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To be so bothered about a ladies long weekend away?

32 replies

TheSquashedPea · 05/08/2024 23:05

Initially I thought it would be one day away and I’d get my own ticket. In a slightly drunken conversation I was asked if I could do longer, and then - as a very, very expensive present - I was gifted the long weekend instead of it being just one day. I feel very guilty about this, and have tried to pay back through presents/other gifts. I also felt guilty about leaving my young children for a more extended period. I did have fun, but felt like one member of the group disliked me. I went along with everything, but I think I annoyed this person by initially arriving late - then not asserting myself, and then I was very tired one day after staying out until 4am the day before. I had an accident the week previously and was finding it tricky to stand/dance for longer periods.

As soon as I sat for anything - I was met with ‘are you ok?? are you ok??’
I have come back feeling just - guilty! Guilty at leaving my family, guilty about someone paying for it all, and guilty that I might have looked exhausted. I’m also feeling shit from pissing off one member of the group, when I really didn’t mean to. AIBU?

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StuckOnTheCeiling · 05/08/2024 23:29

Sounds tricky.

It will probably all look better once you’re looking from the other side of a decent nights sleep though.

OriginalUsername2 · 05/08/2024 23:26

I couldn’t be “on” for that long either. Exhausting. Especially when the “why aren’t you having fun?” types are there. You have the accident as a reason. Someone likes you enough to treat you. There’s always one that gets easily annoyed, don’t take that personally.

balzamico · 05/08/2024 23:26

I think weekends away when you have little kids are tricky, so much guilt in every direction, they're worth it though

pinkfluffymonkey · 05/08/2024 23:24

Well, it's over now so I'd let it go.

You can't please everyone all of the time so who cares if she didn't particularly like you. Did you like her?

SplitSecondd · 05/08/2024 23:23

FruitLoop83 · 05/08/2024 23:16

I literally have no idea what you are saying.

Why? It's all pretty self explanatory.

SplitSecondd · 05/08/2024 23:22

Why feel guilty about a gift? You're back now and I assume your kids are totally fine. Someone asking are you ok doesn't mean they are pissed off, they may have just asked are you ok looking out for you no?

FruitLoop83 · 05/08/2024 23:16

I literally have no idea what you are saying.

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