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What one thing, if eradicated from your life, would make it all easier?

341 replies

JMSA · 05/08/2024 10:09

Laundry.
It never fucking ends. It's just the sheer volume of it and the dread at putting it all away once dry.
The thing I'm most looking forward to about one day living on my own, is having only one lot of washing to do.
What about you?

OP posts:
Xtraincome · 05/08/2024 13:05

Mortgage payments

quantumbutterfly · 05/08/2024 12:56

money worries.

(& bed making)

PussGirl · 05/08/2024 12:56

My late mum’s house. Have to sort it and sell it. Nightmare.

Once done then meal planning will be top of the list again. No problem cooking at all but always being the one deciding what to cook is a pain.

Giggorata · 05/08/2024 12:54

Spiders
Dogs
Men
Entropy

Stbextherapist · 05/08/2024 12:53

Life admin. It's unbearable and neverending

Werweisswohin · 05/08/2024 12:53

Cleaning the bathrooms, specifically the loos.

stargirl1701 · 05/08/2024 12:51

Autism.

muddyford · 05/08/2024 12:51

This house. I want to move but DH won't.

otravezempezamos · 05/08/2024 12:51

daisychain01 · 05/08/2024 12:41

Can you gain some comfort from the fact that you were the one to be there for your Gran when the others let her down. You never have to look back and wish you'd done more, because you did do more, and nobody can take that away from you,

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Thank you so much. I do try to think that and with time I hope that will bring comfort.

What hurts the most is how once she died suddenly everyone wanted to be involved and I got pushed out. Sounds childish but it hurt so much. It was like despite being her nuclear family for 32 years suddenly I just had to be seen and not heard. I just can’t get over it and it is wearing me down.
The lovely vicar who took her funeral was brilliant-she saw our relationship straightaway, within 5 minutes and treated me with the respect and compassion I feel I should have had from everyone. We are friends to this day!

Sorry to go on…you are very kind.

ClawedButler · 05/08/2024 12:49

My crappy mental health.

But in the spirit of the thread, people who don't read things properly.

Flibflobflibflob · 05/08/2024 12:48

Cooking, I used to love it but it’s just a bloody chore.

Cattery · 05/08/2024 12:45

The people next door but one

LlynTegid · 05/08/2024 12:45

Minor I know in comparison to many of the things mentioned.

No GMT in winter, BST all year round.

40somethingme · 05/08/2024 12:44

Uterine fibroids

Projectme · 05/08/2024 12:43

NotPennysBoat · 05/08/2024 12:36

Food. Imagine if we could just 'plug in' and recharge overnight, good to go the next day.

No thinking about what to cook/serve. No shopping, prepping, cooking. No one moaning about what's for tea. Can't over/under eat so no weight problems ever.

Make me prime minister!

I'm sure someone, somewhere is developing a daily injection which will provide you with all your requirements of carbs, protein, fats, vitamins, minerals...one shot, once a day and off you go.

God that sounds grim. 😑

SinisterBumFacedCat · 05/08/2024 12:42

Next door neighbour has an about 7 silver birch trees that deserve to die. All year they sheds sap, leaves, bugs and infinite catkins that fall like snow constantly over my garden. The sap ruins my car. The catkins get absolutely fucking everywhere in the garden leaving an oily mess in their wake. They migrate to everywhere in the house. I once found one stuck to DS’s tiny ball sack when I was changing his nappy. They give us all hayfever every spring. It is impossible to create anything pretty in the garden without it being smothered by catkins and ruined. Sweeping up is a full time job. For some reason neighbour has decided to turn the garden of her 1930’s semi into her own personal forest with trees over twice the height of the house and fuck anyone else who is impacted by it. If someone did a Sycamore gap job on that garden I would give them a medal and a blow job.

Also dementia but I appreciate that’s a bigger ask.

daisychain01 · 05/08/2024 12:41

otravezempezamos · 05/08/2024 12:34

Grief.
I lost my beloved gran last year and I am still finding it hard. Mainly as I am still so bitter and angry at family a) for not being there for her and dumping the work on me and my mum, and b) for their tetchiness and dismissiveness when she died, this robbing me of that early grief when I was at the most vulnerable moment of my life.

Can you gain some comfort from the fact that you were the one to be there for your Gran when the others let her down. You never have to look back and wish you'd done more, because you did do more, and nobody can take that away from you,

Sparklingwineandcheese · 05/08/2024 12:41

Ex husband and all his bloody family

Poachedeggavocado · 05/08/2024 12:40

So many of this I can relate to. For me;

Autism (ds), it colours every decision, every activity and means I rarely sleep a full night and after 10 years I'm exhausted. Knowing it will likely not stop til I die is exhausting.

Food. Left to my own devices I'd eat nothing for breakfast except coffee, greek yoghurt and fruit for lunch and a ham sandwich for dinner ad nauseum. But no, due to having a family, I need meal planning, shopping , chopping, frying, baking. It's tedious and never ending.

Laundry doesn't bother me because I have a washing machine and dryer.
I once lived somewhere without these and now pat them both each time I use them.

daisychain01 · 05/08/2024 12:39

Supermarket shopping

beetlejuicebeetlejuicebeetle · 05/08/2024 12:39

NotPennysBoat · 05/08/2024 12:36

Food. Imagine if we could just 'plug in' and recharge overnight, good to go the next day.

No thinking about what to cook/serve. No shopping, prepping, cooking. No one moaning about what's for tea. Can't over/under eat so no weight problems ever.

Make me prime minister!

Image the impact on the environment! Would be incredible.

Itsajobones · 05/08/2024 12:38

ILLNESS

If we all had perfect health all the time everything else would be perfect!

graffitiwall · 05/08/2024 12:38

My kid's father.

The misery and stress he brings to my life and theirs'.

Swanbeauty · 05/08/2024 12:36

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NotPennysBoat · 05/08/2024 12:36

Food. Imagine if we could just 'plug in' and recharge overnight, good to go the next day.

No thinking about what to cook/serve. No shopping, prepping, cooking. No one moaning about what's for tea. Can't over/under eat so no weight problems ever.

Make me prime minister!