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To wonder why our value is defined by money?

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Abigail47 · 06/08/2024 10:15

I was just wondering why everyone's value is defined by how money they have.

When I went to school, all of the most popular girls were from rich families. If your dad was wealthy , you were popular. The rich girls would only hang around with the othe rich girls.

If you were less rich they wouldn't talk to you. If you were poor or from a single parent family, they definitely wouldn't talk to you.

It made me think from an early age: why is my worth/ or anyone's worth defined by how much money I have. It seems so ridiculous.

There are so many other things that add up a person's worth: such as how kind they are, how good they are at different things etc.

Similarly when I went to college, the rich people would only hang around with each other.

I lived in a small town in England growing up, and again, it was always divided by money. The rich people would only really be friends with each other.

I then moved to London, which is a lot more diverse and multicultural, however you still get wealth snobbery in some of the workplaces. And even though in the workplaces, everyone talks to each other.

After work, and in hobbies, I've seen the same thing: that the really rich people in London will only be friends with other really rich people.

I mean is it not all a bit ridiculous. How is our worth tied to money? There are so many othe things that make a human valuable.

Yet alot of people seem to think of money over everything else

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Abigail47 · 06/08/2024 10:25

MidnightPatrol · 06/08/2024 10:23

I think this probably says more about the circles you move in, than society as a whole.

I've lived in a lot of different circles.

This definitely exists. Everywhere.

I was just reading a thread on here on mumsnet last week, where a school mum said that she was left out at the school gates because she wasn't as rich as the other mothers. And they wouldn't speak to her

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distinctpossibility · 06/08/2024 10:24

Capitalism

And money talks... it's a language we all understand. Walk into any crowded place - a bar or a school - in the world, place a tenner on the floor and everyone knows what it is.

MidnightPatrol · 06/08/2024 10:23

I think this probably says more about the circles you move in, than society as a whole.

ToothPickk · 06/08/2024 10:22

It's not what I've experienced at all, and no one would know what I'm worth or earn because I don't tell them.

macaroniandcheeze · 06/08/2024 10:22

Capitalism

araiwa · 06/08/2024 10:22

It's easily observed and measured?

Geneticsbunny · 06/08/2024 10:22

You worth is only defined your wealth if you believe that to be true. I do not. Although I do have some hang ups about how much people like me so we all have our own thing that we struggle with.