I know this is a silly thread but I really need some perspective here to establish if I am being unreasonable and how to move forward.
Basically me and DP have had an argument due to poor communication between each other. I thought we were going camping this weekend, he had made plans for a playdate for DD, he was supposed to be going away for the night with work one night and asked me to join him and then nothing mentioned since, he also mentioned something about going the cinema with DS on a night we had other plans. I overheard some of the arrangements as his was talking to the kids. He also agreed to a sleepover for DS, now I was aware that he wanted a sleepover but as it was a work night and I WFH I would have said yes but they need to come after 4pm but instead DP just agrees that they can come at lunchtime so I would have 4 teenagers messing about in the house while I am trying to work while he intends to go into the office, I did say I wasn't happy that he had agreed to this so he ended up WFH also (FWIW he ended up telling them they needed to go out as they were all running round the house and he was on calls so it was disturbing him).
In the end I made an arsey comment to him saying what else have you planned that you haven't told me about and he completely flew off the handle kicking off at me saying things like he just forgot to tell me and he can do what he wants with the kids. We didn't speak the rest of the day.
Today I said to him he was out of order kicking off and speaking to me like he did and he said I was out of order for being arsey, I could have just asked him in a normal tone, fair enough, I take this on board, I was arsey but I was annoyed and I should of just asked. I went out the gym and a text war ensued which escalated to him bringing all other stuff up unrelated to what we were arguing about and then him telling me to just leave etc. I am now very upset about all the things he has said to me and how we have ended up here when all's I was asking from him was to tell me what plans he had made. He is saying its my fault and I am making him feel bad for forgetting (he does forget things sometimes).
My issue here is that I feel like I am not allowed to say anything that annoys me as it will just result in a kick off and me bring told to leave. I told him if he has other unrelated issues then they should be spoken about separately and not brought up in an unrelated argument.
AIBU? How do I handle this?