · 10/08/2024 12:46

Shapewear should do wonders. But start keto and you’ll lose a few lbs. But you’ll feel rubbish the first week and it’ll affect your Bf.
shapewear should work magic and buy a cheap dress the same colour to swap into for the evening so you can breathe and eat!

maddening · 10/08/2024 12:44

Corset?

Garlicfest · 10/08/2024 12:43

AngeloMysterioso · 10/08/2024 12:35

They were made to order from an American company

I'm in favour of asking the supplier for an extra yard (as they're American!) of the fabric, get it sent express and pre-book your alterations person.

That's if your ultra-powered shapewear doesn't work.

Gowlett · 10/08/2024 12:43

No bread, cake, goodies, pasta, rice, potatoes.
Plain yoghurt, protein shakes. Miso soup. Fruit.
Plenty of veg to get things moving, as such…

One week BF while eating less is fine, I think.

Myusernamemustbeatleastthreecharacters · 10/08/2024 12:43

I've recently had a dress that should have been my size but didn't fit, it also had a zip up the side and I couldn't get it to close without brute force. I had three weeks to lose 2kg and it didn't make much difference in the end anyway, I did manage to squeeze into the dress but it was so tight around my ribs it gave me stomach pains and I had to get changed eventually. Don't waste time trying to diet. Find a seamstress asap! They can work miracles!
If your dress is like mine it was tightest around my rib cage and chest, and 2kg in weightloss didn't make any difference in that area anyway.

Good luck!

Lampzade · 10/08/2024 12:40

As others have said, get a dressmaker to insert a panel
You should not be dieting when breastfeeding.

WhatMe123 · 10/08/2024 12:36

Oh sorry just read your breast feeding so fasting probably isn't an option

WhatMe123 · 10/08/2024 12:36

If you fast you'll easily drop it op

AngeloMysterioso · 10/08/2024 12:35

TheSquareMile · 10/08/2024 12:31

@AngeloMysterioso

Were they hand-made by a seamstress, OP or bought ready-made from a shop?

They were made to order from an American company

OP posts:
LoneHydrangea · 10/08/2024 12:35

I would do the Fast 800 keto and no carbs. You could easily drop 4 lbs in a week doing this. But be strict.

AngeloMysterioso · 10/08/2024 12:33

Swapping isn’t really an option, there’s 4 bridesmaids but two are mega mega slim and small chested, and the other one is quite a bit bigger than me, so my dress would be too small for her.

Periods still haven’t come back so I don’t think that’s a factor.

Gonna head into town once baby is awake and see if I can get some industrial strength shapewear!

OP posts:
TheSquareMile · 10/08/2024 12:31

AngeloMysterioso · 10/08/2024 12:15

They’re all the same fabric/colour, and have to be ordered in advance so I can’t just get a different one.

@AngeloMysterioso

Were they hand-made by a seamstress, OP or bought ready-made from a shop?

DimplesToadfoot · 10/08/2024 12:31

Can you do a week of Slimming World, I don't recommend long term, I've done SW a few times and any weight I lose on them I gain back each time I've tried I've always lost between 7lbs and 10lbs in my first week

Greally · 10/08/2024 12:30

Thats v doable. No alcohol and lots of water. 16:8 fasting and lower carbs. Lots of walking. It’s only a week so possible to stick to and nothing like a deadline.

Thane · 10/08/2024 12:29

Try the weightloss board on here too OP.
You are not going to lose 2kg of fat in a week, but I think shedding excess water and some good shapewear will sort you out no problem.
www.healthline.com/nutrition/13-ways-to-lose-water-weight

MummyJ12 · 10/08/2024 12:29

theduchessofspork · 10/08/2024 12:19

get a dress maker to put a panel in the back.

If you weren’t breastfeeding then crash diet and go sit in a sauna - but that isn’t going to be realistic for you.

I was just going to post exactly the same as this!

Please don’t be tempted to diet or reduce your calorie intake. You need it because you’re breastfeeding. The dress can be sorted. Sort the dress, not the weight!

HeyTalkToMeGoose · 10/08/2024 12:26

Where would spare matching material come from to create a corset?

romdowa · 10/08/2024 12:24

AngeloMysterioso · 10/08/2024 12:17

It zips up the side (one of those horrid pinchy invisible zips) so a corset fastening wouldn’t really work.

A good seamstress could close that up and create a corset in the back. Or even just leave the side zip and just add the corset.

Dinosweetpea · 10/08/2024 12:24

I was bridesmaid when 4m pregnant so just wore a different dress in the same colour. I'd have a back up option as will be tricky if BF to make too many changes to diet.

thenightsky · 10/08/2024 12:24

I had surgery last month and couldn't walk for a week. I lost 5lb in one week purely by being unable to get into the kitchen or stand at the cooker/fridge. No alcohol coz I was on blood thinners and not a single snack or nibble outside lunch or dinner times.

Thane · 10/08/2024 12:24

I bet it is bloat / water weight. Are you due on your period?
Anyway - combat this by going low carb. Eat no bread, pasta or sugary foods or alcohol for a week. The weight (retained water) will fall off you. You might lose as much as 4lb of just water in a week! You can definitley do this!

MagneticSquirrel · 10/08/2024 12:23

Reduce calories, but make sure you are getting enough protein so lose fat rather than muscle. If you have little ones I would assume you are fairly active lifting them, walking/running around all day anyway. You could lose 1kg in a week ok, 2kg will be muscle / water rather than fat.

And get some very good shapewear, eg bodysuit style would probably be enough to pull you in enough to zip up the dress, you can get ones that you can still wear your own bra with if you are breastfeeding. Eg www.marksandspencer.com/sheer-striped-firm-control-non-padded-body/p/clp60285043?intid=mobile_app_pdp_share

LegoTherapy · 10/08/2024 12:23

Is there another bridesmaid whose dress is on the bigger side you could swap with? Your weight might be distributed differently than it was at 62kg. 2kg in one week is a lot to lose and if your body shape has changed slightly you might not get in it even if you do lose the weight. Adjustments or seeing if another bridesmaids dress fits you better and she gets in yours seems your best bet. A seamstress might be able to insert some fabric if there's none to let out.
I have a dress I bought before having ds. I weigh less now than I did when I bought the dress but it doesn't fit on the chest because my shape changed with all the breastfeeding.
Good luck!