Bringing a new partner to a wedding my ex is at?

I think just to the evening do is a great compromise. He’s happy to go & he’ll get a chance to meet everyone.

Obvioudly you and I are not reading the same post here. What??

They need guest counts ahead of time. With a relatively brief relationship, you can’t even be sure that you will still be dating by the time the wedding happens. That is one of the reasons new relationships often aren’t included on guest lists.

I would just attend solo and have him meet your friends on a less high pressured day.

Comsidering your role, you won't be spending much time with him on the day so he will be hovering alone with people he doesn't know, but that all have friendships with each other. I think your friend was just being polite by inviting him too.

Ask your boyfriend if he would like to come with you. Explain your ex will be there, and you will have bridesmaid duties to fulfill, so you won't be able to be with him the entire time. Once he has all the information, he can make the decision himself. Tell him that you are happy for him to attend as your +1 but you'll equally understand if he'd rather not come. The ball is then in his court!

He'd only be going to the evening do, not many bridesmaid duties in the evening.

I'd take him along if he wants to go and I wouldn't be consulting the ex. Life goes on

This. I think if you ended the relationship then it'd be considerate to not bring your new bf personally.

You wont be with him as you'll be doing bridesmaid things. Its a little unfair on him.

I would ask ex if he objected and also new boyfriend

It's too much for a wedding. You'll be super busy and it's going to be a bit weird with your ex being there, even if everyone is really civil. I've been in a similar situation before. In time it's fine but the first meeting is always a bit strange.

I'd arrange a different day for your BF to meet your friends.

Who ended the relationship?

Are there feelings there from either of you?

I’m clearly the odd one out here but you broke up with very long term fiancé 6 months ago & you’re in the same friendship group. I’d think it really odd that you’d bring a new BF into this so soon & actually quite disrespectful of his feelings & the relationship. If I was the ex, I’d be gutted to be honest, no matter how well they’ve parted.

Wow just wow

Echoing others, maybe ask your new partner if they would like to come.

It seems like you and the ex are on good terms, so I doubt he would think you are bringing the new partner there, out of malice. If your new partner wants to join you, I know I would. Maybe as you get along well with your ex, give them a heads up.

Boyfriend has expressed he would like to go to evening. He sounds sensible. Whole day would be challenging if you have bridesmaid duties and your friend group includes your ex. Evening, you can relax and stick with him and it’s only for a few hours. Easy to avoid him and your ex having to socialise while everyone adjusts to the new dynamic.

I’d agree to him going to the evening. Honestly, if I had been invited to a wedding with a new bf and I told him I wanted to attend the evening and he said “yeah nah I don’t want to upset my ex” I’d be breaking up with him on the spot. Prioritising an ex over me would be a massive red flag and make me concerned for all future friendship group events.

I think have have current bf along for the evening do and let the ex know he'll be there. The ex can then decide what he does. Be as respectful of the ex as possible obviously. It might be one of those things that will be painful for the ex, but it might inadvertently help the healing process if they know you've def moved on too.

It's simple tell new boyfriend he's been invited to the wedding if he would like to go.
Tell him your ex will be there. As he's within the same social circle. Make him aware as you're a bridesmaid would he be happy to mingle when he can't be by your side.

Give him the option to accept or decline, or even accept to be an evening guest only. So that all the formal stuff is over and you are free to spend the evening with him.
It's about giving him the options if he wants to or not. Be open and honest.

Don't take him. You have been with him a very short time.

Attending the evening do is probably easiest as he won't be sat alone during the day when you are busy with bridesmaid duties.
If you are on good terms with ex it would be best to let him know in advance too so it's not a surprise

If you're on good terms with your ex, could you have a chat with him and say your new partner is coming to the evening and you hope he's ok with that? Hopefully no-one will want any drama or bad feeling to upset your friend's wedding party. It might be good to arrange a night out for your partner to meet your friends before then, if he hasn't already.

P.S I will add as a bridesmaid you will probably be occupied, so him going to the evening only would make sense

In the nicest possible way it’s batshit to me that your boyfriends told you he’d like to go but you’re considering not bringing him along to spare your EX’s feeling.

If I had been dating someone for half a year and they told me they didn’t want me coming along to a wedding because their ex was there and didn’t want to upset them I’d be like… right… okay

You'll be at the top table and he will be sat with strangers. So the whole day thing is not going to be good for him.

If you invite him for the evening it could cause some friction on the friends group. Six months is not that long ago to be split up if he still has feelings for you. I take it your ex is not dating anyone?

Perhaps another night would be better to introduce him to the friends group?

How does your new boyfriend feel about that? Would he fear you weren't inviting him so you could get back with your ex, even though that's not the situation you don't want him to be upset either.

If you're on good terms with your ex why not just check if he'd be bothered?

I think the evening do is a good option. The question is how do you think your ex will react? I'm assuming as the bride gave you the option she must assume it'll be ok.

Is it likely to cause drama on your BF's wedding day? If so then definitely not.