To not want partner's friends/family in my home

How was a 2 bedroom flat given to him in error? If he wanted to fraudulently let his flat out while living at your place then in fairness you probably have a far bigger problem here than just not liking his friends.

Why are you wasting your time with this user?

He wants to use you and your home and commit fraud too.

He sounds like scum.
You deserve better.

*he not hen

Well. Hen isn’t wrong that he would be absolutely mad to give up a social housing tenancy if he has any prospect of ever excercising right to but it right to acquire or in fact any worry about his long term security of tenure/ having a place to live.

The wanting all his friends over to your place though is downright weird. They can go to his or meet on neutral public trriority surely? It sounds a bit like he is trying to leverage your propert for his own gain whilst keeping his two bedder all to himself.

YANBU. And get rid of this loser bloke.

YANBU and you don’t want to move in to a shared home together or you will have no say about who he invites. You say that will be ok, but you like your privacy so which is it?

You certainly don’t need to have his friends family over!! Very very strange demand, especially when he has a 2 bedroom.

and maybe time to re-examine this relationship. It’s been five years, so you want to spend the rest of your life with this person? He doesn’t sound all that into it. Being single sucks, be trapped in a relationship where you aren’t valued is worse. Much worse. Consider if you wanted kids, so you want them to have his traits? Do you want them growing up seeing how he treats you and think that’s ok? If you don’t want kids then less of a rush, but someone better might be out there.

If this is the only oddity, then no he can’t have his friends to your place, weird he would even ask.

Well he can’t sublet his flat he can however have a lodger who he will charge more than the rent plus utilities. I bet he has thought of that, whilst probably cocklodging at yours! I don’t think you’re compatible your home is your sanctuary and private safe space. You have never had much interaction with his family friends so big red flag there.

So he has a council flat, that he’s not entitled to as it was given to him in error. Rather than exchange it for a one bedroom which is all he needs he has an empty room at the expense of, most likely a single
mother or young family.
and on top of that he wants access to your house to entertain when ever he feels like it?
he sounds entitled, greedy and exactly the sort of person who is willing the rinse the system at the expense of everyone else.

what exactly do you see in him???

For years I have asked him to rent a place together but he says he would be foolish to give up his council flat - which is a 2 bedroomed flat which was located to him in error.

Geez, I hope Nigel Farage doesn't find out!

It doesn't sound like much of a relationship. Why are you bothering?

Just say no after you have said it a few times he should get the message. If he dies invite anyone over make sure you are out and they cannot get in. Whatever you do font give him a key!

I wouldn’t buy a house with this man in fact I wouldn’t even have a relationship with him. He sounds awful and you sound too nice to waste your life on him.

I think if he likes to invite people over and socialise and you don't and don't want to meet or get to know his family and friends then you might not be compatible. If you don't want to know his social circle now I can't see why that would change if you live together and that would be unpleasant for both of you.

I'm with you OP, why is your partner treating your home like his own? Unless and until you live together (and let's face it that's unlikely) he doesn't get to invite people over to yours, especially if he will expect you to cook etc.

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You already know that is committing fraud as he shouldn’t be in a two bed place as a single person.
if you lived together then he would have fre reign to invite everyone and their dog over and you never had any time.

I think you should find someone willing to commit.
don’t buy a house with him as he will probably make you pay all the bills

Run as fast as you can and don't look back. This is not a relationship if this is the situation after 5 years. Simple as that.

Kindly, throw him back. This is not a good catch.

YANBU.

I would really reconsider this relationship. He just wants, as you noted, to use your home as "a social club". If he wants his friends round, he can have them round at his place. Personally, I find it very suspicious that he wants to invite them to yours.

I hope he doesn't have a key?

Why are you with him??
You don't seem to look like his family or friends
You don't seem to like him being at yours.
Get yourself a cat and then you won't have to worry about people in 'your space'

He just sounds like a massive taker.

Dump him and move forward.

Definitly not being unreasonable. If he wants to host his friends and family then he can in his own flat. I would also be thinking of future plans, as if you move in together and both be named on tenancy/mortgage, it could become difficult to stand your ground on who he invites in. Dont back down to his childish behaviour. Good luck

Doesn't sound like much of a relationship

Why are you together?

Just tell him no, it isn't happening. I wouldn't move in together either