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Someone’s been in my bedroom

287 replies

Hakunamatoto · 06/08/2024 00:13

This isn’t really an AIBU but I didn’t know where to put it. Sorry.

Just back from a long weekend away tonight. Kids are on holiday with my ex-DH so the house was empty. Neighbour had a key to feed the cat.

Someone’s been in my bedroom. The bed has clearly been sat on, and there are things out of place in my bedside drawer, my knicker drawer and my desk.

I’m absolutely mortified and feel violated. There are things in my drawers that are extremely private. I don’t know what to do. Nothing is missing that I can see (there was a £50 in cash in the drawer by my bed so that would’ve been easily visible). The only other person with a key to my house is my mum (and ex-DU but he is abroad with DCs). Neighbour is more of a friend than just a neighbour. I’m trying to think of an innocent explanation or rationalising it as just cheeky nosiness. But the thought of someone rifling through my private things is horrible.

OP posts:
Devonshiregal · 06/08/2024 00:39

merryandbrightdelight · 06/08/2024 00:34

@StormingNorman give us a clue! I'm curious but I'm too scared to Google - the Savernake Forest story still lives in my head rent free 😂

Ugh now I’m too scared to google two things…what’s the saversnake forest?!

merryandbrightdelight · 06/08/2024 00:34

@StormingNorman give us a clue! I'm curious but I'm too scared to Google - the Savernake Forest story still lives in my head rent free 😂

StormingNorman · 06/08/2024 00:30

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 06/08/2024 00:22

What is phrogging? <<scared to Google>>

Don’t do it. I won’t be sleeping tonight 😂

OP if this was me, it would 100% be my mum.

RogueFemale · 06/08/2024 00:27

Neighbour/friend and your mum have keys. One or both of them did it.

loropianalover · 06/08/2024 00:25

Double check that your mums not been round (does it sound like something she’d do?), then text neighbour thanks so much for feeding the cat and add ‘by the way what happened upstairs?!’ No context, no explanation. They’ll reply ‘what do you mean?’. Don’t reply, let them sweat over it. They’ll confess or they’ll avoid you, either way it gives you an answer. I’d bet money it was the neighbour, highly unlikely to be an intruder or something more nefarious.

Sockmate123 · 06/08/2024 00:23

Have you any cameras to see if anyone other than neighbour?

mommatoone · 06/08/2024 00:22

Aww god this is awful OP. I know neighbour is a friend ,but could you call their bluff and tell them you think someone has been in / there's money missing (lie) . Just ask if they saw anything before you ring the police.
Fwiw - I personally would just come out and ask them , but I appreciate not everyone is like that.
I hope you find out what happened.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 06/08/2024 00:22

What is phrogging? <<scared to Google>>

TheFormidableMrsC · 06/08/2024 00:22

This is awful! First stop, neighbour. I hope you get to the bottom of it.

TinkerTiger · 06/08/2024 00:20

Also look up phrogging. And check the loft.

TinkerTiger · 06/08/2024 00:20

Do you rent? If so it's your creepy landlord

Radarkeigh · 06/08/2024 00:15

Probs the neighbour then! Does neighbour have any family who may have done cat duties on their behalf?