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Quiet neighbours now making noise.

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OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:48

My neighbours talked to us about the noise coming from our property. OK, my son has a hobby that does make an annoying noise. Since then we have made sure he's doing it less but we obviously aren't going to stop him completely. They haven't said anything since and I think we've been considerate in reducing the number of hours our son does his thing.

It seems like they've now decided that they are allowed to make more noise. We've been neighbours for years and they've always been quiet. Now we get occasional music or radio in their backyard. When I asked them about it they said they have always worn headphones to be considerate but they don't really like listening that way, so they thought it was fair they got to have their hobbies the way they enjoy them best as well.

Would I be unreasonable to complain to them again? There is a difference between children playing and music when they have the option of headphones.

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OpalBird · 10/08/2024 09:33

Hoardasurass · 10/08/2024 09:31

So they get woken up on school days by your son playing basketball and you think that's reasonable 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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In fairness, they are awake at 6.30. That's when their lights are on.

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OpalBird · 10/08/2024 09:32

I am thinking about how to address it with the neighbours. I have a feeling they've not said anything for months, so we thought all was well, so I'm hoping the tension over this hasn't sunk too deep over time. We've always had an easy relationship. No-one wants to live with neighbour tensions. Promising not before school seems like the easiest place to start.

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Scirocco · 10/08/2024 09:32

And this week's award for an impressive lack of insight goes to...

Hoardasurass · 10/08/2024 09:31

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 08:59

He plays on and off through the day. Yesterday it was three times. When he's at school often once before school and up to three times after. Times are random. I obviously need to think about this some more.

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So they get woken up on school days by your son playing basketball and you think that's reasonable 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

HoppingPavlova · 10/08/2024 09:31

So, your child bounces a basketball for a few HOURS a day. And you think them playing music for an hour or two is unreasonable? 😳😳😳🫤

CwmYoy · 10/08/2024 09:29

#team neighbours.

The incessant bounce, bounce, bounce of a ball is one of the most annoying noises in the world. Can you not see that?

I hope they play their music loud and long every time it happens.

Notthatcatagain · 10/08/2024 09:28

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:55

The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day. Their music yesterday was for two hours. We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive. It used to be twice that. So we've done something about it.

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That sounds like 2 hours to me. I think repeated half hour sessions would drive me nuts. Every time it stopped I'd be on edge waiting for it to start again

MrsAmaretto · 10/08/2024 09:28

Holy hell!!!! You are the neighbours from hell. I can’t even cope with the noise of my own kids playing with the basketball in the drive 😂 It’s not just the bouncing it’s that noise every time the ball hits the backboard and rattles in.

Is your son training for some county level team? Why on earth is he in the garden doing this everyday?? He needs to go an play with people away from the house.

You need to go a concrete somewhere else in your garden far away from any neighbours.

Unbelievably selfish.

Bluevelvetsofa · 10/08/2024 09:28

Isn’t there a basketball club or a basketball net in a park somewhere that he could go to?

You really are being a very inconsiderate neighbour and, if you live in a detached house, I’d bet there’s somewhere else that net could go. Repetitive noise is what can be used to break people, like water torture. I’m surprised it’s not annoying you- or is that because it’s much nearer their house than your work room?

You can wear headphones when you’re working, so you can block the music. They can’t block that noise.

alldayeveryday247 · 10/08/2024 09:27

alldayeveryday247 · 10/08/2024 09:26

He plays on and off through the day. Yesterday it was three times. When he's at school often once before school and up to three times after.

Up to three times from 4pm (at the earliest) onwards?! So up to an hour and a half in the evenings?

You're having a laugh if you think that's not incredibly annoying to neighbours, and selfish to boot.

And BEFORE school?! OP you can't seriously be so selfish that you think that's OK?

Let alone think they're in the wrong for also making noise?

