To demand to know wtf is wrong with people who play music or films out loud on public transport

I live in a poor, undesirable area of the UK with pretty much zero immigration and I see this often. I'm not sure it's a culture clash: IMO it's a rude person thing and there are plenty of those all over the world.

God this absolutely boils my piss.

Peoples self entitlement and lack of manners or consideration has absolutely sky rocketed.

What is it with people holding a phone like a ‘Kardashian’ having a conversation on loud speaker - so everyone around them has to listen to it.

Or listening to a video on loud speaker so everyone else has to listen to it.

Things seem to have got so much worse post Covid.

I politely ask them to put in headphones. I live in a London & am waiting to get stabbed.

Massive self centred behaviour. However, I do find if addressed politely, people generally respond positively.

"I have a banging headache, would you mind turning that off, please?" Usually results in an apology and peace and quiet.

The temptation to starch the phone and hurl it out the window is strong, but most people respond better to gentle persuasion.

I so want to go to pound land and hand them out to everyone who does this - but am not brave enough!

so so so selfish not to use headphone

I was on a bus , just me and some kids at the back who were playing music out loud on their phones . So I thought I’d do the same . So I played Ace of spades full blast on my phone for them to enjoy ! I REALLY wanted them to ask me to turn it down ( I might be menopausal)

I remember when it first started happening when people first started being able to have mp3s on phones, 15+ years ago and then thank God it seemed to fall out of fashion, but frustratingly it's made a comback post COVID.

The really annoying thing is that most of the time if you say to someone (and DH and I will) 'Excuse me, can you use headphones please?' they have a set on them they could have used the whole time. I think then, some of time it's just people being too bloody lazy to get their headphones out. 🙄

Britain is known for how quiet and somewhat unfriendly we are in public . Not all countries are like that, it would be pretty weird if it was.

Japan is completely different again in terms behaviour in public.

Every country is different, our attitude I would say is perhaps a bit too reserved in public. How many threads have been on this site about kids in restaurants or those with SN. The public has a pretty low tolerance for noise. It isn’t always helpful.

Just don’t get it - woman on a packed train out of London one Friday evening conducting a Teams call very loudly with her staff; quite sensitive information being discussed. Why?? Everyone just looked at her.

I don't believe there are cultures where considerate people think everyone else wants to listen to their choice of music from a tinny phone speaker. Every culture has selfish arseholes, however.

Where I am it’s a culture clash, but that doesn’t mean those that are talking loudly or playing music mean to upset people.
The reality is most people won’t say anything, so those on the phones have little idea that it’s upsetting.
Our student population where I live, many come from countries that don’t expect silence in public, on buses, waiting in queues.
No one is in the right or wrong, but I think it helps to understand it doesn't always come from a disrespectful place.

Thoughtlessness at best, selfishness at worse.

Can I add to that builders who put music on massively loudly all day, particularly when it’s sunny and you want to be in the garden but anytime really, particularly on a terraced street where one in two people are working from home.

The culture of selfish arseholes.

It's a shame that the adjective considerate doesn't apply.

It's not really a culture clash. That's just excusing it. It's ignorance and low level bullying

The British used to have the reputation of being very reserved. With the arrival of mobile phones many of them abandoned that reserve overnight. Quite remarkable, really. Do they not grasp that the rest of us can hear every detail of the conversation, or do they not care? Confidentiality seems to count for nothing.

See also: people who conduct business meetings, job interviews and appraisals in public places. Why?

No one calls them out (hardly anyone) so they assume people are impressed/fine with it. But everyone doesn't think they're cool but knob heads.

To some people it isn’t a sign of disrespect or being rude, it’s how they communicate.

We have a large and diverse student population where we live and talking loudly on speaker phone or playing music isn’t meant to antagonise or upset. They wouldn’t care if others were loud either.

The problem is where you have some people that believe it is respectful in a public place to be quiet and conscious of those around you and others that are relaxed in public and are happy for others to be too. It’s a culture clash.

It's very much on the rise isn't it? 🙄

I was paying at the self service till in a supermarket the other day, guy next to me phone started ringing with a loud tone. At least I thought! No, he was just playing music on his phone at full volume as you would if listening on headphones. For everyone to enjoy 🙄🙄. I gave him a look but he was big and tall and so I looked away quickly.

Surely it's time to make this socially unacceptable like it is for plenty of other things? You can't drink out and about in plenty of places, on tubes etc so why not this?

It's always shite music too!

A mum and her (disinterested) daughter watching an entire Disney series on full blast via laptop on 2.5hr flight beside me. I have since bought noise cancelling headphones.

There were a couple of guys watching a video on their phone at a restaurant I was at the other day. At some point, there was swearing in the video, and I saw a couple of young kids at the next table (who had been beautifully behaved) turn around and look at them. It amused me, as it was the exact opposite of the situation I see complained about on here!

Socially inept, dragged up plebs.

Yes. I agree. The default now is what people want to do and fuck everyone else

Exactly this

Music and movies that's plain stupidity and being inconsiderate. Having full-blown conversations on a loud speaker in public, so EVERYONE would hear all the details - that's actual offence I think...