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To stop lift sharing because she criticises my driving?

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wmbargo · 09/08/2024 18:21

Me and my colleague have started alternating car shares. Long commute we do twice a week, I do one day and she does the other.

Colleague has told me she thinks she’s autistic so I’m unsure if this is relevant. But she’s very boastful about herself (I’m such a confident driver!) and very easily puts down others. Shes done nothing but criticise my driving, I drive too slow (I do the speed limit), I take too long too slow down and I break too suddenly etc (I don’t think I do but anyway).

Now I’ve been with her when she’s nearly crashed into two cars, missed our exit because she was trying to be a dick and be in the wrong lane to cut traffic and I say nothing. I don’t like criticising people.

But I’m really irked by her criticism of me when she’s far from perfect.

OP posts:
Dillydollydingdong · 09/08/2024 18:27

I hate it when people criticize my driving. Sometimes even non drivers have a go! I've been driving 30+ years and never had an accident.

Relaxandunwind · 09/08/2024 18:27

Also “ if you don’t like my driving you can drive yourself “

Relaxandunwind · 09/08/2024 18:25

Aside from being a back seat driver, she doesn’t sound safe so I’d stop sharing just on that basis

OldTinHat · 09/08/2024 18:25

'Sorry colleague, but I'm not going straight home on those two days so you'll have to drive yourself in.'

Or

'Really, colleague? Pot and kettle. Remember last week when you almost ran into another car/missed the exit/drove up someone's arse?'

Or

'If you don't like my driving, the door handle to get out is right next to you. No? Then shut up.'

Jeschara · 09/08/2024 18:25

Say for you it is not working, she is too critical. Also it might be better for you and more relaxing to drive on your own.

ButterCrackers · 09/08/2024 18:24

Tell her that the lift sharing isn’t working for you and you can’t do this anymore. When she complains just say no you won’t be sharing the driving and that you will be driving on your own from now on. She can ask other people.

ArabellaFishwife · 09/08/2024 18:23

Drive her into a bloody wall.
Seriously, that would do my nut in. Can you not just say something? Like, 'Please stop criticising my driving. It's very distracting, which is why I don't do it to you when I notice your mistakes'.

MapleTreeValley · 09/08/2024 18:23

Try talking to her first. Say "please stop criticising my driving, otherwise I don't think we can share lifts any longer". Be prepared to remind her a few times, but if it continues then YANBU to stop the arrangement.

Yahoo968 · 09/08/2024 18:22

Stop sharing the lifts.

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