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What’s pretty these days

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Starsineyes91 · 09/08/2024 22:23

Anybody else confused what counts as pretty/attractive these days.

It’s like you’re only allowed to look natural if you’re very young and naturally pretty.

Its so confusing every woman and her dog is expected to have a face full of filler and be deep orange at all times with obligatory fake black eyelashes.

I think society has forgotten what a natural pleasant face looks like, I see women with barefaced or light make-up being called drug addicts or other nasty slurs, because they have some natural texture and shadows.

Might get me flamed but some of the women doing the shaming of more natural women are plain Jane’s who have paid a lot to look like unattractive transvestites. But so many men will choose them over an attractive natural girl.

Don’t get me started on the obsession with filtered photos. Society has become so toxic for girls and women.

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Starsineyes91 · 10/08/2024 01:34

ATenShun · 10/08/2024 01:20

As it happens I'm a man and personally find heavily made up women unattractive. Several of my friends have said the same.

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Well that’s fine for you and your friends but so many women have come out and said that men they interact with compliment them on their natural bare beauty, when in-fact it took an hour of applying all kinds of makeup to achieve that natural look. Men are generally clueless on women’s grooming/beauty routines, and when they see them for the first time with a scrubbed face they are genuinely shocked and ask if they are ill.

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Starsineyes91 · 10/08/2024 01:25

Starsineyes91 · 10/08/2024 01:19

Typical

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You want me to give every personal interaction I’ve experienced or witnessed to you ? No, I’m not going to do that just to be poo pooed anyway and told I’m lying. Your stance seems very negative, I know to expect this from some mumsnet’s as they struggle to believe things outside their own personal bubble. @Edingril

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ATenShun · 10/08/2024 01:20

Starsineyes91 · 09/08/2024 22:23

Anybody else confused what counts as pretty/attractive these days.

It’s like you’re only allowed to look natural if you’re very young and naturally pretty.

Its so confusing every woman and her dog is expected to have a face full of filler and be deep orange at all times with obligatory fake black eyelashes.

I think society has forgotten what a natural pleasant face looks like, I see women with barefaced or light make-up being called drug addicts or other nasty slurs, because they have some natural texture and shadows.

Might get me flamed but some of the women doing the shaming of more natural women are plain Jane’s who have paid a lot to look like unattractive transvestites. But so many men will choose them over an attractive natural girl.

Don’t get me started on the obsession with filtered photos. Society has become so toxic for girls and women.

As it happens I'm a man and personally find heavily made up women unattractive. Several of my friends have said the same.

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Starsineyes91 · 10/08/2024 01:19

Edingril · 10/08/2024 01:14

OK please give actual examples in detail if how others have been mocked?

And unless people seek out deliberately sources that say us women have to fill our selves with fillers, plastic surgery smother fake tan and make-up etc. Where and how is it 'expected' I don't do any of it and a lot of people I know dont

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Typical

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Edingril · 10/08/2024 01:14

Starsineyes91 · 10/08/2024 00:15

I think you’ve got me confused, it’s the other way round. I find a lot of women who partake in these enhancements/image to be very judgemental to plainer women, like mocking them for having the same lips etc that they themselves were born with.

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OK please give actual examples in detail if how others have been mocked?

And unless people seek out deliberately sources that say us women have to fill our selves with fillers, plastic surgery smother fake tan and make-up etc. Where and how is it 'expected' I don't do any of it and a lot of people I know dont

DrinkElephants · 10/08/2024 00:21

Lyricallie · 09/08/2024 22:28

Literally don’t hang out with anyone who thinks that. Maybe you need to speak to nicer people.

This

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Starsineyes91 · 10/08/2024 00:15

StormingNorman · 09/08/2024 23:56

I think you probably judge more harshly than anyone else. Take a step back from focussing on how other people look and approach with kindness.

I think you’ve got me confused, it’s the other way round. I find a lot of women who partake in these enhancements/image to be very judgemental to plainer women, like mocking them for having the same lips etc that they themselves were born with.

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ghostyslovesheets · 10/08/2024 00:01

@Starsineyes91 I have 3 young adult daughters and it wasn't drummed’ into them to look like this at all - honestly I think you are viewing the world through a tiny lense

JamSandle · 10/08/2024 00:00

I couldn't care less what other people think is pretty.

Peclet · 09/08/2024 23:59

I think Botox filler face is a total
working class marker and it is very cultural.

