To find this apology an absolute cheek

100%!

That's vile and disgusting from them. Blaming you for being sensitive? The cheek!

I would pretend to forgive and next time she invite you to her house I'd clean the toilet seat with her toothbrush.

There isn’t a vast difference: both are horrible. One might be a little more horrible than the other but if you do either you should stop!

OP - they aren’t worth keeping as friends.

Whilst slightly different, neither is in any way acceptable!!

These are not friends. I’d never say anything disparaging about a good friend as banter or otherwise.

Send them a link to this thread so they read us all calling them bitches

Dear XXX

We are all adults. We know the difference between 'banter' and 'bitching'. If it was 'banter', it wouldn't be happening behind my back - we'd all be in it together.

I was really upset by the comments, and now I am pissed off that you are trying to make out I am over sensitive for being hurt by friends bitching behind my back.

At least own it for what it is and then maybe we can move on.

How bloody rude to talk about a friend's weight behind their back.

And then victim blaming!

I'd tell them to p*ss off!

Well it is an apology as in she says sorry and admits they shouldn't have said it. But to do it in the first place shows they aren't your friends. And she should have rung you, not texted.

As others have said, banter is bantering with you, not bitching whilst you're not
There and getting caught out - they're not friends, they're trying to gaslight and pretend it's you being unreasonable!
Good luck but chose better friends to spend time with

So, they made a big mistake and instead of apologising, they said it was your reaction that was the actual problem.

This is how narcissists squirm out of their bullying...... oh it was only banter, you are way too sensitive. NOPE!

Reply,

‘I’m sorry I bitched about your weight when I thought you couldn’t overhear me. I’m sorry I upset you and made you feel bad. I’m sorry you trusted me because I don’t deserve that trust’.

There you go, Millicent. I fixed your crappy non-apology for you. A ‘joke’ and ‘banter’ is when everyone is joining in and having fun, not when two people I thought had my back ridiculed me when they thought I was out of earshot. And yes, I agree I should leave this toxic group. With friends like you and Esmerelda who needs enemies?

Can't stand this "sorry you were offended" bollocks.

Not me automatically feeling wounded at lumpy arse, sour face, droopy tits 🤣🤣

*ducks down and hides in case I’m being spied on

They've got a bloody cheek calling you 'sensitive' for being pissed off that they were bitching about your weight. That's not being over sensitive, it's being normal - almost anyone would be upset to hear their friends slagging off their appearance.

While I think almost everyone, at some point in their lives, has said things about a friend that they wouldn't want that friend to hear, I do think the apology is what makes all the difference. If someone had overheard me saying something less than complimentary about them (although it wouldn't ever be about their appearance or size) I would have been mortified. If I were in your friend's position, my apology would have been 'I'm so, so sorry to have hurt you. Obviously I didn't know you could hear, but that's no excuse, and I know I've been a total dick. I'm absolutely furious with myself for getting carried away and making a great friend like you the subject of a horrible joke, and once again, I'm truly sorry. I really hope we can move past this, as I'd hate to lose your friendship. If there's anything at all I can do to try to put things right, please let me know - but I do completely understand if you can't forgive me, because I know I've behaved appallingly."

Reminds me of Lauren and Louis Walsh in celebrity big brother. Guys. It was totally banter. Lauren and Louis. The shortest non apology ever. They were bitchy and nasty on that show.

It’s one thing to make fun of your friend behind their back (which is not normal).

Its another thing to then gaslight that person and act like they were overreacting.

Them bitching about you should have been the first sign that they don’t like you but any half decent person would not stop apologising and feel awful!
The fact that they don’t care proves how much they dislike you.

Tell them both to fuck off and not speak to you again.

I think the only jokes here are your friends.

Hard as it is OP if you can distance you're self from them you'd probably not miss their friendship knowing how they speak of of.

People who take the piss out of others like that are usually insecure about themselves in some way.

if that happened to me I would reply and pick on a feature of theirs you find less than perfect.

so “no worries big nose/ lumpy arse/thinning hair/bearded lady/sour face / spindly leg/fat ankled/droopy tits/ we all have our crosses to bear…. No offence intended of course”

then bin them not your mates.

"hi friend..... Maybe you could explain the banter? , then we can all get what so funny. I've clearly missed the amusing part
Thx babes
( 🤬🤢 )
Your friends are not your friends you deserve to be treated better x

I would reply that they had got the wrong word- substitute "Banter" for bitchiness. You need nicer friends.

More offensive non apology than original insult.

Thats not an apology. No we cannot just agree to leave it. I think you've made it perfectly clear what you think if me.

Some people are just irredeemable thick.

Banter is mutual, back and forth. Not behind your back twisting the knife in.
pas others have said, they are not your friends. Back away and surround yourself with people that deserve your time. Life is too short to spend it around witches like that.
She couldn’t even be arsed to actually apologise, she turned it around and took aim at you again instead

I’d be so hurt. Sending love. You are better than them. I’d be mortified and apologise profusely if I was caught being horrible. You are not over sensitive to try and belittle you says a LOT about their insecurities and ugly personalities.

I'd be telling them to fuck right off.

@Jennyjen92 good for you!