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To no longer respond to hints

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marshlellow · 06/08/2024 21:23

"I've got some washing to do"
"Are you making a cup of tea?"

AIBU to stop picking up any of my husbands "hints" and wait for him to ask me directly?

It's really annoying. Why is he like this?

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IncompleteSenten · 06/08/2024 21:43

Or say to him look, if you want me to do you a favour I'd really rather you just ask me to help you out.

IncompleteSenten · 06/08/2024 21:42

Try asking "which one of us is 'we'?"
That worked with my husband. 😀

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marshlellow · 06/08/2024 21:40

KimKardashiansLostEarring · 06/08/2024 21:37

Don’t wait for him to ask you directly.

"I've got some washing to do"
Go on then!

"Are you making a cup of tea?"
No but if you want one could you make me one too?

I genuinely wouldn't mind if he asked me if I wouldn't mind doing the washing when I'm wfh. It's the not asking that's doing my head in.

Agree with the tea strategy

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Doggymummar · 06/08/2024 21:40

Overheard in my garden, from nextdoor for fuck sakes Paul, you're a grown man, find your own fucking shoes!

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marshlellow · 06/08/2024 21:38

He's now said "I might leave a load in the washing machine tomorrow morning"

I just diverted the conversation to the Olympics.

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KimKardashiansLostEarring · 06/08/2024 21:37

Don’t wait for him to ask you directly.

"I've got some washing to do"
Go on then!

"Are you making a cup of tea?"
No but if you want one could you make me one too?

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marshlellow · 06/08/2024 21:36

Maryamlouise · 06/08/2024 21:33

I have started doing this with the "We should do..." enter whatever task partner is clearly trying to delegate indirectly to me. Once I noticed I was just doing all this stuff I just stopped and agree instead "oh yes we should" and then do it if I really care it about and leave it if not. Not sure he has really noticed though so probably would be better to actually discuss it.

Mine is annoying me right now with "where have you put...?" enter item of his that I haven't touched. Why can't he just ask if I have seen said item or know where it is

OH I FEEL YOU. "where is the xyz" how would I know??

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DownWhichOfLate · 06/08/2024 21:34

“I haven’t got any clean running kit”. On repeat. 🤷‍♀️

midgetastic · 06/08/2024 21:34

"Oh have you - can you do mine at the same time"

" I wasn't but I'll have one if you are making one yourself "

Maryamlouise · 06/08/2024 21:33

I have started doing this with the "We should do..." enter whatever task partner is clearly trying to delegate indirectly to me. Once I noticed I was just doing all this stuff I just stopped and agree instead "oh yes we should" and then do it if I really care it about and leave it if not. Not sure he has really noticed though so probably would be better to actually discuss it.

Mine is annoying me right now with "where have you put...?" enter item of his that I haven't touched. Why can't he just ask if I have seen said item or know where it is

Flossyts · 06/08/2024 21:32

Mine says ‘would you like to insert task’
Drives me up the wall. Of course I say no. Still phrases it like this after 13 years married

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