Before school Ffs 😂

DarkForces · 10/08/2024 09:26

I suspect now they've discovered the joys of listening to music outside without headphones and you've been subjecting them to 2 hours of basketball at unsocial hours throughout the day you've pissed in your chips if you're thinking they'll return to silence.

alldayeveryday247 · 10/08/2024 09:26

He plays on and off through the day. Yesterday it was three times. When he's at school often once before school and up to three times after.

Up to three times from 4pm (at the earliest) onwards?! So up to an hour and a half in the evenings?

You're having a laugh if you think that's not incredibly annoying to neighbours, and selfish to boot.

Otherstories2002 · 10/08/2024 09:24

kistanbul · 10/08/2024 09:23

Let him play! It’s good for him. Can you move the hoop to the front of the house to spare the neighbours?
Sport is normal suburban noise in the summer.
But you cannot complain about the music!

Before school?

kistanbul · 10/08/2024 09:23

Let him play! It’s good for him. Can you move the hoop to the front of the house to spare the neighbours?
Sport is normal suburban noise in the summer.
But you cannot complain about the music!

Amazingideaorcrazy · 10/08/2024 09:23

Obviously yabu.

Fwiw, I don't listen to music in my garden as I do think the whole street then are subjected to my taste in music. But my neighbours do it and I have only had to mention it one time because one of them is deaf in one ear and she had it up very loud. If it's a reasonable volume and not late at night, they're totally entitled to do it.

Your ds is also allowed to play basketball. Is he hitting their house or something? That could be pretty annoying.

Coconutter24 · 10/08/2024 09:23

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:55

The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day. Their music yesterday was for two hours. We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive. It used to be twice that. So we've done something about it.

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But he’s still making noise throughout the day at points. You can’t expect them to live in silence and your son make noise even if it is reduced. YABVU

SamPoodle123 · 10/08/2024 09:19

Perhaps you can get a ball that does not make so much noise he can use half the time, like a foam ball. I get its not the same as a basket ball. But he can still do the same movements etc and not so much noise.

Wordsmithery · 10/08/2024 09:17

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:55

The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day. Their music yesterday was for two hours. We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive. It used to be twice that. So we've done something about it.

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4 x 30 mins = two hours basketball. So they were annoying for the same amount of time as you.
I personally can't bear radios outside. I want to hear the hum of bees in my garden. But I've never had to put up with a basketball neighbour which sounds quite insufferable. Like others have said, find a park.

MillyMollyMandHey · 10/08/2024 09:16

Good on them.

Staggered that you could possibly think THEY were BU

Otherstories2002 · 10/08/2024 09:15

This must be a troll post. No one can be that oblivious surely?!

WildImaginings · 10/08/2024 09:15

BEFORE SCHOOL?!

I wouldn't give you a moments peace if you were my neighbour until you sorted your child out and got them out of the fucking garden at that time in the morning.

The fact you ever thought it was reasonable for him to play outside before school shows how utterly selfish you are.

Otherstories2002 · 10/08/2024 09:15

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 08:59

He plays on and off through the day. Yesterday it was three times. When he's at school often once before school and up to three times after. Times are random. I obviously need to think about this some more.

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BEFORE school?! Are you that ignorant to those around you?!

I would be LIVID if every day some blasted kid was bouncing a ball before 8:30 every day. Absolutely outrageous.

seriesoffortunateevents · 10/08/2024 09:14

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 08:59

He plays on and off through the day. Yesterday it was three times. When he's at school often once before school and up to three times after. Times are random. I obviously need to think about this some more.

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No way! He does it before school? 😂

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OpalBird · 10/08/2024 09:12

6pence · 10/08/2024 09:05

Does the ball hit their property or fence, perhaps even go over? If so that’s even worse than the constant noise.

It doesn't go over. There are trees on that side that prevent that. One reason it needs to be there. They did understand that.

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Otherstories2002 · 10/08/2024 09:11

OpalBird · 10/08/2024 07:55

The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day. Their music yesterday was for two hours. We've got our son down to no more than three or four times a day now, so it's not excessive. It used to be twice that. So we've done something about it.

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So your son is allowed to play an irritating game for 3-4 hours but they cannot play music?

YABVVVVVU.

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