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To think he really isn’t into me

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Boredlord129 · 09/08/2024 02:40

I recently met a man on a work trip. We have spoken every day for the past few months. I am back in his country and we agreed to spend time t together. He had a few days off work he stayed with me.

His home is around an hours drive away. He’s had to work again, but he said it would be nice if I joined him at his home to spend the last few days together. I agreed and said I would make my way over once he let me know he finished work. I waited pretty much all day to hear from him, he never let me know he finished work. When I asked him when he finished it was much later than he had originally said.

He never messaged me to say he had finished and replied to my message to say he had just gotten home. That to me isn’t a man trying to make the most of our time together. Would I be unreasonable to text him to say I enjoyed our time but I’d like to leave things here

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SecretWitch · 09/08/2024 03:07

Boredlord129 · 09/08/2024 02:47

Exactly. If he was into me he would be letting me know I could make my way to him. Not leaving me to sit and wonder what the plan is.

i don’t think he’s married. I think he just had enough I guess. I don’t know why he would ask me to stay with him in that case but hey

Im sorry this happened to you. It sounds like you had a nice time together but seems like he isn't interested in taking it further.

MidnightMeltdown · 09/08/2024 03:03

You are 'back in his country'? So you don't even live in the same country?! Why on earth are you wasting your time on a man who doesn't even live in the same country as you?

He probably has a partner but sniffing around in case there was a chance of a hookup

Boredlord129 · 09/08/2024 02:47

Exactly. If he was into me he would be letting me know I could make my way to him. Not leaving me to sit and wonder what the plan is.

i don’t think he’s married. I think he just had enough I guess. I don’t know why he would ask me to stay with him in that case but hey

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SecretWitch · 09/08/2024 02:45

Are you certain he isn't married? Please don't think I'm being snarky. It's one of the things that crossed my mind when it happened to me.

I'm afraid he really is not that in to you. Men who are interested move mountains to spend time with people they want to.

Boredlord129 · 09/08/2024 02:44

Is it a bit much? I’m near him, he asked me to come to his house. I have one more day and I won’t be seeing him again for months. If ever.

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PoopedAndScooped · 09/08/2024 02:42

Christ. You seem abit much!

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