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Quiet neighbours now making noise.

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OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:48

My neighbours talked to us about the noise coming from our property. OK, my son has a hobby that does make an annoying noise. Since then we have made sure he's doing it less but we obviously aren't going to stop him completely. They haven't said anything since and I think we've been considerate in reducing the number of hours our son does his thing.

It seems like they've now decided that they are allowed to make more noise. We've been neighbours for years and they've always been quiet. Now we get occasional music or radio in their backyard. When I asked them about it they said they have always worn headphones to be considerate but they don't really like listening that way, so they thought it was fair they got to have their hobbies the way they enjoy them best as well.

Would I be unreasonable to complain to them again? There is a difference between children playing and music when they have the option of headphones.

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betterangels · 10/08/2024 08:03

I had an hour of radio during the week when I was trying to work from home last week.

The horror. Your time to try headphones?

Soontobe60 · 10/08/2024 08:03

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 08:01

He's 13 and we think it's better than screen time. I didn't think normal kid playing noise was wrong.

I had an hour of radio during the week when I was trying to work from home last week.

Have you tried wearing headphones when you WFH? Send your ds to the local basketball park where he can play an actual game with his friends.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 10/08/2024 08:02

Two or so hours of basketball noise thoughout the day?

Fuck that. I’ll be retaliating with some Wagner at full blast. Your neighbours seem positively restrained.

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 08:01

Soontobe60 · 10/08/2024 08:00

Noise from basketball playing is torture! How old is your DS? Why do people think it’s ok to put up a basketball net if they’ve got neighbours nearby?

He's 13 and we think it's better than screen time. I didn't think normal kid playing noise was wrong.

I had an hour of radio during the week when I was trying to work from home last week.

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UnicornSpace · 10/08/2024 08:01

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Monkeybutt1 · 10/08/2024 08:01

We play music in the backgarden on a nice day as do our neighbours it's just at an appropriate volume. We always have noise, kids playing, people talking having fun BBQs etc. i didn't know silence was expected 🤣
Personally I love it in summer sitting in the garden listening to the lawnmowers, people having fun etc

BobVanceVanceRefridgeration · 10/08/2024 08:00

We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive

At half an hour a time as you said that's 2 HOURS of hearing a ball thud against the ground A DAY 😦

And you got him down to this?

Wow, you are very unreasonable and I'm not surprised they took the 'fuck it's approach

strangeandfamiliar · 10/08/2024 08:00

I'm with your neighbours on this one.

DaisyChain505 · 10/08/2024 08:00

I’d rather hear someone’s radio than the continuous bang bang bang of someone’s basket ball. You’re the annoying neighbour, they’ve just had enough.

jackstini · 10/08/2024 08:00

YABVU

Basketball bouncing is like Chinese water torture - loud and repetitive; one of the worst noises there is!

Music is normal noise when you live in a residential area

Unless they are blasting it out after 11pm/before 7am it's fine

Soontobe60 · 10/08/2024 08:00

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:55

The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day. Their music yesterday was for two hours. We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive. It used to be twice that. So we've done something about it.

Noise from basketball playing is torture! How old is your DS? Why do people think it’s ok to put up a basketball net if they’ve got neighbours nearby?

BoxOfCats · 10/08/2024 07:59

Half an hour at a time, a few times a day?! That absolutely is excessive and I would be pissed off in their shoes. Basketball noise is repetitive and annoying.

ElaineMBenes · 10/08/2024 07:58

The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day. Their music yesterday was for two hours. We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive. It used to be twice that. So we've done something about it.

So they have to put up with 2 hours of basketball and you're complaining about two hours of music?
Unless the music was being played at 2am you are being very unreasonable.

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:58

OK I am obviously not in line with the majority thought on this.

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197836543q · 10/08/2024 07:57

A few times a DAY??
Fuck that! I'd be playing my music too!

RogersOrganismicProcess · 10/08/2024 07:57

Of course you are being unreasonable (and controlling). You can’t expect them to value your family’s noise and enjoyment over your own. I think the vast majority of people would rather listen to music than bounce bounce bounce bounce bounce bounce bounce bounce bounce. It’s be enough to drive you mad!

CoolSummerDays · 10/08/2024 07:57

Basketball is awful, it's a really annoying noise so, while it's not what I would do, I'm not entirely surprised your neighbours decided that they would not keep their own sound levels down.

BigBoysDontCry · 10/08/2024 07:56

Personally I don't think basketball nets in a residential street should be allowed and only total picks would allow their DC to be outside bouncing a ball like that. That's not 'normal kid playing noise'. I'm team neighbour.

If your kid enjoys basketball then take him to a park or a sports centre.

itsgettingweird · 10/08/2024 07:56

Basketball noise is annoying. However if your ds is doing it during social hours then it's something that needs to be put up with.

Other people choice of music can also be annoying. But again as long as it's a reasonable volume and a social time of day you have to just get in with it.

What does seem odd to me is that they've suddenly decided to be tit for tat and use that expression. To me that's very childish. But I'm also surprised you asked them about it tbh. They are just listening to music!

So neither of you is BU really.

But both need to grow up and just do your thing!

KimKardashiansLostEarring · 10/08/2024 07:56

A reverse = you’re the music neighbour. I don’t really understand the benefit of posting a reverse thread.

UnicornSpace · 10/08/2024 07:56

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SulkySeagull · 10/08/2024 07:56

Like fuck would I be listening to music from headphones in my own house! Since when can’t people listen to the radio in their own properties? Give over OP

ElaineMBenes · 10/08/2024 07:56

Sounds reasonable.
The noise of a basketball is far more annoying than the occasional sound of music.

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:55

NightBirdy · 10/08/2024 07:52

"Occasional music or radio in their backyard" is not an issue with noise. Neither is a child playing basketball unless it's unreasonable hours.

The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day. Their music yesterday was for two hours. We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive. It used to be twice that. So we've done something about it.

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Chemenger · 10/08/2024 07:53

Can’t your son play basketball with his friends at a basketball court rather than in the garden or is his hobby just bouncing a ball for hours?

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