Quiet neighbours now making noise.

Someone mentioned a silent basketball. You can get them on Amazon etc. It would show an effort.

If I was your neighbour I'd be volunteering to look after family/friends yappy dogs while they go on holiday or learning a new musical instrument.

They’ve reached the end of their tether.

the relentlessness of the thud, thud, thud would drive anyone crazy

So there are many options here. Sessions at a park, working more on strength and fitness that dont involve a ball, a freestanding hoop put as far away from neighbours as possible, a surface to dampen the noise.

I suspect though that given the level of entitlement, none of these will be done.

The frequency is ridiculous and before school would really annoy most I think, no one wants to start their day hearing constant thudding.

I know you have acknowledged you may be wrong but I hope that translates to actually doing something because your neighbours have been saints to tolerate that every day.

Well done for taking the feedback on board.

All I will say is, when I was younger I loved playing ball on our patio area at home. My mum came out one day and said to stop as the noise was driving her mad. I couldn't understand it and got in a strop. A few days later my sister was outside doing the same thing. Oh my God the noise! What seems like a little thud to me was amplified through the earth.

I have no idea but is there something that could be put down in the space (like that soft stuff they use in parks for kids falling off equipment) or something to deafen the noise. I appreciate that there's no hoop in the park so moving is difficult but maybe investigate softening the noise. Also, does the hoop throwing reverberate? Is the hoop near their house? There must be solutions.

Before school? So that thumping noise is happening at what, half 6? 7?

I've been up a while by then most days but still tired, and I'm only up cos I have an early riser of a child and work to get to. I do not want to be hearing "thud, thud, thud, thud" while I'm trying to pull my brain out of sleep and into the land of the living.

You do need to think about this more. You can't let your son make that noise early morning and then complain about the radio at a reasonable time in the day.

Your neighbours are applying the 'if you can't beat' em, join' em' principle.

Makes me laugh when you say it's only half an hour at a time, and then follow it up with "a few times a day"

Basketball noise is awful

A kid will occasionally walk past the house bouncing one and I hear him way before he appears. Can't wait for him to pass by

I would limit it to less than thirty minutes at a time

Does the ball hit their property or fence, perhaps even go over? If so that’s even worse than the constant noise.

Also - you know you can but a special surface that will dull the thump thump a bit, don't you? It's rubbery tile stuff.

Are they the sort of neighbours who would let you know if they were going to be out for any length of time so he could play when they weren’t there? Not that they should have to, before people jump on that, but it might be an acceptable compromise.

I feel a bit for your DS, he’s 13 and on school holidays, with energy to burn. But basketball is quite an antisocial activity when you have close neighbours. No worse than trampolines though, and there are gazillions of those.

When he's at school often once before school and up to three times after

Before school,would really really annoy me. It would wake me up.

I don’t think the basketball sounds that bad, but I don’t think the music is an issue either. It’s not like they are blasting the music out until 2am. I think both of you should enjoy your outdoor space with music and basketball.

No, it didn't "work for them".

They were making compromises and sacrifices in order to be good and considerate neighbours to you.

You have now lost that privilege and they are being as considerate of you as you have shown yourself to be of them.

How can you not understand this?

But for some reason you can't deal with a bit of radio...

A neighbours kid plays basketball and it's quite noticible. It doesn't annoy me as it's not frequent enough and I think it's good for kids to be outside. I also use a jet washer and power tools from time to time so I think it evens out.

I find other neighbours playing music much more annoying. I think it's obnoxious to play music in your garden unless it's really quiet.

The absolute worse (as my user name suggests) is people that let their dogs bark and bark. I'm not talking about an occasional short barking session, I'm talking about dogs that are left to bark for ages and ages. It's a really shitty selfish thing to do.

You've pissed them off however your lucky they seem very reasonable people so maybe have a conversation with them about if their is certain times a day that would be better for your son to play basketball depending on their work hours to see if there's a compromise somewhere. The basket ball would annoy me more then music the constant noise of a ball bouncing is one of the most irritating noises there is

My thoughts exactly. Son on a pedestal and can do no wrong, poor neighbours

The net is right next to their house but there is nowhere else to put it.

Oh baloney! You buy a freestanding hoop and put it as far away from your neighbours house as possble.

My next door neighbours have an L shaped house so walls on all sides, a stone patio, astroturf for excellent ball bouncing opportunities and terrible sound dampening, a basketball hoop, loud voices AND a trampoline for fun bouncing in between.

Do I win ?

We have never complained about it but it is so very intrusive. I don't think you realise how noisy it is, OP.

Um, four half-hour sessions is two hours. And a basketball bouncing is much more annoying than music.

What exactly are you going to say to the neighbours? It is absolutely not reasonable to ask them to use headphones in their own garden!

This. ^^

It’s like water torture.

I had a neighbour’s kid, years ago, who used a tennis racket and ball for hours against their garage wall. The thwack and thump of that wretched ball against the wall was absolute torture. Drove us mad.

Your kid needs to take his ball, more appropriately and considerately to the park.

It could be argued it's inconsiderate and selfish to not allow a child their hobby.

Oh you're one of those parents who thinks the world should revolve around your offspring.

Good on your neighbours for playing their music.