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'Sneaking' two extra children into hotel room booked for two adults and two children

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AlbertCamel · 09/08/2024 09:04

AIBU in thinking this may have implications regarding insurance etc?

Friend is off on holiday later today to a large hotel abroad with her DH and four DC aged between 4 and 16. Not a package, no meals included and flights were booked separately.

The room has a small bedroom, bathroom and living area with a sofa bed. It sleeps 4. They've booked it for two adults and two children. That's the maximum number of people allowed.

She wants to check in with DH, their two youngest boys and all their luggage, and have the two oldest boys wait outside until they're 'sneaked' in a little while later.

I think that whilst this is logistically possible, it will have implications but not sure what these implications might be. Friend thinks there's no problem with this and nobody will bat an eyelid.

AIBU in saying it's not a good idea?

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Choochoo21 · 09/08/2024 10:06

I would possibly take the risk if it was 1 night in this country and I was able to get alternative accommodation but no way would I risk it for a 10 day abroad holiday.

Why risk your entire holiday or get a big fine.
Its just not worth the risk.

The entire holiday will revolve around sneaking them in and out.

She could have phoned them up and asked for a 2 bedroom or had the 2 separate rooms.

Well done for trying to make her see sense but I wouldn’t argue about it with her.
She’s an adult and can take her own risks.

betterangels · 09/08/2024 10:06

Basically she's going on a holiday she can't afford? Sounds fun for the children. Or not.

AlbertCamel · 09/08/2024 10:05

JoanCollected · 09/08/2024 09:59

You were a bit of a jobsworth pulling her up on it. Talking shite about insurance (true but seriously!) as you’ve nothing better to catch her out on.

At the time I said I wasn't sure if there would be any implications. I said to her that I hoped there wouldn't be but mentioned insurance as a possible implication without really knowing how it could be. That's why I've posted here to see if I was being unreasonable or if there are in fact any actual implications related to doing this.

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itsnotagameshow · 09/08/2024 10:05

How is your friend planning on supplying the sheets etc to go on the lilos? This is nuts.

Mencia · 09/08/2024 10:04

I have a friend who is a hotel manager in Spain. They kick out people sneaking extra adults/kids into rooms regularly. They are offered to pay for another room or they have to leave immediately.

Cailin66 · 09/08/2024 10:04

AlbertCamel · 09/08/2024 09:19

So it happens quite frequently? Friend said people do it all the time, I just don't know anyone else who would.

Your friend is an idiot, not for sneaking them in, for putting her family in what is going to be a hell of a holiday in a tiny room. Spanish accommodation is very tight. It will be mental in that room. If we book as a family in places like Spain or France, we look at the accommodation sizes and book a larger then beds for our family group as we know how small they can be. So if it says a 10 bed, and we are say 5 or 6 we ignore the 3 beds in the living room hell, and book it so everyone has a proper bed in an actual bedroom. Not everyone can afford that of course, but no way would I go on holiday for a week otherwise. Some bedrooms in France are in 'cabines' basically it's a wardrobe size with bunk beds !! Fine for little kids, not fine for teenagers the size of adults.

Yellow2024 · 09/08/2024 10:03

I've done this with travel lodges when my kids were small. I mean it was only for 1 night but honestly we would have all squidged in together anyway. I wasn't going to pay twice the price for no reason. Smallest in bed bed with us and my other 2 in the singles.

I really couldn't get bothered by this.

We have just been abroad and booked a 2 bed room but one of my kids still had to sleep on the bloody sofa even though they could have easily fitted another bed in the 2nd room.

LaMadameCholet · 09/08/2024 10:03

Oh I let behaviour like your friend’s wind me up far too much, and I’ll be the first to admit it. I’d be livid that they’re being disorganised and cheap, furious that they’re probably stealing food - if the hotel thinks it’s got 100 guests and a few families bring “bonus” kids, the food might be in meagre supply (There - see how my blood boils irrationally? 😂). I’d also be anxious that the hotel would ask for passports and they’d get found out, and that the children would be anxious all holiday.

However, firstly it’s none of my business, and secondly we all know what will happen - the friend will come home all happy and nothing bad will have happened. People who behave like this seem to bounce through life unaffected, and they tend to have children with similarly thick skin. So all my ire will only have hurt me. 😡

I still think it’s skanky behaviour though.

CheeseWisely · 09/08/2024 10:03

I worked in hotels for many years, and still work with hotels now. The hotel's liability insurances will all be tied into occupancy.

In terms of fire, if there are 4 people on the rooming list and the fire brigade go drag out 4 unconscious individuals in a smoke filled room they won't go back looking under the beds for the small ones that hid in fright. In answer to above posts I've never encountered a hotel that allows guests to rock up with a one night stand or other additional guest. Some night staff might look the other way, but it's no more allowed than what the OP's friend is proposing.

Lastly, hotel staff aren't stupid. If nothing else your friend is unreasonable for thinking they are.

Wordsmithery · 09/08/2024 10:03

It feels to me like sitting in the pub and not buying a drink. You’re using the hotel facilities- water, toilets, pool - but not paying for them. Meanwhile the hotel owners are trying to run a business. It may not feel like a big deal on a one-family scale but if everyone did it the hotel would quickly struggle.

