Partner shoves me whilst I sleep!

Is he absolutely 100% awake? If there was any chance he was asleep, semi-asleep or dozing, this sounds similar to REM Sleep Behaviour Disorder. My dad had this and would shove, punch, and thrash out at my mum, and once even rugby tackled her out of bed. Sometimes he'd remember it and sometimes he wouldn't. It's rare but not THAT rare. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/rem-sleep-behavior-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20352920

Appreciate it's unlikely to be this if he's clearly wide awake and just agressively wants you to get out of the way. But just thought I'd mention.

Isn’t it due to your snoring? I shove my partner up make them rollover. They snore like a wart hog when they are lying on their back

You need your own bed to sleep in. Even better, your own room. Bliss.

My son sleep walks and he apoears to be completely awake so i dont think you can assune he is fully conscious without duscussing it.

My abusive ex used to do this. Say he was sleeping when he kicked hard at me, pushed me or accidentally threw a fist into my head. He was just a coward who enjoyed hurting me slyly. He enjoyed hurting me but always pretended it was by accident. Like shoving past me so hard I fell, pulling me up by my hand whilst crushing my hand. Throwing himself onto sofa and half landing on me. Pushing himself up with a hand on my thigh. He weighed 18 stone and was 12 inches taller than me. He also used his size to intimate me. Some men just enjoy hurting women. Leave him.

When I sleep, I sleep deep!
my husband has to literally shake me to wake me up!
I was asleep on a plane last month and the man next to me wanted to get past me, he was talking to me and tried to wake me 🤣 my husband was sat across the aisle from me and has to shake me 🤣 my husband said that the man looked very concerned because he couldn’t wake me 🤣

Can you move in another room. That way you will both get a good nights sleep.

Don't be so stupid and victim-blaming. OP's h is AWAKE and knows what he's doing. He's a violent abuser.

Separate beds is the obvious answer - if you really want to stay married.

100% leave. He hits you when he knows you have no way of protecting yourself and he's likely to get away with it. It's not a behaviour that's going to go away over time. It's a behaviour that is going to get worse. He will start shoving you during arguments once you've taught him that he can get away with it. He doesn't even apologise, he blames you. You made him do it, it's not his fault. If you can make someone hit you while you're asleep It's going to be very easy to make him hit you while you're awake isn't it.

I've been struggling with my sleep lately and very much affecting DPs sleep in my effort to get comfortable. Last night I woke to him sleeping along the bottom of the bed like a dog, bexuase I had laid across all the pillows in my sleep and he didn't want to wake me. Granted, I'm heavily pregnant with his child so I get a bit of extra princess treatment.

Something I recognise as a stark difference with him and my ex. I always knew that my ex could hit me. Long before things started going wrong, I knew I could make him hit me, I knew he had that in him. And it should have been enough to make me leave. If you know a man has it in him to put his hands on you in anger, leave.
DP, I know there's nothing in the world I could do to make him hurt me, he would never have the desire to put his hands on me in anger.

i would put a pillow between us

It's not a punch doesn't mean it's not abuse. He is hitting you and doing at a time you are vulnerable. That is abuse.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this OP, it sounds horrible.
I agree with previous responses- he's abusive.
It may not seem like abuse but the very first thing that came to mind after reading your post was domestic violence. You can be unaware of a lot when sleeping, but shoving someone full force with both hands isn't something you could do without being awake. How does he know you're even on his side of the bed if he's 'sleeping'?
Regardless of whether people would label it as abuse or not, I wouldn't want to stay with a man who shows no empathy or remorse when you've actively told him it hurts you.

But he isnt asleep!!

He is fully aware and want her to apologise for something that she does when asleep.

How can it be sleep apnoea when he is awake??

Victim blaming at its finest

He's awake ffs. He is shoving you, wants you to apologise are you really ok with this?

Agree, his actions have vibes of, "How dare you take up space!"

I think you mean "single lives are the way to go".

He is awake and pushing/ shoving her!!

What is the matter with some posters?!

This is abuse and the only acceptable solution here is to leave him.

Do not try and find an amicable solution. It will not change the fact he is an abuser and has made his issues yours to solve, has not been remorseful about causing you pain, and has repeatedly hurt you.

Once could be an accident but if someone is truly sorry they don't do it again.

There's no such thing as a single issue abuser, if this issue was resolved the next problem he has would also become your problem.

Love yourself. Love yourself enough to know this is not normal.

Wow? Really? That's what you're asking her? So, say she's rolled over IN HER SLEEP, and he carefully tries to gently move her over, or a little tap "honey, can you move over a bit please?", like I might have to do to a snoring partner, then yeah, that's annoying but ok! THIS IS CLEARLY NOT WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE! Did you read the bit about her telling him it hurts and him blaming her? The fact he continues to do it night after night. Ffs, what is wrong with some people?? I assume you're perfectly ok with your (much bigger and stronger) partner shoving you, or painfully pushing you every time he decides you're in his way or his personal space? And it hurts every single time. And maybe he's even coming up behind you so you're not aware and then gives you a shove?? That's all ok with you, is it? Fucking appalling 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

It is not for nothing that aristos have separate bedrooms.

Maybe you are encroaching on him in your sleep but that's unintentional. You can fix this with separate beds / rooms but he sounds angry & resentful and I'm not sure you don't have a bigger problem here.

But he’s deliberately hurting you, slap, shove, punch, what difference?

One of the more cowardly ways a man has found to assault his wife. And it is assault.

Does he physically move you out if his way in other situations?

As he is deliberately hurting you as punishment for you straying to his side of the bed an apology from him would be meaningless.

Just end it but if you must stay get separate beds.

I sometimes have to shove my DH but it's very gentle and just makes him roll over and stop snoring. It doesn't even wake him and he has usually got no memory of it. He actually appreciates me doing this because he's not getting good quality sleep if he's snoring. What I don't do is hurt him ever. If I did, I'd consider it abuse. If there are issues, you find a solution that doesn't involve hurting your partner. What's he like in general? Are there other areas of life he's not treating you as he should?

It doesn't sound like you two should be sharing a bed, or maybe even a bedroom, at the very least.

Pushed your collar bones with both hands?

Absolutely no need. An aggressive, disproportionate response to his irritation.

Then demands you apologise... wow. He's a fucker. Is this a new relationship? Have you had other disagreements before? How did he respond?