Quiet neighbours now making noise.

Have you investigated local basketball clubs? If your son could be out at a club two or three times during the week it would help, and it sounds like he would really enjoy it.

'Only half hour a time, a few times a day'.
So in an average week your neighbours spend over 10 hours listening to your little darling bouncing a basketball but you're complaining about their 'occasional' music and radio. Wow.

YABVU and if you were my neighbour we'd have come to blows a long time ago.

Are you expecting them to return to silence?

He needs to go play basketball at the park. At 14 he is more than capable of walking to the park to play. I'm really skeptical about there been no hoops at the park, every park in our town has hoops. Every park I've ever taken DD to around us has hoops, even the park in the tiny village my friend lives has a hoop. Otherwise he needs to join a basketball club or play at the local leisure centre. Hours a day of basketball thudding is not on and I'm amazed the neighbours haven't moaned before.

IMO basketball hoops (like huge trampolines with squeeky springs) do not belong in normal gardens and certainly not near the houses.

Could you not put the post in your garden and your son play on grass which would be quieter?
Personally I like to see children playing outside rather than glued to screens. However as your neighbours have already talked to you about the noise you have no leg to stand on complaining about them playing music. It's fair.

But they are still allowed to listen to music whenever they want!

You can't possibly think you're being reasonable here @OpalBird

Someone bang bang banging a bloody football/basketball around the garden and walls and fences is supremely annoying. The little girl next door (5 y.o.) did this for around one and a half minutes the other day, (kept kicking her football against the party fence,) before her mom stopped her. Even that one and a half a minutes made me like >>> because it was annoying. Thankfully my neighbour is lovely and considerate and stopped her child doing it very quickly.

Someone having it as their hobby and doing it constantly would drive me up the wall!

There are places for this kind of thing. Get your son to use them! Take him to a public place to do this, and stop being an annoying, inconsiderate neighbour!

Pave the furthest corner of your garden then move the hoop to there. It's hard to believe you think allowing your son to bounce and bang a ball, multiple times a day, right beside your neighbour's house, still entitled you to total silence from them.

Me too. We live really rural but next to a busy road. One year the people over the road from us bought their kid a quad bike and he spent all day going up and down the strip on the other side of the road mindlessly. Nothing else, just up and down that strip.

The sound reduced us both to tears of frustration and affected our MH to an appalling degree.

Eventually I went over and asked the neighbour to stop his kid from doing it eight hours a day and it got reduced.

We've been here since 1996 and nothing has bothered us like this. The road, the silaging, the animals. It's all actually quite loud but this drove us batshit for weeks to the point we had to drive away and sit in a layby as soon as we heard the bike start up.

Eventually we heard a loud bang and the thing died and is still there rotting in the hedge of their field this last fifteen years.

A basketball bouncing like that would have the same effect. Music, unless it's thrash metal and loud, would not bother me in the slightest.

If I'd tried to "take" any of my kids to the park (less than five minutes walk away in our case) when they were thirteen, they'd cringe themselves inside out and never speak to me again! 😅

Three or four times a day, half an hour a time, equates to an hour and a half to two hours of basketball.

Their music yesterday was for two hours.

Why is your son allowed to make noise for two hours a day, but they aren’t?

In answer to your question: yes, you are unreasonable. Hugely so.

Why bother? They're basically saying they can tolerate his basketball if you tolerate their radio. Sounds fair enough to me.

So 4 times a day is 2hours.
Same amount of time as the neighbours radio.

You can't actually be serious.

I havent rt whole thread but I'm going to weigh in anyway at the risk of repetition...🙃....

You can only control your response, you can't anticipate or wait for what they might do regards noise. So, take some control back and it might not feel so overwhelming. Can you wear noise-cancelling headphones for eg if their noise is disturbing you when you are working?

Reframe their noise making in your head.

It seems like they are neighbours who prefer a quieter life (they were previously quiet, they wore headphones, they don't like your noise) so that is a good thing - it means that they are less likely to ramp the noise up or become really problematic.

So say to yourself, gosh my usually quiet neighbours are a little noisy today. However on previous form, I know this won't go on forever and they will soon stop.

(They sound really reasonable, btw.)

I wouldn't have ever been wearing headphones in my own house. They've obviously thought why the hell are we tiptoeing around so much? Yabvu and self centred here.

I'm team neighbour.

I thought it was practically written in to law that you don't let your kids out before 8am!?

I get up at 5:30am - for the peace and quiet!

This thread is flabbergasting honestly!

I think you might need to go round cap in hand and apologise + offer a solution.

I could cope with one hour as long as I knew I wasn't going to hear it again all day.

OP I think the obvious solution is find a way to have the basketball hoop moved so it isn’t near the neighbours. I know this might have a cost but it’s worth an investment for good relations with your neighbours.

Utterly bizarre. Op if you can afford a detached home on a school hours job you can afford some kind of noise reducing stuff for the only place a basketball hoop can possibly go on your property. Also fascinated that because your kid has a hobby that means the whole world is expected to smile indulgently regardless of how irritating it is. And you understand noise is irritating but only when it’s someone else doing it. Really odd.

My lights were on at 6:30 this morning as DH was up early for work. I on the other hand am still in bed chilling at 9:30 with it being Saturday.

You have 2 options really, either accept DS is driving the neighbours nuts and he stops doing it. Or, accept the neighbours won't ever be considerate towards you ever again and you'll have a lifetime of music, bbq's and if you're lucky really, a trampoline will appear at some point.

You need to buy a hoop on a pole and put in the furthest corner of your garden away from everyone. He can shoot hoops on grass, not concrete required.
He needs to find a team or a club. He needs to use the facilities at school.
He needs to stop before school. That is truly unbelievable.

I would have thought that half and hour once a day is just about enough. Eight times is practically all day long.

You cannot complain about your neighbours having the radio / music on in there house/garden unless it's 2am in the morning)