Feels like there's way too many Men on MN

I seriously question the motivations of many on the men posting on mumsnet. Yes I’m sure some of them genuinely want to discuss parenting questions but I think many of them just want to barge into a predominantly female space and get their manly opinion across, or use it as a stick to beat their wives with “look other women think you’re unreasonable” or even worse grot about on the sex topic.

can guarantee they will turn up in numbers of any threads about stag nights, sex, sex work, exploration of woman in sex work, porn

I have no problem at all with men being on here. What I DO object to is when women are sharing their lived experiences of sexism or misogyny and how to deal with it/ support each other and they come on to lecture us about how thats not how it is or try to minimise women's lived experiences or try to gaslight us into thinking it hasn't happened or that "not all men" BS.

One stupid man was doing that recently and it really made me angry. Piss off back to reddit if you want to do that.

If I wasn't about to go to work I could link to many. Nearly every post I see from man is him asking fir advice.

Yes, like the breast feeding group I went to. Many women were getting support there. Then it was opened to all and many men got support there too. Brilliant it was for them.

🤣🤣🤣 I have read 2 this week that are almost exactly that.

The sex topic is full of men which makes it unusable for most of the women on MN.

Why do men announce their presence at all? It's because they think their maleness makes their opinion more valid.

I think that's an unfair comment. I've seen many, many threads started by men where they're asking for opinions and advice from women. In fact I'd say most of the posts I've seen started by men are like this.

How is it unfair? I'd just like to see one where a man wants opinions and advice from women as I haven't seen one.

Can you link one?

I don't see a lot of women keeping their heads down on MN tbh. More a massive pile on when a man announces his presence.

This is such a stupid thread as the only affect I can see it having is to encourage more men to post. Women don't like being told by men what to do but the only group of people more likely than women to do the contrary of what they are told by the opposite sex, are good old men.

On that basis I conclude the OP is a man encouraging more men to post on MN

Yes, I do think you are being unreasonable. All should be welcome. And an internet forum like this one is not designed to be or appropriate to be exclusive.

I don't think anyone wants no men!

But there is definitely an influx of men posting about how their wives don't want to shag them anymore even though they take the bins out and he knows to not him that is the problem because the new girl at work, Ellie, she likes his jokes.

My husband manages to “talk bollocks”, as he puts it, to other men in the pub for hours at a time without any difficulty.

I have been with him when he does it and can confirm that that is exactly what they do.

I think that's an unfair comment. I've seen many, many threads started by men where they're asking for opinions and advice from women. In fact I'd say most of the posts I've seen started by men are like this.

Lol. They always start off as if they're all reasonable and me nice, but the mask soon slips.

How many of them actually female perspectives, vs how many want to be validated? Most of those male posters vanish after the first couple of pages don't go their way don't they?

At least 90%. Then there are the ones that pretend to be women, a few have been caught out for that but no doubt they return. Just pervs wanting to overshare and to get others to share stories, often by lying. Unfortunately they trawl the relationships board too and comment on any post that vaguely mentions sex.

For the avoidance of the sorts of assumptions that underlie your first post, it wasn't irritation I felt. It was concern.

I think that's an unfair comment. I've seen many, many threads started by men where they're asking for opinions and advice from women. In fact I'd say most of the posts I've seen started by men are like this.

No men would mean no PigletJohn, and no one wants that!

Really useful for men to hear things from a female perspective and vice versa

I haven't noticed any men who want to hear things from a female's perspective on here? What threads have you seen that on?

Years ago there was a "short story for children " competition on here, with the winning story to be published. I entered, and so did a friend. Have to say, we were both a bit annoyed when the winner was a man!

MN was not designed for women. It was designed for parents.

Rather depends on their motive for being here. Most are fine I’m sure, but there’s plenty with nefarious reasons for being here.

Not keen on the ones who hang about on the sex board only and then send you PMs, apart from those, I don't care

It’s a lot easier than having your irritability.