To find this H comment annoying

Why are you still with this pathetic, silly little twit, send him back to his mummy, she's the one who taught him to behave like an idiot.

It's very obviously not a joke - it's nasty

“But the biggest mistake Ging ever made was marrying Mr Ging” on repeat every time he does it.

With a shrug, smile and “it’s a joke” if he complains

WTAF…..?! This is really not ok.

Have now seen your updates - ignore my post. He sounds like a dick.

sports commentary voice

"And the winner for the most convincing fake orgasms for the 6th year in a row goes to, ginge!" After every single time you have sex.

Lean it to his joke but make it about his insecurities, and if he has none, keep doing it until he's plenty. 🤣

See how hilarious it is then💅

If he needs reminding of everything, is it possible he is fed up of your nit picking so has taken to saying this as return to that?

If he is otherwise a good man in a happy marriage, I would have a frank conversation about why he feels the need to do it.

If this is not the case, then yes a clear, please stop doing that as I dont find it funny, its annoying and upsetting. What he does next, tells you what you need to know.

Why do so many posters who say their husband treats them badly, always say he's a 'great dad?'

A man is NOT a 'great dad' if he showing contempt, disrespect, and rudeness towards the childrens mother.

You could try responding with "And that's the 456th time Ginge'sH has come out with that incredibly unoriginal comment today. Also the 988th time this week that he's made himself sound like an inadequate twat with a small dick and no sense of humour."

He sounds like an utter spiteful bellend

"You need to listen to your husband more" would have me responding with "if my husband tried to be less of a know-all twat, I might just do that"

I hate that spineless “I’m only joking” shit cowards resort to when they want to have a dig at someone but are terrified of retaliation.

Ask him why it’s funny and if he’d find you saying similar about him as funny. Say you’re not going as it’s beneath you because you’re not a pathetic coward and tries to conceal his own many flaws and inadequacies by constantly belittling someone else.

So he is constantly demeaning you. And that’s BECAUSE you have the high powered job, do all the thinking work and bring more to the table than him. The first thing you need to do, is to recognise this.

Is he really a good dad @Ginge88? How old are your kids? It's not how he should be teaching them to treat you or other women. And I bet when they're older he'll start bringing them into his 'jokes' and laughing at you too. It's disrespectful.

Oh god I missed this post. What a weirdo! Patronising you like you're a little kid. Does he really expect you to think that he's never seen blusher before? I think you need to try and respond in the moment - shut it down calmly there and then. Look him dead in the eye and tell him he's being really odd.

Urgh. Don't some men think they're funny?!

Up to about a decade ago, DH had a habit of coming out with the same stories/anecdotes/folklore from 20+ years ago when we first met. Used to drag something up that I did (that was a bit daft or 'wrong,') and was bent double laughing at that thing I got 'wrong' in 1996, and I was like 😐 because I didn't get why he was still mentioning in 20 years later. It wasn't particularly funny then, and it isn't funny 20 years on.

A few times he did this kind of thing , my DC looked at him like >>> and said 'dad, you do realise right, that this is probably the 20th time I have heard you repeat this same thing over the years, and it's not even funny!' My younger DC told him to stop being a dick' when he brought up and laughed at something I did 10 years earlier. Since my DC pulled him up a few times, (maybe 10 years ago,) he started doing it much less. Hardly at all now.

When I pulled him up on it (some years ago,) he gave a similar reaction to the OP's husband and said 'don't be daft, I'm only joking!' As has been said, it's not funny if the only person laughing is the one who told the 'joke,' or made the comment. Bit annoying that it took our DC (when they were in their mid teens,) to let him know he was being a dick, for him to stop it.

But yeah @Ginge88 your DH sounds exhausting, and I don't think I could be with someone long-term who refused to stop this. It's humiliating and rude, and is a really dickish thing to do to a person. No-one should be doing this to someone they profess to love. It's always men that do it too. 🙄

Husbands are meant to actually like you, you know that, right? I read some threads on this page and simply can’t believe what I’m reading at times.

Sounds like he's actually feeling inadequate, and this is his immature way of boosting himself up, at your expense. Yanbu to hate it.

When I heard him say it I'd probably roll my eyes and ask him who he thinks he is talking to when he says things like this. Make him sound like a weirdo for doing it, because it doesn't sound like he'll stop out of kindness.

I would leave a partner who did this.

It's such a mocking contemptful way to behave, it's not a funny joke, where is the actual humour

hahaha

My favourite phrase when DH is being a dick is"feel free". "Feel free to put the milk back in the fridge without expecting an Olympic medal", "Feel free to do your own laundry" etc etc. Tends to work quite quickly

Are you married to David Brent?

He should give up.his day job and go on stage

You are choosing to stay

@Ginge88 posted at 9.48 this morning, it's been just over a couple of hours. Give her a chance to process her thoughts at least. And perhaps criticise the husband rather than his victim.

I'm worried that you kind of agree with him, OP, that if you retaliate he says YOU are causing conflict. No, it is NOT you causing conflict, this is all on him. He is a nasty bullying twat. He thinks he is being oh so clever and bullying 'under the radar' and outwitting you so that you don't even know you're being abused. Stuff that. What a complete and utter wanker. Vile.