To find this H comment annoying

Fucking hell, this is just horrible. You are choosing to stay with a man who gets off on humiliating you in front of his mother. It's honestly just reprehensible. Raise your standards, op.

he doesn't do it in front of other people though. only to me, and in front of my MIL - probably because he knows she will always laugh along with him.

Apple hasn't fallen far then.

Have you seen Mum the tv show? He sounds like the hideous mother of Kelly. She mocked her all the time. So childish.

Funny. You could say that each time.

He sounds really nasty. I would be seriously considering ending this marriage.

C1N1C · Today 11:29
Two sides to this coin...

Side 1 - he's a twat, and belittles you
Side 2 - you're making mistakes regularly... and if they're the same mistakes, (and even if they're not), I'd be looking into why these are happening. Over the past week, I can't think of anything my partner has 'messed up', so if milk is being left out, or say, you're not flushing the toilet, or not locking the house, the problem is more 'you', with a side of him being a twat.
or as someone said above realise that the person who makes the mistakes might be the person who does everything around the house and or he might be pulling op up on things that aren’t mistakes- milk left out- why doesn’t he put it back wordlessly?! I honestly never say things but fucking men. Why do they feel the need to point out everything, do we? Honestly do we? If dh left something out id just put it away!!!

Does he ever make you feel good about yourself? Treasured, valued, respected?
Does he boost you up?

I wouldnt tolerate those mean bullying comnents. Its repetitive, targeted and unkind, and hes the only one that finds it funny. Thats what bullying is.
Youve already told him to stop, so he knows that you hate it, and he doesn't care.
Time to read the riot act

And you are still with him, why ?

You really ought to practice telling him to fuck off. This is INCREDIBLY disrespectful. It should make you feel small, it should make you angry.

God the response to you being dressed up is horrid.
I would try I'm aware you think it's funny, but I don't I find it mean and hurtful as though you really dislike and think I'm a shit human being. Please stop doing it. If he carries on I'd look at filing for divorce I could not live with this.

wow. I love the 99% YANBU. So we agree on this one then ladies!

If you have someone constantly pointing out your faults, you will make more. My ex used to go on at me whenever I was driving (and many other times as well) and the more he commented the more mistakes I made, including some very near misses. Since throwing his abusive ass out, I've had many people compliment my driving.

Also, we all make mistakes, even the very perfect people who frequent these boards.

My Dh tried this (but nothing like the OP's H). I quickly pointed out that the only way to not make a mistake was to not do anything in the first place. So to stop my terrible behaviour I would no longer do any cooking, shopping or cleaning. I should also stop anything in the bedroom as well, just in case I made a mistake there too.

Weirdly, he didn't do this anymore. He does come from a family that appears to highlight and laugh at mistakes, rather than acknowledge anything good.

Next time tell him you wil get being a wife right with your next husband...
And smile.

That's just straight up bullying OP, why are you with this horrible man?

@Ginge88

That's awful that he criticised your make up. He sounds soul destroying. The person who is supposed to like you most doesn't seem to like you or respect you at all.

"Aren't jokes meant to be funny?"

or

"Oh give it a rest you boring fucker, you say the same thing ten times a day".

My husband didn't like me wearing make up. He was insecure too. And pandered to his mother too.

Strong men don't behave like that.

I recognise this passive aggression from a relationship I was in. He dislikes you and possibly is angry with you. My opinion based on my experience

Two sides to this coin...

Side 1 - he's a twat, and belittles you
Side 2 - you're making mistakes regularly... and if they're the same mistakes, (and even if they're not), I'd be looking into why these are happening. Over the past week, I can't think of anything my partner has 'messed up', so if milk is being left out, or say, you're not flushing the toilet, or not locking the house, the problem is more 'you', with a side of him being a twat.

Obviously, he's a twat regardless. He shouldn't be saying these things

First time is funny, the second time is funny if it's weeks later, third time it's eye rolling time, 4th time he's annoying as fuck, 5th time he just a plain add dick, 6th time is grounds for divorce (well obviously not divorce but you see my point)

Yes, respond with that! It’s really nasty of him.

I agree with saying that

Boosting your ego by trying to belittle someone else at every turn isn't something you do to someone you supposedly love.

However I'm curious does he come from a 'point scoring' family? i.e. when they are together if someone pronounces something wrong or has minor incident like knocking over a glass etc someone will rush to be the one to point it out all he he ha ha and issue the take down comment or try and recruit everyone else into laughing/shaming, so they look like billy big balls in front of everyone else. It's a kind of baked in shaming compulsive meaness. A weird perpetual clawing over each other to get themselves at the top of the pile? They'll call it banter......

You have to call it out, every time.

"You knew exactly what word/shop/item meant to say, so what was the purpose of taking the piss?"
"and exactly what did you get from making that comment?"
"we don't have to be mean to each other in this house to feel better about ourselves"
"you aren't winning anything by this weird nasty petty point scoring behaviour" "does it make your dick feel bigger or something when you try and take me down like that?"
"are you 12? this isn't a dick swinging banter contest with your mates down the park. Fuck off"
"I know growing up in your family you'd make yourself look big by belittling others but its not normal, its nasty, it makes you look pathetic"

Does he say it in front of other people? If you have guests over or your parents come to visit will he make a similar comment. Or does he save it for the occasions when no external viewers are present? And why is that?

It’s private behaviour because he is perfectly aware that he would look like a grade A cunt in front of anyone else. So he just shows it to you.

Please put a stop to this before he starts on the children. If you tell a child he's stupid everyday, you end up with a child with extremely low self esteem, who will constantly fuck up because of the unstable nature of the egg shells they are forced to walk upon everyday