To ask if you’ve ever suddenly stopped talking to a friend?

I suppose to the various people I’ve just never gotten back to it feels that way but I don’t really think that I’m never talking to them, I just forget to answer a message at the time and then forget that I didn’t reply and next thing two years has gone by and it seems a bit late… usually it’s when someone has said something I don’t really know how to reply to 🤷🏻‍♀️

I completely cut off ties with a friend when they told me in 2016 that they had voted for Brexit "because of the immigrants". He is an immigrant to the UK. Just never called him again and ignored his calls and messages.

yeah I have ghosted someone.

She left a voice message cancelling on me for about the seventh time, and in the voice message told me about all the things she had been doing - gigs, parties, nights out, exactly the sorts of things she'd been cancelling on me. Her standard excuse was childcare and I thought, well, if you can get childcare for going out with all those other people you can get childcare to meet
with me - if you actually want to. I also needed to sort childcare for meeting up btw.

End of, as they say.

I did once, she was a newer friend of a few months. She revealed just how much she hated children. I mean I have a couple of friends who are childfree by choice and if people are not interested in children that is fine.

A toddler had said hello to us, that’s all in the street, her Mum said sorry she is curious, I mean the kid had just said hello and I said hello back and then had a short chat . Not a badly behaved child at all. Afterwards she went on quite a rant about just how awful children were and I mean not just that they are irritating sometimes she gave off a real vibe of hatred. I don’t want people like that in my life.

I don’t ghost people, but I have dropped the rope big time on a few people. I was having this discussion with my dad the other day. If think someone is two faced with me, and does micro-aggressions to me, then I just drop the rope completely. I’ve inherited it from him, he says things like “I don’t want to know them”.

My MIL and SIL bitch about people and family to the high heaven and have horrible politics within. As soon as I picked up on them doing it to me, I dropped the rope.

Otherwise I’ve had a few people stop talking to me on occasions I’ve asserted myself. One went very LC when I pointed out she wanted me to go whole hog on her 50th, but mine went without even a card, another when she targeted my son when hers didn’t get his own way, and another one who stopped speaking to me for why I have no clue, then started saying hello to me, to which I’ve just completely ignored ever since.

Life is too short to hang out with people who make you feel crap.

What were your reasons for doing so?

well it either happens on accident (unexpected life events perhaps) or on purpose. If on purpose, perhaps a string of disrespectful behaviour

Did you eventually reach out to them again, if so why?

For accidents - yes, because I enjoy their company. On purpose - no, because I stopped enjoying their company.

Or did they contact you?

Sure, I have been contacted too.

What happened after that?

either nothing happened, we stayed in touch with a lesser relationship, or things went to back to our normal relationship

Did you continue the friendship or choose to move on?

for the most part, if I purposefully distanced myself from them, I would choose to move on

No I've never done it. I've let things drift gradually but never just stopped speaking to someone or ghosted them. Feels a bit brutal.
I had it done to me recently by someone I have to see often (a school mum friend) and still have absolutely no idea why. It makes me feel awkward everyday but because of what I know about her personality (very bored, judgey, bitchy, prone to falling out with people purely for entertainment purposes) I really couldn't care less and take quiet pleasure in blanking her right back.

Mine was a little complex. We had been drifting apart anyway.

she came to visit me for my birthday and the whole weekend was a bit of a disaster (this was a week before my actual birthday) and she later messaged me the day before my birthday telling me about how she wanted to celebrate hers, which would have cost me over £300, so I politely declined. She then put me on her ‘3 month break’, where she basically wouldn’t contact a friend for 3 months if they ever annoyed her, so I decided to just drop the friendship when she did finally come back.

she was confused by the sudden change of dynamic, expecting me to come crawling back, but I just ignored her messages, until a few months later when she sent a heartfelt message asking what happened between us, and I responded nicely in return but made it clear that I did not want to continue the friendship

No, but I have lessened contact with one because she just cannot stop talking about herself. She’s not interested in anyone else and any meet ups just involve me sitting there while she tells me all about her life- work, friends, family… usually an hour or two in she’ll briefly ask how I am and then turn it back to herself.
She messaged a while back suggesting a coffee catch up but I just said I’d get back to her with a date and never did.

She’s had a lot of ‘close’ friends who seem to disappear, so I think everyone ends up feeling the same way. Sad really.

I've done both with the same person. I was friends with her from when we were teenagers. We lost touch for a while then found each other again, but by this point her life was full of drama, all of it her own making. She was extremely flakey & would consistently turn up 30/45mins late with no apology or excuse. The last straw was when I was on the bus on my way to meet her when she phoned me and she had clearly just woken up. So I turned around and went home again & I ghosted her.

She got back in touch a couple of years later. But her behaviour was exactly the same again. I found it exhausting spending time with her. I tried to distance myself from her again but she was continually phoning me leaving messages. I sent her a short text saying maybe we didn't have much in common anymore & wanted different things from a friendship so maybe we call it a day. She got abusive, bombarding me with messages & calls, FB messages etc. I eventually had to block her everywhere.

I have been ghosted by 2 friends, and I have no idea why. One just suddenly blocked me on everything. We'd lived together for years, travelled together, I'd been her bridesmaid. The things I wonder is 1. if she was angry I didn't ask her to be my bridesmaid - but I just had a small wedding with 1 family member as a BM and she attended my wedding and the ghosting was years later. Unless she stored it up? And 2. She didn't have children and I had. I often wonder if she was struggling being childless (though she'd never said anything) and seeing mine on social media was too upsetting. However I just wish she'd have been able to tell me and I always wonder if that was indeed the reason, why she'd felt unable to, and I feel sad if I'd unintentionally hurt.

The other ghosting was 10 years after the first, she just stopped speaking to me when I'd told her I was splitting from ex-H. She wasn't friends with my ex at all, and knew everything I'd been through with him, so had no loyalty to him. No idea why the state of my marriage would have caused her to ghost! Weirdly she just stopped replying to texts or messages, but still regularly looked at my posts on social media until I got fed up with that and blocked her. So weird.

I think I have but accidentally really & it plays on my mind often.

i was going through a tough time & hadn’t sent her a message back.

My phone then got stolen so I replaced it and got a new number. I knew her number was written down in my journal somewhere (this was at the start of Facebook days and she didn’t have it). But a mix of this and me not being in a good place, I just didn’t get in touch. She had no way of reaching out to me and we just lost touch.

i regret it to this day and really only realised it happened when it was a little too late.

I sent her a Facebook request a few years later with a message apologising but I was deleted.

i don’t blame her really.

I don’t think I’ve ever purposefully told a person that I am going to end our friendship. Have you really done that? There are people I’ve replied to less and less and more slowly. Not many people though. I’ve had someone completely ghost me and still wonder why.