Many people prioritise/ live for holidays above all else

They'd evidently be working the low paid job they hate whether they went on holiday or not, since food and bills aren't free. So that's irrelevant.

As you talk about deprivation, the question is simply what they want to do with the limited disposable income that they have. Perhaps those working class Brits are capable of seeing the issue with more clarity than you.

I don't really understand that "build a life you don't need a holiday from" quote - surely it's possible to have a lovely life and enjoy holidays too.

I need my holidays because I want to see places, experience new countries and cultures - quite challenging if you don't take holidays to travel. Unless you work as hotel reviewer or travel influencer, but I also have no desire to do that. So holidays it is.

For me the key word in the quote is "need". Of course it's fabulous to have both a lovely life outside of holidays and also to have lovely holidays.

However, I know people who prioritise living and working in a way that makes them unhappy for 48 weeks of the year in order to have 4 weeks of happy holidays. That's their choice of course, and I respect that.

However it would not be my choice. I would prefer a holiday to be a "nice to have" rather than something that I "need".

I'd also like to live a life where spending quality time with the people I love is frequent and easy so that when we holiday it isn't any kind of added bonus.

So? If they enjoy that holiday what's the problem?

"with other working class Brits"- what would you have the "working class" aspire to in terms of who they holiday with?

Fair enough if Benidorm is not your scene. Fair enough if you feel people on a low income shouldn't reduce their standard of living in order to take a holiday.

However why steer at working class people holidaying with other working class people? You should try popping on a disguise sometime and joining us, you may be suprised.

I absolutely love our holidays and it's definitely the number one thing we enjoy! Long haul/short haul/UK breaks - anything! We just love that time together spent as a family.
Children luckily both have hobbies, we do something most weekends, they don't go without. But we have a very very small mortgage, oldish cars, don't drink or smoke, don't spend money on anything else really apart from trips and days out together.
I don't really understand that "build a life you don't need a holiday from" quote - surely it's possible to have a lovely life and enjoy holidays too. Our life and happiness is spending time together ❤️

I’m very similar. I book well in advance, so I only need to save a small amount each month, which doesn’t impact on daily life. I would not borrow to go on holiday.

DH and I both work FT, we need our breaks!

I do like holidays but I don't prioritise above daily living. Have just booked for next year (very usual for me) as it's an event though.

If they enjoy it and can afford it, why shouldn’t they?

That's not my experience. Most families I know do a mix of holidays abroad and staycations. Lots camp. I don't live for holidays, they're a little bonus but never a sole focus of mine.

It is a you do you situation, but that's all very well when one can afford an annual holiday and a decent standard of life throughout the year.

I have known people on a low income who work in a job they hate , and deprive themselves just to have a week or two in the sun with other working class Brits ( think Benidorm and such)

I don't need to help DS get on the housing ladder, that's his responsibility!

You can get a a 2 bed house for under £200k in my area so it's perfectly manageable for young people, he's welcome to live at home as long as he wants while he saves up but I won't be helping financially.

We just came back from an amazing holiday so I can really see why people do prioritise them. For me though I am a really homebody and spend far too much on renovations and making my home beautiful, I would always choose to spend more here and get a cheaper/more frugal holiday.

This is an area that can be a clash for many couples. I enjoy spending money on experiences rather than stuff too. However DH is obsessed with holidays and lives from one to the next and wants to use all disposable income on them. If I wanted to buy a piece of furniture for example we'd be on a tight budget looking in sales etc or buying cheap, going out for a meal requires a lot of thought while a few months later we are living like kings somewhere else, eating out every night. We have argued about addressing the balance a bit. Also he says its not a holiday unless it's abroad, something I feel is very narrow minded.

I would never extend our mortgage or go into other debt for a holiday. We spend what we can afford on holidays, which means what we can afford after we have put money in our savings and DCs savings.

Currently cuddling my 4 year old in bed in Thailand in our pjs from matalan. We very much prioritise holidays and experiences rather than stuff. Wouldn’t get into debt got a holiday though.

Unless people are properly rolling in it I think it’s a mad thing to do. Mortgage costs for many of us are now huge, many want to help DC get on the housing ladder and most of us will not enjoy generous pensions or have big savings set aside for old age. If I’d sorted out big funds for the above, then I’d splurge more on holidays, but u refuse to do more than modest family holidays in the West Country with the odd trip abroad while we’ve still got huge amounts to pay off our mortgage and stick in our pensions!

We are fine for money so have gone overseas most years over last 30 years. Had a month in USA doing a road trip once and have done a couple of cruises and a safari which were quite expensive. Now close to retirement we are buying a motorhome and will travelling round the UK and Europe.

I’m meh on holidays tbh, but I moved abroad and I guess I just feel a bit “same shit different place”. I am planning on taking DD to do some interesting things at some point, just for the experience but it’ll be for her not me. A book and a cup of tea is good for me tbh. We build holidays into the budget so it’s accounted for anyway. I wouldn’t get into debt for one.

I go away 3-4 times a year however I don't spend a fortune. My youngsters are all grown, good jobs and families of their own.

Fortunately one of mine is still in this country living 20 mins away so I do get nana time every weekend and more in school hols.

I am now widowed. I am happy to solo travel. My late husband wanted me to carry on traveling. It was where we put our money. I save for my holidays just as I did when my husband was here.

That doesn't mean I spend a fortune. Holidays consist of as follows

1/ Canada in March. Flight only as my daughter, DsoniL and 2 grandchild live there.

2/ Kefalonia (Greek islands) in June - flight only and independent accommodation. We been going for 18 years so know everyone.

3/ Thailand in September - flight only as my 3rd adult youngster lives there with his partner.

4/ Tgen there is my annual Retreat away in North Yorkshire dales for a long weekend, in October with my spiritual fellowship.

Regarding flight only if you shop around, know where and when to look I never pay more than £300 return for flights to Kefalonia.

No more than £600 return flights for Canada and Thailand each. I don't book with British companies.

My daughter worked for the airlines before she had her children so knows all the trick's etc.

I don't smoke, drink and lead a simple life at home so that's where I put my money

No we don’t, I am known for ensuing my child goes go lots of term time enrichment clubs (she has issues at school so there’s method in this madness). This is where a big chunk of money goes.
We all find really busy places quite stressful so 4 years ago I bought quite a basic caravan on a basic site and we do this nearly every holiday instead. I have one year left on my lease and after that we will aim to have some adventures.
It’s worked well for all of us, I have somewhere to escape to with friends, it’s like a home from home, very little stress involved. Some great beach days if the weather allows. Also don’t have to worry about dog care which has always been problematic for us.
It costs significantly less than a week away abroad for the whole year to run.

People prioritise what it is important to them. For some, it is holidays.
Nothing wrong with that at all.

I know. I thought I was alone in that opinion.

We don’t have the funds to go on expensive holidays and haven’t been abroad for many years. We do have a UK break once a year, but honestly, I don’t like paying to stay somewhere that’s less comfortable than my home.

We’ve had expensive holidays in the past and there are places I’d like to revisit and places I’d like to see, but the money’s not there, so there’s no point fretting over it.

I’m so sorry for your loss 💐

DH is a bit older than me - I’m early 60s, he is early 70s. We are both fit and well at the moment touch wood but as you say you never know what’s around the corner,at our age our health could give way at any time, and we just want to do as much as we can while we still can.