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To not want to get into a swimsuit on a 4th date

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Sundaycoffee · 07/08/2024 08:23

4th date with a guy I met online and he's suggested a date at the spa (he's a member and gets guest passes) where they have an outdoor pool. Not sure how comfortable I feel parading around in a swimming costume in front of him yet. We have only kissed so far, so he's only seen my body fully clothed. I'm a size 12 and have a few insecurities about my pear shaped body! AIBU?

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Sunshineafterthehail · 07/08/2024 08:28

Sarong? Large towel? Unless you only have sex in the dark in a relationship he will see your body at some point.. And he should count himself bloody lucky if he does!!

Autel · 07/08/2024 08:25

Of course you’re not unreasonable to refuse any kind of a date. I have no body insecurities, but I loathe spas. I’d be saying ‘No, thanks. How about [something entirely different]?’

Blablablabladibla · 07/08/2024 08:25

It's important to go at your pace. Do what you feel comfortable with. Otherwise how can you trust yourself and other people if you just ignore how you feel.

I think you should work on how you feel about your body though. Size 12 is great! Pear shaped is very much in at the moment too.

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