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74 year old on weight loss magic solutions

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 14:07

Husband has a chest infection he's going to GP this afternoon to get that fixed. He's also going to ask for weight loss drugs.

Now apart from a belly he's very fit, still sails, cycles, walks. He wants to turn back the clock and be super slim again. Which is fine. I'm just worried about side effects, but he's done loads of research and says it's only a small percentage get any.

I've read of muscle wastage, well the heart is a muscle. Diarrhea, well he already gets that after eating, the family/friends parties/events we've had to leave because he needs a 💩

Aibu

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unsync · 06/08/2024 18:17

So he can sod off to NZ for six months with however much that costs, but you cannot spend money on something that will improve your quality of life and end your hip pain? This man cannot care for you. Another way of improving your quality of life would be to remove him from it. Why on earth do you stay?

BIossomtoes · 06/08/2024 17:52

Useruserdoubleuser · 06/08/2024 15:29

Sounds like a standard mid life crisis

He’s 74. It’s a geriatric crisis. I’d be packing his cases and looking forward to six months peace.

Frenchsplit · 06/08/2024 17:46

What a life

ItsAlrightDarling · 06/08/2024 17:42

Frenchsplit · 06/08/2024 17:37

This is so weird: why on earth are you staying with him as you obviously dislike him so much?

it’s like The Twits 🙈

Honestly there’s no point asking. She’s just going to see out her days in misery with him, moaning about him on here regularly.

Frenchsplit · 06/08/2024 17:37

This is so weird: why on earth are you staying with him as you obviously dislike him so much?

it’s like The Twits 🙈

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 17:32

unsync · 06/08/2024 17:28

Why can't you use the nest egg to get a new hip?

He'd go mental. We had an awful row when I discovered 30k missing and panicked. Turned out instead of using money from his own account to buy a new car he'd taken it out of the savings.

I do have private healthcare had an MRI consultant said that it wasn't bad enough to replace. I suspect it is now.

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unsync · 06/08/2024 17:28

Why can't you use the nest egg to get a new hip?

ItsAlrightDarling · 06/08/2024 17:26

Fingers crossed he does then!

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 17:25

ItsAlrightDarling · 06/08/2024 17:24

Genuine question, are you just going to moan about him until one or other of you dies?

Not if he spends six months abroad 😂

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ItsAlrightDarling · 06/08/2024 17:24

Genuine question, are you just going to moan about him until one or other of you dies?

Babbahabba · 06/08/2024 17:23

You have to have a BMI of 30 to get it prescribed, even privately or 27 but a list of certain conditions. Not just anyone can have it. I don't even know if the NHS routinely prescribes it.

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 17:19

bridgetreilly · 06/08/2024 16:54

I’d be shocked if they prescribe them for him.

They haven't

he's been given steroids, eight a day pills. Amoxicillin 3 times a day, a brown inhaler and a blue one. Not a sign of weight loss drugs.

He came in and moaned the vacuum cleaner was a tripping hazard in the hall, I had left it there for a minute while I did something else.

He really hates vacuum cleaners 🙄

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bridgetreilly · 06/08/2024 16:54

I’d be shocked if they prescribe them for him.

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 16:46

He's not back from GP been gone a long time so I've been able to hoover and polish in the sitting room without disturbing him.

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 16:45

Sunnydiary · 06/08/2024 16:02

Have you posted about this Prince Among Men before? The bit about forcing you to leave places early so he can 💩 rings a bell.

Please don’t let there be two of them!

Yes it's the same one. Things have improved now he cycles to Very local family events so disappears when his bowels grumble. I drive so can leave later.

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ItsAlrightDarling · 06/08/2024 16:23

Sunnydiary · 06/08/2024 16:02

Have you posted about this Prince Among Men before? The bit about forcing you to leave places early so he can 💩 rings a bell.

Please don’t let there be two of them!

Many, many times. OP doesn’t take any advice though, just continues to list his faults (of which there are many).

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 06/08/2024 16:03

He sounds like a real arsehole! I'd remind him that he married you and vowed to look after you 'in sickness and in health', and just because you now have health issues, it doesn't give him a get out clause for his marriage vows!

I too am disabled, became so only a year after getting married, we've now been together for 32 years, and my DH has loved me, and looked after me for all that time, always with a smile on his face, and NEVER makes me feel bad for the things I can't do. He's now disabled himself, and still does everything he possibly can for me. With yours, it looks like he was fine while you were healthy, but now wants to walk away. I'd tell him to get on that plane and don't bother to come back!!

Sunnydiary · 06/08/2024 16:02

Have you posted about this Prince Among Men before? The bit about forcing you to leave places early so he can 💩 rings a bell.

Please don’t let there be two of them!

Idontjetwashthefucker · 06/08/2024 15:59

Not your circus, not your monkeys

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 15:54

5128gap · 06/08/2024 15:43

If I were you I'd wave him off with a big smile on my face, and before he was even round the corner, I'd be rushing to start my own new life. There must be a million things you'd rather be doing than listen to him going on about regaining his youth and insulting you in the process? Send him and his dodgy bowels and his impotence far far away, and free yourself!

It's tempting. But his gundog puppy would have to go to someone else. I can physically manage the old one but not the puppy which deserves better. He'd be furious but I just couldn't manage

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ItsAlrightDarling · 06/08/2024 15:45

justasking111 · 06/08/2024 15:37

He's not lazy, he's up early then like a Duracell bunny until 9pm. Doing all his hobbies.

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oh well that’s alright then. What about the rest of it? You’re obviously willing to put up with it.
(I actually meant lazy in terms of running the household/cooking etc).

5128gap · 06/08/2024 15:43

If I were you I'd wave him off with a big smile on my face, and before he was even round the corner, I'd be rushing to start my own new life. There must be a million things you'd rather be doing than listen to him going on about regaining his youth and insulting you in the process? Send him and his dodgy bowels and his impotence far far away, and free yourself!

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 15:39

Useruserdoubleuser · 06/08/2024 15:29

Sounds like a standard mid life crisis

He's 74 left it a bit late. It's more of a last hurrah

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 15:37

ItsAlrightDarling · 06/08/2024 15:31

You’ve posted many times about your financially controlling, lazy dick of a husband. Weight loss drugs are the least of your worries. If you aren’t going to leave him, then I guess you’ll just have to suck this one up too.

He's not lazy, he's up early then like a Duracell bunny until 9pm. Doing all his hobbies.

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justasking111 · 06/08/2024 15:36

334bu · 06/08/2024 15:27

Will be more likely to be referred to a slimming club. After injuring myself I was referred by the physio. I have lost over four stone in 10 months. Drugs aren't necessary.

That means me cooking meals he won't want 🙈

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