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To think that couples getting married are overly criticised by other people?

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DebateWithMoi · 09/08/2024 18:05

I just feel like couples getting married can't get anything right,

Before the day the guest list is scrutinised, the wedding party, the delegation of work, where they've chosen to get married, the cost etc ( this is a big one, lots of guests moan about the cost to attend a wedding but would they rather not be invited then? It's a wedding and it's costing the bride and groom or bride and bride / groom and groom also ), the food variety etc when asked to pick a meal. I am at an age lots of people are getting married around me and I have also and people can't help but make comments. Often they aren't directly to the couple but around them, to others etc. It seems what is meant to be such a lovely day is often picked apart for no good reason. Out of interest have you ever yourself or ever heard anyone moan about the following:

-the food
-kids / no kids
-which part of the day you're invited to
-the choice of wedding location
-the cost
-the seating plan
-your or someone else not being a part or a wedding party when you suspected they would be
-rhe music
-the weather ( this one gets me! )
-the temperature of the venue
-the seating plan
-hiw the brdiesmaids looked
-the order of the day
-the organisation of the day
-anything else

I list the above because they're all moans I've heard!

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WhatNoRaisins · 09/08/2024 18:19

DebateWithMoi · 09/08/2024 18:09

I agree! Out of interest what is it you hated about it?

The fact that it was a Monday and a distance wedding for most people requiring a hotel stay and we were just chucked out of the reception at 4pm and expected to find our own dinner. It felt like a rude way to treat travelling guests.

I don't think anything good came out me going begrudgingly.

OhmygodDont · 09/08/2024 18:16

You’ll never please everyone regardless.

But of course people might want to celebrate your happy day but it doesn’t mean it might not be expensive or way out of the way and the hotels/receptions food could be pants even if you’ve picked food options the caterer could be crap in the end.

Weddings have become this big show of perfection which honestly are very very rarely perfect. When weddings where simpler does people didn’t expect so much so there wasn’t anything to complain about as such. But let’s face it being left waiting around for an hour while a million posed photos are taken is shit for the guests no.

invisiblecat · 09/08/2024 18:15

Wedding guests have to put up with a lot when it comes to the endless nonsense that is the average wedding.

CheeseWisely · 09/08/2024 18:11

I've moaned about a wedding after the fact (not enough seats at the ceremony for all the guests, too hot to move and all outdoors so no air-con escape, transport laid on was an absolute shit-show...) but never in advance.

If I didn't want to go for some reason I simply wouldn't go, but by and large I love weddings.

LlynTegid · 09/08/2024 18:11

I think along with the general upscaling of events, perhaps some people forget the real meaning of a wedding.

DebateWithMoi · 09/08/2024 18:09

WhatNoRaisins · 09/08/2024 18:07

I think some people should just accept that they fundamentally hate weddings and not go rather than moan. I've been to one wedding which I moaned about a lot and in hindsight I should have sacked it off.

I agree! Out of interest what is it you hated about it?

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WhatNoRaisins · 09/08/2024 18:07

I think some people should just accept that they fundamentally hate weddings and not go rather than moan. I've been to one wedding which I moaned about a lot and in hindsight I should have sacked it off.