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H told me to shut my ugly mouth this morning

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greenpena · 10/08/2024 11:14

Because I got annoyed that he was annoyed that I hadn't cleaned up the kitchen from last night's dinner, as he wanted to make breakfast and it wasn't clean.

I said he's not some sort of king. I am currently on a break from work, so I do have more time than him and I always clean up the next morning, as I'm very tired at night.

This morning I came down and had a coffee and didn't immediately clean up, as I was feeling tired and wanted to chill for a bit. He comes down after a lie in and starts cursing because the kitchen is a shit hole and apparently everything is a shit hole.

I told him it's not ok to talk like that and I'm sick of it. To which he told me to shut up and then commented on shutting my ugly mouth.

I'm beyond upset.

OP posts:
Olympicfatigued · 10/08/2024 11:22

I would be pissed off if I came and found the kitchen in a tip in the morning but is there any reason he couldn’t have tidied it last night if he knows this upsets him. It’s also horrible and abusive for him to speak to you like that.

theduchessofspork · 10/08/2024 11:21

Yes I’m not surprised, that’s very aggressive of him.

Give each other some space. Later this afternoon tell him you want to schedule a conversation about this, but in the meantime you will not be spoken to like that.

Sunday might be a good time to talk. He of course will have points to make about tidying up, and you will need to listen to that, and work out a compromise

Fannyfiggs · 10/08/2024 11:20

I'm so sorry OP. Has he spoken to you like this before?

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