MC or UMC here and no one has filler face and if they have any “work” done it is very very subtle and the look is more refreshed rather than “done”

I would quit the SM and work on feeling whole in yourself.

50 here no work done and feel incredible. Fitter than ever and strong.

StormingNorman · 09/08/2024 23:56

I think you probably judge more harshly than anyone else. Take a step back from focussing on how other people look and approach with kindness.

Octomingo · 09/08/2024 23:55

Starsineyes91 · 09/08/2024 23:13

North west the fake look never went out of fashion.

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Knew this would be nw! I'm on a decent wage. There are lots I know who aren't. Boggles my mind how they afford it.
Except it sort of doesn't, because I know quite a few women who are seemingly qualified to inject stuff into people's faces for less than I pay my hairdresser.

Edingril · 09/08/2024 23:53

I would say you need to get out more

Thetigerdrankmywine · 09/08/2024 23:52

I've just been to a big Greek island, to a not very British resort and I was fascinated by the number of young women with very obvious fillers/lips. Fake tan and eyelashes not so much, but very obvious face enhancements on really quite young girls. It was interesting, because I thought it was a very British thing. So boring seeing the same lips on everyone, accompanied by very straight blonde or black hair.

Goldenbear · 09/08/2024 23:47

What it has always been - big eyes, symmetrical face, oval or heart face shape, thick hair! However, to some extent completely subjective. Someone can be pretty but wear striking make up occasionally the difference is it makes no difference to their prettiness when they aren’t wearing it!

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Starsineyes91 · 09/08/2024 23:38

mondaytosunday · 09/08/2024 23:28

I don't know anyone who has the work done you speak of. Not one.
I think your average person can recognise what's naturally pretty and what's fake.

Really ? It’s rife where I am from single mums to shop/factory girls it’s become almost like a uniform.

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mondaytosunday · 09/08/2024 23:28

I don't know anyone who has the work done you speak of. Not one.
I think your average person can recognise what's naturally pretty and what's fake.

farfromideal · 09/08/2024 23:15

OK that must be very specific to your area. It's definitely not like that in London

Ketchupdress · 09/08/2024 23:15

I am currently abroad. Fake tan is deemed tacky here and most people don’t wear patterns!

I stand out a Brit with my floral dresses and my fake tan 😭

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Starsineyes91 · 09/08/2024 23:13

farfromideal · 09/08/2024 23:12

Where do you live? Where I live the orange look has not been "pretty" for many years

North west the fake look never went out of fashion.

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farfromideal · 09/08/2024 23:12

Where do you live? Where I live the orange look has not been "pretty" for many years

ForGreyKoala · 09/08/2024 23:10

countdowntonap · 09/08/2024 22:32

The look you’re describing is very working class British. I’m not sure when you last went abroad, but other foreign women just don’t have this look. Have been to 5 foreign destinations so far this year, including party islands like Mykonos, and the filler looks (on the whole) ends at the departure lounge.

I agree. I don't live in the UK and while there are no doubt a few women with the look described by OP the majority of women don't look like that at all.

Thepossibility · 09/08/2024 23:00

The look you describe is a British thing that has always confused me.
I see it parodied on SM sometimes and always wonder if they are doing it for a laugh? (I'm not there.)

Gowlett · 09/08/2024 22:47

It’s a certain look. The lips, the eyelashes, the brows. And often more. The pointy chin. Hair extensions. Fake nails.

There are plenty of normal looking pretty girls around, with lovely fresh faces. They’re just not in the media or Instagram.

But, I know what you’re saying. I was lovely looking back then, and never anted to alter my face. It just wasn’t a thing.

Nowadays though, it’s not just young women, but all women getting stuff done. It looks terrible. Look at Jennifer Aniston...

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Starsineyes91 · 09/08/2024 22:47

ghostyslovesheets · 09/08/2024 22:28

I bet this will go poof like the last one

but OP it's YOU that's judging other women - and in real life I know no one like you describe

I never wear make up and have never been called a drug addict - not sure where you are finding all this toxic stuff but maybe step away from SM

I judge them back maybe, yes but I don’t go out of my way to judge people on their looks (although I see it on here all the time, people look like loser/chavs etc) Judging women’s appearances is everywhere, look how many tabloids and online forums shame celebrities without make-up or for daring to age or putting on weight. These are the messages being drummed into our girls all the time not to mention young men and not so young men being obsessed and expecting the porn look. You would have to live in a bubble not to absorb any of it.

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