Abroad....Should have stayed at home

Just tell your husband that you want to go out and to get himself ready , why have you already finished dinner at this time of the evening

I would have a proper conversation about what your husband and son both want from the holiday before booking next time. My son is a similar age, he is not happy just sitting about at the pool for much of the time, especially with no siblings or friends with him. We have to choose a destination where there is specific things we want to see or do.

As for going back to the room early - plan to go out dinner later. You could relax in the room first and then go out about 8 and eat then. Or get a drink on the way and then eat after. You definitely shouldn't be back at the hotel that early!

Tell your husband and your son that you are getting ready to go out for dinner and will be leaving at 8pm (or whatever). Tell them you will be going with or without them, and if they wish to come that’s great. If not- so be it. Get ready. Pack a book or magazine for yourself into your bag. Go out. Have dinner. Read your book or whatever. Maybe go for a drink at a nice bar or in the hotel bar after. Sit at the bar, and chat with the bar staff, if you don’t meet anyone else you’d like to chat to.

When you get back, you very calmly and without being snide, go to bed. If asked, you say very neutrally that you had a lovely evening thanks. And the next night you do the same.

perhaps book yourself onto an excursion in the day? Look out for other single or small groups of women you might be able to hang out with.

Its not ideal, no. But you’ve got agency here- you can take control of your own happiness. They will either see that you’re unhappy and join you, because they love you and want you to be happy. Or they won’t. With a teen it’s to be expected. They are generally utterly crap on holiday 😂 I know I was. With your husband, if he’s content to leave you alone and won’t compromise - you probably have some thinking to do.

How have you and your dh not had an almighty row?
Bloody hell, we're usually only just getting back from the beach about 8pm!

Have words!!!!!

Oh that’s a shame and sounds like you all have different ways to relax.
Are you able to have a honest and undramatic conversation with them and reach some sort of compromise on how everyone can enjoy the holiday?
It may be one evening out with DH whilst DS gets to sit on his phone with chips and a coke etc - and the next one DH gets to do that, but for each evening out they have to lose any attitude and play their part.
(btw, I do understand!)

I think you need to have a stern word with your dh.

Leave your teen to do his thing but your dh should certainly take this opportunity away from the day to day grind to enjoy spending time with you whether that's via going for a walk, or a meal, or a cocktail or an ice cream it doesn't matter. Life is short & it would drive me demented being back in the room by 8pm. We would only be heading out for pre-dinner drinks then!

Their needs & desires do not trump yours so he needs to find a compromise.

What does your dh expect you to do from 8pm when he's on his phone? Stare at the wall? What time are you even having dinner??

I'd be furious that they were just sitting in the room! You need to speak up and get them out!

Are you in a hotel? If so go down to the bar on your own, if you want to be sociable then go be sociable. You don't need your dh to go with you !

I would leave them, dress up and go out.

Go on holiday with your friends instead of your family