Feels like there's way too many Men on MN

I don't object to men on here as long as they keep their brains in their trousers and don't try to ''date'' us etc. etc. ! There are some good genuine men on here who never pester us!

Oh sweet summer child…

Have you not read any of their subsequent posts on those threads?

*I'm not going to link them because I've name changed since then, but I've started threads before primarily looking for female advice.

One when DD started her periods while DP was on holiday and uncontactable, one asking for opinions on why an ex kept trying to contact me. One asking how best to put women at ease if I'm walking home at night behind a lone woman.

I've also started a few threads asking for more generic advice, but of course most of the answers still come from women as that's the majority of users on the site.*

You said you had seen lots threads asking for advice from women not that you had started them.

My thoughts too ThisDog

You've announced your maleness and gone on a NAMALT rant. You are the men OP is talking about.

My comment was a comment on your general communication style.

If you're not like that then much of what is being said won't apply to you. You don't get a medal or praise for not being a creep.

Good men would have as much of an issue with bad men being here as women do. Instead of saying that, you just took the opportunity to promote yourself and tell us NAMALT. 🙄 Same old.

Well I am a man, hetero, have no children, live alone (with a cat), am 55 years old.

I find Mumset a great place for advice and info about all sorts of things (recently found some info about my new washing machine) and entertainment - AIBU is a daily visit.

I never visit the sex threads or offer advice on problems I know nothing about. I have offered some advice on writing, mental health and alcoholism (which I unfortunately know a lot about).

So I'm probably not the sort of 'problem man' the OP is concerned about.

Expect I will be lambasted for posting this - but just wanted to put across the perspective of a man who is not a sex-obsessed, arrogant, mansplaining, creepo creep.

He's probably a man 😂

They go on chats here about sex as they get a perverse kick from it

that can’t be stopped just we need to be aware

and ffs stop pandering to them for being so honest 🙄 or for being a feminist, a supportive husband/parent

The chances are if you do post on there you will receive pervy PMs.

I agree and know lots of women who feel the same, both in real life and on here.

A woman posted there about sex causing thrush and got pervy comments and PMs asking for intimate details of her sex life. Another woman was having health issues after anal sex and asking specifically for advice on how to feel better. Instead, a load of men turned up to tell her how much they love anal sex and oversharing their experiences. Then there was the whole sex chat hook up thread which contained a disproportionate amount of men, many who were married or in relationships. At that time pervy threads increased. These men spread to the relationship board too. One woman posted on the relationship board due to feeling was feeling violated that her partner had forcefully held her head whilst she was giving him oral sex. One man chimes in to say that men often have to do this because it's painful for them if their penis isn't in contact with something when they ejaculate and minimised how they poor OP was feeling. Other men from the sex board came to back their friend up when women said he was disgusting. These are the sorts of men who I'm sure most women don't want here.

And I wouldn't mind but if men wanna go on sex forums why not reddit or mens health? Why skulk on the mumsnet sex board?

100 percent. I've had a lot of gynea issues in the past causing problems in that department but could never post on there, it's crawling with them. A shame as a lot of knowledgeable women on here.

It's so true!

It's always something like "I am a man. And let me start by saying the I am the most feminist person ever. But I do think you're unreasonable to get upset about you DH watching 'teen step daughter' porn. Porn is empowering for women and just a bit of fun. You would be better to work on your self esteem issues and not be such a nag"

I'm not going to link them because I've name changed since then, but I've started threads before primarily looking for female advice.

One when DD started her periods while DP was on holiday and uncontactable, one asking for opinions on why an ex kept trying to contact me. One asking how best to put women at ease if I'm walking home at night behind a lone woman.

I've also started a few threads asking for more generic advice, but of course most of the answers still come from women as that's the majority of users on the site.

Go check out the bloke on the husband wearing underwear thread. Not engaging, not answering the question, just [paraphrasing]:

I'm an open minded bloke and your husband's sexual activity that clearly turns you off and you don't like is fine...at least he doesn't beat you

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This. I saw on a recent thread a man came on to tell us our experiences were wrong and even questioned a poster if she was mistaken about when she was born because he didnt believe she had experienced sexism/mansplaining in the work place.

Questioning if someone knows how old they are is a new level of stupidity/ignorance that shocked even me.

What about the women on here that aren't Mum's?

You can't police the internet, you're being ridiculous

Oh they do

Despite my comment above (which I stand by) do always notice that the sex or intimacy questions always, probably without exception, have a male poster weighing in. Very few seem to weigh in on the more domestic issues. I think MN moderators should have a duty to monitor male posters who appear to only be here for those posts.

Though it’s hard to police. It’s not a crime or against guidelines to be interested in sex, just as some women might pick and choose their posts of interest.

I only generally announce my male-ness when it's relevant to the thread, so if the OP has specifically asked for male opinions, or if the thread is about erectile dysfunction and I've got first hand experience I can share. I also use female pronouns for DP when I talk about her, which leads some people to guess that I'm male, when I could just ask easily be in a homosexual relationship.