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To say get a life, it’s a song and she can sing it you bore?

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TipsyPoet · 07/08/2024 23:10

DD (4) goes to a swimming lesson with paid helper taking her there and meeting me after 40 minutes to take over. I pay for this.

It’s because my disabled DC has a session near that time and I can’t be in two places at once.

Anyway, my DD doesn’t use functional language and struggled quite a bit with communication. But she is a gestalt language processor and sings a lot of things because she likes the feel of it or it sounds interesting

She keeps singing ‘We’re Lelli Kelly, the curse shoes. Oh yeah! We’re Lelli Kelly, we are so cute. Oh yeah!’

Her helper keeps on telling her to stop it now when she hears her. I let it go but pulled her up on it when DD was handed over and her helper said to me ‘she really needs to stop singing that’

i said why? She said because it’s awful, so ridiculously silly and makes girls look like sparkly obsessed crazies

I was taken aback and so I said there’s really nothing that bad about it, it’s a little girl’s shoe advert.

She said ‘No. And she keeps repeating the line ‘They are so cool oh yeah, you can’t play with us!’

I said so? That’s in the advert. She just sort of rolled her eyes and left it there

I am going to have to make alternative arrangements but does anyone really have an object to the song? It’s a cute little advert for little girls. It is completely inoffensive.

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Whenthesilenceisntquiet · 07/08/2024 23:27

TipsyPoet · 07/08/2024 23:13

Sorry! Awful typos in that entire post. I am tired

Honestly though, she screams of someone who is still upset or something at being bullied. She is ‘triggered’ by ‘you can’t play with us’

I bet she was a right pain at school and not liked very much.

I don’t think your young daughter is unreasonable for singing a song, even if it gets a bit repetitive and annoying.

I think your attitude to your helper is appalling.

By the way, being liked at school does not make one a good person.

Startrekkeruniverse · 07/08/2024 23:25

TipsyPoet · 07/08/2024 23:13

Sorry! Awful typos in that entire post. I am tired

Honestly though, she screams of someone who is still upset or something at being bullied. She is ‘triggered’ by ‘you can’t play with us’

I bet she was a right pain at school and not liked very much.

What a bizarre and rather unkind interpretation. More likely she just reached the end of her patience after hearing the same song 52 times tbh.

DrFoxtrot · 07/08/2024 23:21

I haven't heard this for about 15 years! It was irritating but I don't recall 'you can't play with us'. Maybe the song has become more mean?!

MonsteraMama · 07/08/2024 23:21

It's a deeply annoying song to be fair.

The helper should be more understanding of your child's communication needs, but maybe just genuinely reached the end of her rope hearing that line over and over again.

However, how you speak about the helper is wild to me. You think she must've been a pain in school and disliked because she's annoyed by an annoying song? Did you hurt yourself reaching so hard for that conclusion?

WaitingForMojo · 07/08/2024 23:19

My dd says the lyrics are actually ‘you CAN play with us’ anyway!!

Autel · 07/08/2024 23:16

It’s natural that your DD sings it. It’s also natural for someone to get irritated by a repeated ad song. You, however, sound incredibly angry, in both your title and the way you report your own dealings with the helper. Why not just explain civilly?

WaitingForMojo · 07/08/2024 23:16

Tbh, I do think she should be more understanding about your DD’s communication needs but your attitude has lost me. It’s not a nice song and repeating ‘you can’t play with us’ is… unfortunate. It’s not something I’d want my dd copying, but equally the instructor should realise that your DD’s language needs need to be understood and that telling her to stop it isn’t appropriate.

SilenceInside · 07/08/2024 23:13

It's from an advert, it's pretty innocuous especially when it's out of context. It's disappointing that the helper cannot understand that this repetitive singing is part of how your DD uses language and that trying to get her to stop may be counterproductive.

TipsyPoet · 07/08/2024 23:13

Sorry! Awful typos in that entire post. I am tired

Honestly though, she screams of someone who is still upset or something at being bullied. She is ‘triggered’ by ‘you can’t play with us’

I bet she was a right pain at school and not liked very much.

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