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dinner buying drama

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a222 · 06/08/2024 12:18

i stay at my boyfriend and his mums house, i texted my partner to say id bought extra so he could take some to work, and i said in what i thought was a small jab and no big deal ‘make sure your mums boyfriend doesn’t take it to work tomorrow’ as i wanted him to be able to have it for his own lunch. he’s acting like i was going to actually police the leftovers…😂

he has then said im being funny about sharing food and not to offer to buy food for the house anymore!

aibu to think it’s an over reaction?

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ToothPickk · 06/08/2024 12:34

What's the setup here? Who's house is it, your BF and his Mum? Or actually his Mum?

Who normally buys the food?

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 06/08/2024 12:32

Seems a pointed and ungrateful comment on the face of it.

BadNeighbour101 · 06/08/2024 12:31

When you say 2/3 days a week, what do you buy/ offer?

BeMintBee · 06/08/2024 12:31

I think it shows a lack of self awareness on your part. Someone kindly lets you stay in their home 2 or 3 nights a weeks so it’s very ungracious of you to make any kind of “small jab”. Perhaps you boyfriend sees this and is more than happy to share leftovers with actual bill payers.

Leafygreen84 · 06/08/2024 12:29

You sound like you e got an absolute cheek tbh. Stay half the week, contribute nothing, buy food only for yourself and then accuse people of planning to steal your leftovers? How old are you?
also I’d bet my life it isn’t “your boyfriend and his mums” house and you state, it’s his mums house and he still lives there. It isn’t half his unless her splits to mortgage and bills 50/50.

Moonshine5 · 06/08/2024 12:25

Does seem a bit selfish OP, do you give his mum any money / gifts ever?

Sethera · 06/08/2024 12:22

Does the mum's boyfriend have form for taking other people\s lunches to work with him? If he's done it before, fair to warn. If not, a bit of an odd thing to say.

sweetpickle2 · 06/08/2024 12:22

Do you pay anything towards rent or bills or the house?

If you were staying on my house for more than half the week each week I wouldn't think twice about taking leftovers for whoever I wanted tbh, if that's your only contribution.

a222 · 06/08/2024 12:19

also to add i don’t stay here permanently, maybe 2/3 days a week

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