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Or are they just greedy bastards?

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Fleurdalys · 08/08/2024 17:21

Made a bolognaise pasta sauce type thing with 1 kg of minced beef steak.
Onions, peppers and mushrooms added.
Have come home from work and DH and DS 18 have polished the bloody lot off leaving me with a measly ladle full of sauce
( pasta was cooked separately for clarification)
They are most of that too
Twats

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Barney60 · 12/08/2024 18:28

Personally id order a take away for myself and leave what they left you out of your home made dish for them to share tomorrow

usernamealreadytaken · 12/08/2024 08:42

Fleurdalys · 08/08/2024 18:02

It's actually really thrown together
I work full time and like to do two days worth of meals at a time
Just sautéed peppers, onion, mushrooms, chilli and a hefty gallon or two of decent pasta

Sounds lovely (and rather like most things I cook - thrown together!) but doesn't sound much like bolognese to go with pasta, more like chilli to go with rice...

SinnerBoy · 10/08/2024 15:02

seriesoffortunateevents · Today 10:20

I think it’s being compared to mumsnet chicken as there are people posting saying they get 18-24 portions out 1kg of mince,

That always puts me in mind of Laurie Lee's "As I Walked out one Midsummer Morning," where he praises the thrift of poor Andalusian women, who could make a meal for 12 out of a single rabbit.

Ladymeade · 10/08/2024 12:48

Growlybear83 · 09/08/2024 23:47

@Ladymeade this is what the OP said

To be honest what they left for me was enough for me
It's more I was hoping it would feed 3 people tomorrow too!

Didn't see that.... Was commenting purely on the original post (didn't see any update)

"Made a bolognaise pasta sauce type thing with 1 kg of minced beef steak.
Onions, peppers and mushrooms added.
Have come home from work and DH and DS 18 have polished the bloody lot off leaving me with a measly ladle full of sauce
( pasta was cooked separately for clarification)
They are most of that too
Twats"

Codlingmoths · 10/08/2024 12:20

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/08/2024 11:29

@Codlingmoths

whats that gonna do exactly? Do you think they’re gonna be that devastated about a bit of salmon they’ll change their greedy ways.

p.s you seem to be assuming it’s OP that always does the cooking - why?

Everything shes said implies she does most of it. She does also say don’t worry they make their own lunches.

i don’t think one bit of salmon will ‘devastate’ them no, but quite possibly they will both find it truly shocking that she’s cooked for one, herself, and they have to work it out. I’m sure they can cook something and order takeaway too, but they and their wallets will notice the difference between loving mum and wife cooking and having to do it yourself. If I were the op, I’d be on a cooking for others holiday until I felt others had cooked for me sufficiently.

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 10/08/2024 11:49

graceinspace999 · 10/08/2024 11:40

Women of Mumsnet!

Why are you all calculating protein and portions?
Are men doing this in forums?

No! They’re busy wolfing all the lovely food you cooked and they couldn’t give a flying f..k
about all the mental and physical labour you put in.

Stop doing all the cooking and look after yourselves!

Exactly! All this hand-wringing about how hungry men might be and how we can fill them up. FFS.

graceinspace999 · 10/08/2024 11:40

Women of Mumsnet!

Why are you all calculating protein and portions?
Are men doing this in forums?

No! They’re busy wolfing all the lovely food you cooked and they couldn’t give a flying f..k
about all the mental and physical labour you put in.

Stop doing all the cooking and look after yourselves!

BiggieLittle · 10/08/2024 11:37

Ok I have a similar problem (dh is nearly 7 foot tall and slim, and can eat numerous portions, plus a growing teenage boy with hollow legs, and a skinny 7 year old that can easily out eat me)

I now still batch cook bolognese but use 500g lean steak mince, tons of veg, red lentils (to make up for less mince) and then I’ll also sometimes add a whole pack of cooking bacon (usually only £1) or sometimes some chorizo (usually have half in the fridge needing to be used up)

That way it makes big portions, doesn’t use as much mince and I can let them fill their boots (if there is any left over for another meal then that’s a bonus!)

Obviously the main issue is that your DH and DS were selfish and didn’t save you any!

winebreeze · 10/08/2024 11:33

TheBizzies · 08/08/2024 17:42

Mince is the new magic chicken I see

I was thinking the same 😂

graceinspace999 · 10/08/2024 11:30

Why not stop cooking for them? If they’re big enough to eat your share they’re big enough to cook their own - it’s not the 1950s and it’s not your job.

Make yourself something nice, go out or get a takeout.

Think of yourself for a change since no one else is.

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/08/2024 11:29

Codlingmoths · 10/08/2024 11:17

I’d also a nice single piece of salmon tonight op, cooked ready just about as they walk in the door, which you then sit down and eat, on your own. That is incredibly entitled and selfish and I’d want them both to regret it so much that it never happened again.

@Codlingmoths

whats that gonna do exactly? Do you think they’re gonna be that devastated about a bit of salmon they’ll change their greedy ways.

p.s you seem to be assuming it’s OP that always does the cooking - why?

seethingmess · 10/08/2024 11:19

I'm laughing at a suggestion that it's acceptable for them to have eaten your dinner as they do 'manual labour' jobs but not if they were 'office workers'. Why do some women put men who do manual work on a pedestal?

