Someone’s been in my bedroom

Whether I said anything would depend on how absolutely certain I was. But regardless, I would definitely change the locks for my own peace of mind and not give the key to any neighbours again. And get a ring doorbell/camera.

If you trust your mum entirely then I'd ask her about it, so you can give her the new key.

@Hakunamatoto@Hakunamatoto

Does the neighbour have DC or grandchildren. My mum used to feed her neighbours cat. If she had one of the DGC at the time she couldn't leave them on their own. She wouldn't allow them upstairs but some kids are cheeky/nosey ask if they can go to the toilet and go for a nosey around.

It will be your neighbour for sure.

Never ceases to amaze me how nosey people are - something similar happened to me, though it was a friend who was babysitting for me. Such a violation.

Some.

I can’t find the savernake story!

That’s awful! What is wrong with some people!

Check with your mum first. If she has been round I would imagine it is her. Does neighbour have a partner? Could it be them.

How awful if they definitely have
agree sounds like a key holler who is your neighbour? Is there any cameras near by that you could ask to review the footage? I am guessing you don’t? I would be checking my cameras first off as I have them all around so I could soon find out! Ask people opposite about cameras if you don’t have any

Could the cat have been on the bed? I can always tell when my cat has been laid on my bed, it looks like someone has been sat there. Are you positive the things in the drawers have been moved around?

My first house was owned by a couple who had a small business where a lot if money changed hands in two/three locations in a day. They had locks top and bottom on the main bedroom door. Presumably because there was often cash in the house.

Always locked the door if I was away. There's a lot to rifle through in a bedroom and it's a place where money and passports are often kept notwithstanding jewellery even if there isn't much. I have had them fitted ever since.

I came home early from work once to find my dear friend who was babysitting my son sitting on my bed all comfortable reading my diary. It upset me beyond words and i worried that maybe that wasn't the first time and she dipped in often like a novel. I didn't say anything in that moment but i did the next day her reply was "she hasn't seen anything then don't worry she wouldn't tell anyone what she read" we are no longer friends.

Could neighbour have sent teen/tween round to feed the cat?

I saw on Reddit that someone rigged up a camera to find that their sister had been going into their bedroom to use their vibrator.

Change the locks.

I’d really want to know which one of them it was. I don’t know how you find out though. There’s no guarantee they’d do it again.

@allbymysel 'Most people are like that.'

What a horrible thought.

I would not challenge on this (slim) evidence. I might ask neighbour if she had seen Mum.

Sure you didn't rush upstairs for a pair of socks for the plane and to grab a travel plug or something and it was you (I've done this and given myself a shock).

I was thinking along these lines - surely a sneaky neighbour would straighten the bed.

A previous next door neighbour once asked if I'd keep her spare keys as she'd once locked herself out and couldn't get hold of her son who usually had them. I declined on the grounds that I'm often away, but really I didn't want the responsibility and also what if she thought as the OP did that someone had been in her bedroom.

My best friend of 40 years and I have each other's keys and I occasionally need to water her plants if she's away - I always feel very strange being in her place when she's not there.

You think OP is going to pause to buy and read a book? With no idea what in it?

This must feel horrible. Is it possible you or DC were grabbing things last minute to pack and the drawers weren't left quite as you remember? Cat getting into places they don't normally? (When my neighbour left me to cat sit I often had to chase them out of bedrooms they were meant to be excluded from.)

I would assume it's the neighbour, change the locks and get a new cat sitter in future. I wouldn't run around accusing anyone as it's impossible to prove, and I wouldn't overly stress either. Yes it isn't nice, but it's just stuff that's been touched, no drama.

The neighbour has had a nosy. You cannot prove anything and they will deny everything.
Just don’t give them the key again.

I would conceived getting the locks changed and a new key in case the neighbour made a copy…

Do this!

Probably neighbour. Weird question, is your house nicer and they might have had a party or have teenagers that got hold of the key (they might not have thought about checking your room wasn't touched). I just think if your neighbour did look in your drawers, they'd be more careful to shut them? Sounds more like kids?

Sure you didn't rush upstairs for a pair of socks for the plane and to grab a travel plug or something and it was you (I've done this and given myself a shock).