Mencia · 09/08/2024 10:02

Cailin66 · 09/08/2024 10:00

Not just outside Europe, we were often offered rooms in France where we put extra kids in than beds. When our children were young it was very easy to put 2 in a single bed or three to four in a double. Back when I was young my husband travelled a lot for work he had to book as a single and I'd sneak in, hotels don't have single rooms so he mostly had a double.

Does this mean Spain is outside Europe?
🤦🏼‍♀️

Doteycat · 09/08/2024 10:02

sonofrageandlove · 09/08/2024 10:01

hilarious

No thats not what it means.
Look it up.

Createausername1970 · 09/08/2024 10:01

MrsSkylerWhite · 09/08/2024 09:34

I’m thinking of DelBoy and Rodney and the holiday prize now 😁

I watched that the other day. I loved that programme. Some of the topics and the language is a bit dated, but the comic timing from the main actors and their facial expressions etc. are brilliant and make it worth watching again.

sonofrageandlove · 09/08/2024 10:01

hilarious

Doteycat · 09/08/2024 10:00

sonofrageandlove · 09/08/2024 10:00

😂 Fraud for sneaking a couple of kids into a hotel room to sleep. It’s not even all inclusive is it?

Yes, fraud. Do you not understand the word?

sonofrageandlove · 09/08/2024 10:00

Doteycat · 09/08/2024 09:59

Im not clear how you are sure it will be fine?
Its disgraceful carry on.
People on the blag make me sick and people who rob services or anything make me sick.
People who think, ah it doesnt impact me, are wildly incorrect.
It does, every single time people perpetrate fraud, id costs the rest of us.
Wake up.

😂 Fraud for sneaking a couple of kids into a hotel room to sleep. It’s not even all inclusive is it?

Cailin66 · 09/08/2024 10:00

Twoshoesnewshoes · 09/08/2024 09:13

Also depends on the country. When we have been anywhere outside Northern Europe then everyone is happy to squish little ones in. We have often been offered one king size bed for five of us in Spain, Morocco etc 😂

Not just outside Europe, we were often offered rooms in France where we put extra kids in than beds. When our children were young it was very easy to put 2 in a single bed or three to four in a double. Back when I was young my husband travelled a lot for work he had to book as a single and I'd sneak in, hotels don't have single rooms so he mostly had a double.

TheLastTimeEver · 09/08/2024 09:59

twomanyfrogsinabox · 09/08/2024 09:58

Hotels have CCTV these days, unlike in the past when once you were past reception you were home free, if they get suspicious it will be easy to spot two extra children going in and out of the room. I have asked for an extra bed in a room for two (that had no option for another bed) which the hotel did for me. Asking for two extra beds might be a bit much!

I doubt though anyone sits reviewing the cctv counting guest numbers against booked occupancy though???

JoanCollected · 09/08/2024 09:59

AlbertCamel · 09/08/2024 09:16

We actually fell out about it yesterday, well she was annoyed and said I was trying to ruin her holiday before it had even started. I was just pointing out that there may be fire/ insurance implications and for her to be aware of this.

So Spain will most likely be OK. I don't want them kicked out! However, her boys are pretty loud when they're at home and so it's unlikely they won't draw attention to themselves on holiday and full of energy and excitement.

You were a bit of a jobsworth pulling her up on it. Talking shite about insurance (true but seriously!) as you’ve nothing better to catch her out on.

sonofrageandlove · 09/08/2024 09:59

Who cares really? Why are you so invested OP?

Doteycat · 09/08/2024 09:59

Twoshoesnewshoes · 09/08/2024 09:09

I’m not clear on how it impacts you?
im sure it will be fine, a bit squishy but probably lots of fun. I put all three of mine in a single bed on holiday when they were little, they slept across the width like little fishies.

Im not clear how you are sure it will be fine?
Its disgraceful carry on.
People on the blag make me sick and people who rob services or anything make me sick.
People who think, ah it doesnt impact me, are wildly incorrect.
It does, every single time people perpetrate fraud, id costs the rest of us.
Wake up.

AlbertCamel · 09/08/2024 09:59

namechangetheworld · 09/08/2024 09:53

I'd probably do this, if we had more children and I had the balls.

There's no chance the staff would be able to remember specifics of each family staying there, and even if the cleaners somehow noticed an extra suitcase (which is easily excused away), they really don't get paid enough to give a toss.

Did your friend actually ask your opinion on the matter? Because you seem rather keen that they get found out. No wonder she's pissed off.

I don't understand the 'asking your opinion' part. When you have a conversion with a friend, after you've made a statement do you always ask, 'And what's your opinion on what I've just said?' No, it's a conversation between friends and people share opinions during conversations. I did not not share my opinion with any malice, just concern. It wasn't the fact that I offered my opinion, it was the slant of the opinion that she didn't like.

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twomanyfrogsinabox · 09/08/2024 09:58

Hotels have CCTV these days, unlike in the past when once you were past reception you were home free, if they get suspicious it will be easy to spot two extra children going in and out of the room. I have asked for an extra bed in a room for two (that had no option for another bed) which the hotel did for me. Asking for two extra beds might be a bit much!

TheLastTimeEver · 09/08/2024 09:57

If there is an issue, annoyingly she probably won’t tell @AlbertCamel . Personally I think it’s quite scummy and is actually theft. Also my idea of hell that many people squished into a small space. But hey ho.

You never really know the capacity / layout of a hotel til you arrive. So it might be very obvious. Not sure how she will get enough linens etc for the grim sweaty lilo beds.

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