Someone’s been in my bedroom

Hopefully the snooping was just done by a female neighbour.

Does anyone remember The UK Queen's Canadian Pilot who was convicted of various awful crimes including the theft of women's underwear?

Col. Russell Williams

He took pics of himself rammed into small underwear that he had broken into houses for and stolen plus far worse crimes- A horrible beast of a man.

The fact he had a position of responsibility and ''trust'' in Canada made it worse in a way.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1321764/Pilot-Colonel-Russell-Williams-broke-girls-bedrooms-steal-underwear.html

You mention the children being very young, do you think she has taken a child or even both with her once when she came to feed kitty
is it possible neighbour went into bedroom and saw cat there, sat on bed whilst stroking the cat
and the children were ' naughty ' and opened a drawer / more than one drawer and were being nosy children and of course neighbour stopped them but didn't know that items had been moved.

One of our cats has learned to open bedside table drawers. Only those - larger ones are too heavy for her. But she does it quite regularly, often when we are out and she’s bored.

Made me think of Parasite.

This could work well if said casually.

My moneys on the neighbours husband 🤮

You're welcome to think what you like, it's up to the OP what she does.

I think she's going to have to be a bit more direct.

Not sure if it's still on, but Netflix had a horror movie called I See You. Which was about a young couple phrogging in a family's loft and also in their unused spare bedroom. If any of drawers were open I could've pinpointed the culprit straight away. Black white and furry and liked to drag items of clothing only partially out of the drawers. He also liked to open the drawer up under my bed and move everything around to make a comfortable spot for snoozing in. Not sure great during the night when he would then wake up and demand food and I would crack my ankle on the side of the drawer. Nor when he'd climb inside when I was at home and pull it shut as he climbed under the bed and I'd be left wondering where he was when I got back home. Although a quick rustle of a crisp packet and I could soon pinpoint the little miaows coming from under my bed

The point is not the cat being nervous of her, the point is to find out whether or not her husband fed the cat without asking directly.

Just adding to the people living in lofts stories…..

I don’t remember where I read it, either on here or another group but a woman who was a secondary school teacher posted that she was in her room marking one afternoon after school when a man suddenly dropped down from the ceiling. She asked him something along the lines of ‘what the fuck’ and he ran off. She told the caretaker, headteacher etc but no sign of him. They realised that he was living in the suspended ceiling of the school. They took a few days to track down where he was and get him out, during which time they had to close the school!
She linked to a news report on it. I don’t remember where is was now, somewhere in Essex I think.

edit.

found it. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/london/4616802.stm

Maybe try, ‘thanks so much for feeding the cat, Beryl. Do I have your husband to thank as well for helping out?’

Why would the cat be nervous of her if she's the trusted cat feeder?

In our 20s mates of ours got burgled - 2 young men in their 20s police gave them third degree because no damage to downstairs door and window -they said well we are not detectives but loft is slightly off and there's a bloody great muddy footprint on wall by it - turned out entire block had been done though lofts - son of a resident with previous convictions turned out to be the guy responsible. They were just told to fit bolts to the lofts in future.

I'd ask casually if the cat is ok with her and her husband as the cat can be a bit nervous of men/other people . . . just watch her face. I would put money on it being him, not her.

It's just being respectful for someone else's home. They also returned the favour when she went away feeding her cat.

A family member looked after 1 of our pet's and lost it. I've never trusted anyone since. I get a pet sitter for our rabbits. A couple of pet shops do it.

Most likely explanation is that your neighbour decided to have a nose around. A lot of people are very nosey indeed, but its a hidden vice because its so taboo. I'm sure you know your mum well enough to know whether she's the type or not as you lived with her for years so would presumably have caught her in similar snooping at some previous point if it was her.

Honestly out of the culprits-

Neighbour
Neighbours dh
Your mum
Neighbours dd

I'd say Neighbour, I don't think teens or men care about a women's drawers (unless the man is a perv obviously) your mum could do it any time.

We have a lock on our bedroom door which we only use when going away. While I can't imagine he'd be bothered, it does give confidence that our lodger wouldn't do any snooping while we are away. We are required to keep our work laptops secure when we are away so it helps with that too.

It would be very awkward to ask your neighbour about it and it could do irreparable damage to your friendship if you were wrong so I'd probably just leave it and take precautions for the future. Change the door handle for a lockable one and maybe put a camera in place next time. I'd quite happily ask my Mum if it was her, I know she's very nosy anyway!

I think you probably imagined it.

I would change the locks, in case a copy of your key had been made. And rethink before you go away again - get those cameras!

A friend once found a dusty shoe print on a table in an upstairs bedroom. Long story, the occupant of the attached semi had found a way through their attic to my friends and taken a nose around while they were out.

While it sounds like some depraved sexual act, it is in fact the act of living secretly in someone’s home. There are a few noted cases of it online. Usually people get in and live in lofts. The cases I’ve read of involve homeless people, not looking to do any harm, but still creepy.

https://amp.theguardian.com/world/2008/may/31/japan

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/16114459/there-was-a-man-secretly-living-in-my-house/amp/

It will be a man. Probably neighbour's husband.