Quiet neighbours now making noise.

But they wouldn’t be denying him his “hobby”. Playing a sport with others an a court or at a sports centre is a hobby. Bouncing a ball alone in a back garden is not really a hobby in and of itself. Does he/can he go to more training or matches? That’s why most people who have a sport hobby do - they do it in a way that doesn’t massively inconvenience others.

Start a gofundme, get some local schools and businesses involved.

The very idea of you being allowed to make noise and they're not is hilariously entitled.

So there was basketball noise for up to two hours, and music for 2 hours...I don't see the issue.

I actually wouldn't stop him playing basketball, as long as its in normal hours. I would probably look into finding him a team if he enjoys it that much.

But I absolutely wouldn't complain or even consider complaining about their noise. That's where you're unreasonable.

Potentially also look at getting another small area of the garden paved if you have space.

Oh come on, in their garden from time to time is pretty normal. We often have two or three neighbours’ competing music on a weekend. Occasionally playing music in the garden isn’t too antisocial.

Certainly not on a par with over 2 hours a day of random basketball bouncing. The poor neighbours must have been going spare!

How about your son plays basketball when he wants and they listen to music when they want and you all just chill out and let people enjoy their homes?

Why do you feel that you are reasonable to make noise that affects your neighbours but they are unreasonable to make noise that affects you?

You've said there that you're not saying you agree with the overwhelming majority and I'm interested why you feel that them being disturbed is reasonable but you being disturbed, for the same amount of time isn't.

It is easier to bear a noise when you have control over it, your neighbours haven't had control over the noise from your family, but you expect to have control over the noise from theirs.

This is why people are telling you that you lack self awareness, because you are discounting anyone else completely except your own feelings and those of your son. Society doesn't work that way, living near others doesn't work that way, it needs a level of consideration for and from everyone - or situations like this happen.

If he’s so passionate about basketball that he’s playing it for 2 hours a day why on earth is he not on a team? At least that way he’s getting to play without causing a nuisance for your neighbours.

In your house is fine. In the garden, not so much.

Well done for taking the vote onboard Op, too many people flounce when told they're in the wrong. All those years you thought they were quiet they thought the same about you, now the basketballs driving them mad and they don't understand why you've changed.
Agree a time and make your son stick to it, that way your neighbours know when they'll get some peace. And for pities sake, not first thing in the morning

@Otherstories2002 In some places they are but in most in the Northeast they're just as close. In cities they play in the street outside the flats.

I honestly can't understand how you can't tolerate the sound of background music but the constant thudding of your son playing with a basketball doesn't seem to bother you? Or does it bother you but you are willing to put up with it because it's your child making the noise and not somebody else?

I find this bizarre, had it never occurred to you that your neighbours might find it annoying before they actually complained?
Why do you think it's acceptable to let him play BEFORE school? It doesn't matter whether you think the neighbours are awake, absolutely nobody wants to listen to thud, thud, thud at that time in a morning.

You are raising your child to be inconsiderate too, he must realise his "hobby" is noisy and that early morning before school probably isn't the best time to play. Obviously he's going to keep doing it because it's fun and you've never said "not now Johnny, it's far too early and the neighbours might want a bit of peace after just getting out of bed"

You let him play basketball BEFORE SCHOOL?£??

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Do your neighbours use their garden a lot op or have friends/family over much?

Well done OP for taking the "feedback"(!?) on board, and for remaining polite in the face of some fairly venomous replies. IMO this makes you a better potential neighbour than many on here!

I was going to say that was a bit unfair on you when you said you got the basketball down to 30 mins a day but then you said 30 mins a day a few times a day. I think the neighbours are being fair enough tbh…

I thought you had a change of heart but I guess not. I guess there really are entitled people like you in the world.

You think it would be selfish to stop son but are not prepared to put yourself out. If it was that important you would change garden. Instead much better to reduce neighbours enjoyment in their home at set times.

The houses are spaced considerably further apart and they have actual spaces for playing aren’t immediately by a neighbours window.

igiveuptrying how did you find this? do you know if they really work? I’m keen to get one for myself now! If I were opalbird I’d be straight onto ordering it and telling neighbours along with that plan of apology and discussion. We had to tell neighbours how badly their son’s basketball ball thumping was. We didn’t want to stop him just make them aware and see if we could compromise like play when we’re away it was so bad. They remain good neighbours.

Then they will be able to play music at least 90 mins each day then 🤷‍♀️

OP I have very considerate neighbours. Their son likes basket ball too. He plays about once a day for about half an hour in the early evening.
If your son wants to play more than this could you find a club for him?

@Otherstories2002 I do. How is it not comparable? Are basketballs quieter in the US?

There’s is 2 hpurs

yours is 2 hours

i I mean. And?!?!