To say get a life, it’s a song and she can sing it you bore?

In my experience, it’s generally the bullies who are not liked very much – it just doesn’t look that way because nobody wants to risk being their next victim.

Well aren't You a dream !

Just because someone gets paid for something, doesn’t mean they help any less.

Nurses and carers get paid, they still do the job because they care.

Her doing this helps OP out and allows DD to go swimming, which she wouldn’t be able to do else.

Sorry this has happened to your daughter.
My son is a gesalt language processor too. Whilst he can sing 1 song over and over..... and over again he also seems to home in on parts of some songs relating to how he's feeling for example he can't cope well in clinical places so seeing a gp he will sing were going on a bear hunt which he does almost all the time but he only says the bit where they find the bear so the gp closes the door and we sit down and then over and over it's "oh no it's a bear!! Back through the forest, water, grass, mud" in super fast speed aswell as struggling and wanting to leave..... once we leave the gp room it's "back to the house, shut the door, up the stairs, under the covers, we're safe now"
He uses the part of the song that's the "scary" part to express that he's scared and the relief to be out of there he's "safe now"

I can only guess your daughter may do the similar. So you can't sit with us? It's her and her worker doing something just them two and just because it's them two until you arrive she is possibly excited about that or enjoys being with her worker. The people telling you to tell her not to say that bit 🙄 hearing your daughter communicate must be amazing for you and there's no malice in it. I ovv don't know you or dd but I'd never ask my little gesalt language processor to stop saying anything.... he's got no understanding anyway unless it'd one word sometimes because he can't process it so I could say stop but to him that would mean stop singing and I just couldn't ever.

I hope she keeps singing her little jingle and you find someone new and understanding soon she deserves to be understood and appreciated.

It sounds like this is the outward sign that the relationship between the two of you has run its course. Your DD needs a different type of care, and this current lady isn't the right person. I too would find the constant repetition of a stupid song extremely irritating, but you need someone who doesn't. You clearly don't like her, and she sounds fed up with the job, so time to move on.

If you keep on treating people the way you do you will soon run out of help

I've just noticed the OP has referred to the helper as 'you bore' in the title.

This is not covering you in glory

And whatever happens, please make sure you are honest about your daughter's needs with the new babysitter.
It wouldn't be for everyone.

For money, not out of the goodness of her own heart.

Nice attitude op 🤔

The babysitter is probably embarrassed and annoyed by it in equal measure.
That's just the reality of the situation unfortunately.

You just needed to look up the lyrics to find it is you CAN play with us

She's just misheard

Well you think the helper is a bore, so a parting of the ways is for the best.

I bet she was a right pain at school and not liked very much.

This is a very unkind thing to say to someone who was helping you and your DD out.

The song is fine and it’s common for ND kids to repeat phrases or songs.
But it’s also common for people to get annoyed over it.

A quiet word with the helper would have been better than being so rude about her on MN.

Its definitely good that you don’t use her anymore.

I bet she was a right pain at school and not liked very much.

This is very uncharitable.

It's clear you don't like her very much.

Perhaps you'd be better cutting ties for her sake as much as anything else.

Well any empathy for you (not your daughter!) is gone.

You should definitely help your dd to listen carefully and hear that the lyrics are you CAN play with us.

You should definitely employ a different helper who has a better understanding of and tolerance for neurodiversity.

Thank you for letting that poor woman go so she can go and find an employer who isn't a judgemental cow.

I would have been with you about letting her sing the song, but your comments here about probably being a victim of bullying and no one liking her.

That's a horribly cruel comment to make.

Your lack of respect for the helper is obvious and I'd suggest that you find someone else to look after your child.

They are deeply unpleasant shoes the PREVENT little girls playing as freely as little boys, so the helper is right to object to them. And you sound like you don't like the helper, so yes, employ someone else, and free her from this job that is clearly not a good place for her to be

My ds had a language delay so I get the singing and wanting them to use language and letting go loud singing at times.

However I would also have put a stop to him singing something like "you can't play with us" because it's unkind and not the sort of language I'd want him to be using. Mostly because it would ultimately be isolating for him and counter productive.

The same way I'd have tried to change what he was saying if he was swearing - sometimes no words are better than any.

But you are her mum and have the choice of carer. But have you really thought through how you will handle it if kids stop wanting to play with dd because she's singing about girls not being allowed to play with her?

Have you heard your DD sing the song? Because the lyrics are "You CAN play with us" . So is your DD singing it wrong (no issues with that) OR is she deliberately mishearing /misrepresenting it?

It seems to be you CAN play with us….

We're Lelli Kelly the cutest shoes, oh yeah!
We're Lelli Kelly, we are so cool, oh yeah!
We're Lelli Kelly the cutest shoes, oh yeah!
You can play with us, we are so cool, oh yeah!
Oh yeah!