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What’s pretty these days

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Starsineyes91 · 09/08/2024 22:23

Anybody else confused what counts as pretty/attractive these days.

It’s like you’re only allowed to look natural if you’re very young and naturally pretty.

Its so confusing every woman and her dog is expected to have a face full of filler and be deep orange at all times with obligatory fake black eyelashes.

I think society has forgotten what a natural pleasant face looks like, I see women with barefaced or light make-up being called drug addicts or other nasty slurs, because they have some natural texture and shadows.

Might get me flamed but some of the women doing the shaming of more natural women are plain Jane’s who have paid a lot to look like unattractive transvestites. But so many men will choose them over an attractive natural girl.

Don’t get me started on the obsession with filtered photos. Society has become so toxic for girls and women.

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Autel · 09/08/2024 22:38

You’re describing one small subset of working class British women, though, not women at large.

RaininSummer · 09/08/2024 22:33

Who are these people expecting women to be orange and full of fillers? I don't know anybody like that. My daughters aren't like that and I don't think their friends are. People who live on a diet of reality TV maybe think the world is like that. Maybe they need to get out more and ignore social media, reality show wannabes and influencers.

WingSluts · 09/08/2024 22:32

I’ve never hear anyone described as looking like a drug addict for not wearing make up. I also don’t know have anyone in my circle with a face full of fillers. But if they did I wouldn’t dream of judging or commenting.

Qwertys · 09/08/2024 22:32

The things you describe are associated with only some social groups aren’t they. It’s not all women at all. Different groups have different styles

countdowntonap · 09/08/2024 22:32

The look you’re describing is very working class British. I’m not sure when you last went abroad, but other foreign women just don’t have this look. Have been to 5 foreign destinations so far this year, including party islands like Mykonos, and the filler looks (on the whole) ends at the departure lounge.

ghostyslovesheets · 09/08/2024 22:29

Enchantedlilypad · 09/08/2024 22:27

I am 31 so still young but definitely some signs of getting older and I go out all the time without makeup, I really don't care what people think of me. I wear nice clothes that I feel comfortable in and some jewellery but I am not interested in makeup/fake tan/lip filler/botox etc. We all get older, it's natural and I like seeing a natural face, I also don't mind someone wearing loads of makeup, each to their own.

I'm 54 - still don't wear it - like you I give not one fig what people think

SallyWD · 09/08/2024 22:29

What are you talking about? No woman is expected to have filler, be deep orange or have fake eyelashes. It's a look some women go for but in my opinion most people think it looks awful!
And no natural looking woman is called a drug addict! I know plenty of naturally pretty looking women.

ghostyslovesheets · 09/08/2024 22:28

I bet this will go poof like the last one

but OP it's YOU that's judging other women - and in real life I know no one like you describe

I never wear make up and have never been called a drug addict - not sure where you are finding all this toxic stuff but maybe step away from SM

Lyricallie · 09/08/2024 22:28

Literally don’t hang out with anyone who thinks that. Maybe you need to speak to nicer people.

Enchantedlilypad · 09/08/2024 22:27

I am 31 so still young but definitely some signs of getting older and I go out all the time without makeup, I really don't care what people think of me. I wear nice clothes that I feel comfortable in and some jewellery but I am not interested in makeup/fake tan/lip filler/botox etc. We all get older, it's natural and I like seeing a natural face, I also don't mind someone wearing loads of makeup, each to their own.

HansHolbein · 09/08/2024 22:25

Do men have these conversations about other men? Or is it just women that like policing what other women do?

user1471538275 · 09/08/2024 22:24

Who bloody cares?

Why the focus on prettiness? Are we not more than things to be stared at?