Eating someone else's share is despicable no matter what job you do.

seriesoffortunateevents · 10/08/2024 11:19

Codlingmoths · 10/08/2024 11:17

I’d also a nice single piece of salmon tonight op, cooked ready just about as they walk in the door, which you then sit down and eat, on your own. That is incredibly entitled and selfish and I’d want them both to regret it so much that it never happened again.

Goodness me, they are grown ups, I’m sure they can either make their own food or order a takeaway, it’s not the 1950s.

Codlingmoths · 10/08/2024 11:17

I’d also a nice single piece of salmon tonight op, cooked ready just about as they walk in the door, which you then sit down and eat, on your own. That is incredibly entitled and selfish and I’d want them both to regret it so much that it never happened again.

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/08/2024 11:08

Those saying it’s not the quantity they ate but their selfishness at not leaving a decent amount for OP- I think it’s both!

Urgh I mean to eat so much… you must be sooooo bloated after 🤢 grim

Fleurdalys · 10/08/2024 10:28

Princessfluffy · 10/08/2024 08:05

Did they have it with pasta or just eat the sauce?

With pasta

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seriesoffortunateevents · 10/08/2024 10:20

Noitsnotright · 10/08/2024 10:17

I think my boys could probably do this if I let them. However, I make bolognese with veg and 500g mince and it feeds 5 of us with at least one portion left over. That’s 2 large portions and 3 med/small. Maybe the posters that are surprised, don’t use as much veg and prefer meat heavy bolognese ? I don’t see it as equivalent to Mumsnet chicken

I think it’s being compared to mumsnet chicken as there are people posting saying they get 18-24 portions out 1kg of mince,

clearly in those instances it’s very little mince and a lot of veg and pasta.

i do wonder if a lot of this is about cost.

TrtseHkpr · 10/08/2024 10:20

Fleurdalys · 08/08/2024 17:41

To be honest what they left for me was enough for me
It's more I was hoping it would feed 3 people tomorrow too!

Anyway, they make cheese,ham salad wraps every morning at 6 am to take to work
I've frozen every bloody wrap in the house
Good luck with that at 6am

Well done, excellent revenge, but I'd still refuse to cook for them for the next month

Noitsnotright · 10/08/2024 10:17

I think my boys could probably do this if I let them. However, I make bolognese with veg and 500g mince and it feeds 5 of us with at least one portion left over. That’s 2 large portions and 3 med/small. Maybe the posters that are surprised, don’t use as much veg and prefer meat heavy bolognese ? I don’t see it as equivalent to Mumsnet chicken

tribalmango · 10/08/2024 09:52

AFmammaG · 08/08/2024 17:23

It’s not how much they ate that makes them greedy, it’s not leaving any for you that does.

Agree. I'm happy for people to eat their fill but if a meal is meant to feed n people then it's greedy and selfish for others to not leave any.

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 10/08/2024 09:45

seriesoffortunateevents · 10/08/2024 09:10

lol, calm cown, yes the op asked, but the absolute relish people are taking at abusing these men, and the offence at what they eat is ludicrous. Especially when there is so many threads urging people to over eat.

edit to add, and the point on weight is unless you’re a healthy weight, then if you’re on line slagging off someone for over eating and calling them a greedy pig, when you yourself do it. Then it’s hypocritical.

Edited

😂Well, I’m a healthy weight so luckily I pass your test. However, I do, on occasion pig out. The difference is that I don’t do it at someone else’s expense- i.e. eat all/most of what they’ve cooked with no regard for other people’s needs.

The issue is not how much any individual is eating; the issue is behaviour around shared resources. I had assumed that was obvious.

Bigbobalady · 10/08/2024 09:26

At lest they’re well fed 😅

seriesoffortunateevents · 10/08/2024 09:10

eastegg · 10/08/2024 08:12

Don’t see any offence taken in Anon’s post. They’ve simply pointed out how much Bol sauce you get from 1kg of mince, backed up by the objective measure of what recipes say. And they’re right.

Why on earth do you feel the need to bring their weight into it?

As for chastising people for how much they eat, the thread is literally OP chastising her own nearest and dearest for eating too much. Get a grip.

lol, calm cown, yes the op asked, but the absolute relish people are taking at abusing these men, and the offence at what they eat is ludicrous. Especially when there is so many threads urging people to over eat.

edit to add, and the point on weight is unless you’re a healthy weight, then if you’re on line slagging off someone for over eating and calling them a greedy pig, when you yourself do it. Then it’s hypocritical.

Clma · 10/08/2024 08:33

Nap1983 · 08/08/2024 17:54

Its both greedy and ver inconsiderate of them, id be raging!
I am however astounded how far some posters can make 500g of mince stretch…

Same! I think 500g mince and veg would be four adult portions. Those claiming they'd get more out of it must be eating like mice.

And yes, they're greedy pigs. I'd have thought eight portions from that, perhaps five for hungry men.

CurlewKate · 10/08/2024 08:22

How much they ate isn't an issue. If you're hungry, eat.

Not leaving any for you is unforgivable.

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