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To think of uninviting her

134 replies

Forthelovagod · 08/08/2024 23:24

Invited friend on holiday with my family. She's being a nightmare and we haven't even left yet. I can't stand her negativity, abruptness and mean-ness. I have been friends with her a long time but i no longer want her in my life. She causes me nothing but stress and i realise now that she's only having a hardtime because she behaves in a way that is totally unreasonable but then adopts a poor me attitude.

We go on holiday in 2 days. Aibu to even consider telling her i cant go through with it. I can refund her, its less than 200 quid as cheap flight and small contribution to our accomodation.
Or do i have to suck it up for a week. Im actually dreading spending a week with her.

OP posts:
TwoShades1 · 09/08/2024 00:36

If you don’t want to keep the friendship then it’s totally fine to let her know that it’s no longer going to work and refund her. If you want to keep the friendship you probably have to continue with the holiday at this point.

MissEsmeWatson · 09/08/2024 00:32

The poor woman.

Noseybookworm · 08/08/2024 23:53

If she's so awful, why on earth did you invite her on your holiday? Presumably she hasn't had a personality transplant since you invited her?

Arconialiving · 08/08/2024 23:51

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 08/08/2024 23:40

“I don’t think this holiday is really what you need right now. I’ve sent your money back. Take care”.

Perfect!

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 08/08/2024 23:40

“I don’t think this holiday is really what you need right now. I’ve sent your money back. Take care”.

Littlemisscapable · 08/08/2024 23:38

If she really is that bad then you just need to do it. Just text her, return the money and move on. Life is too short to be pleasing people you really don't like and are not good and kind to you.

Forthelovagod · 08/08/2024 23:36

I'm not worried about continuing the friendship. Thank you for your response @PixiePirate

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HazelBiscuit · 08/08/2024 23:36

I think you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do to protect your family.

PixiePirate · 08/08/2024 23:30

If you’re not worried about continuing a friendship with her, I’d reply to her next negative message (which I’m assuming will be along shortly, based on what you’ve said) with something along the lines of: “Regrettably I feel our wants and needs for this holiday are not aligned and as such I don’t think we should go ahead. I’ve transferred your money back to you in full and I’m sorry if it upsets you but I think it’s for the best”.

Life is too short to put up with that on your holiday.