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for being stopped in my tracks by beautiful women even though I’m hetero?

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Foamyclouds · 04/08/2024 21:14

And when I say ‘stopped in my tracks’, I mean online…don’t think it would be terribly acceptable to do it in real life.

For example, today I was looking at different hairstyles for different face shapes, and came upon this photo. Just wow 🤩

Am I alone in this or is this normal?

for being stopped in my tracks by beautiful women even though I’m hetero?
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JLou08 · 05/08/2024 13:01

I think it's normal, just like you can be in awe of a beautiful painting, hairstyle, home decor etc. It doesn't have to be sexual just because it's a person.

andfinallyhereweare · 05/08/2024 13:00

@BunnyLake that’s what I’m trying to get the op to consider… either one is normal and natural.

Comedycook · 05/08/2024 12:59

BunnyLake · 04/08/2024 22:45

That’s not true. I’ve been wowed by some women’s beauty but have zero interest in them on a romantic or sexual level.

Yep same....for me it's part envy and wishing I could look like them.

BunnyLake · 05/08/2024 12:55

andfinallyhereweare · 05/08/2024 12:05

Is it a sexual curiosity or more you want to look like them? Both natural feelings nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality. I know for me no they don’t do anything other I can see they are very pretty.

no right or wrong answer, hope you get to understand yourself a bit more 🩷

My admiration of a beautiful woman is that I’d like to look like them and nothing to do with ‘fancying’ them, obviously each person is different but for me it’s more looks envy.

andfinallyhereweare · 05/08/2024 12:05

Is it a sexual curiosity or more you want to look like them? Both natural feelings nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality. I know for me no they don’t do anything other I can see they are very pretty.

no right or wrong answer, hope you get to understand yourself a bit more 🩷

Foamyclouds · 05/08/2024 10:07

RedExpert · 05/08/2024 02:19

Why did you use this lady’s picture? It’s not even a recent photo.

I wasn’t searching for this person specifically, I was on a website of hairstyles for different face shapes. This was the photograph used on there for one of the hairstyles.

I took it to be more of a modelly-bit-OTT concept for a high swooped fringe, which you would tone down in reality…sort of like this style I guess.

But the question was about whether other hetero women feel like this as well. I posted her photo as an example of someone who sparked the question for me, but I understand everyone has different ideas of beauty.

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Babbahabba · 05/08/2024 08:54

@Opine how is saying the hair is weird nasty? The hair style is weird with the big flick thing- clearly that was a decision by the stylist. Her hair itself is fine and her face is very beautiful, as I said. The hair style is criticism of the stylist not the model and it's not to my taste- which is subjective. I'm sure some people would like it.

BunnyLake · 05/08/2024 07:12

Ethylred · 05/08/2024 04:44

Being lesbian is normal, you know. It's not like having 2 heads.

Nothing wrong with being lesbian but it’s not fact that if a woman is admiring another woman’s beauty then they must be lesbian or bi as some posters seem to think.

BunnyLake · 05/08/2024 07:04

Daisybuttercup12345 · 04/08/2024 23:05

That's very ugly. Ai. Not real. Is this a joke?

How can you call her ugly? That’s ridiculous and not at all true.

andfinallyhereweare · 05/08/2024 04:52

She’s stunning! But wouldn’t stop me in my tracks…. I can appreciate her but does nothing for me.. are you sure you’re competely hetro? May be worth exploring

Ethylred · 05/08/2024 04:44

Being lesbian is normal, you know. It's not like having 2 heads.

RedExpert · 05/08/2024 02:19

Why did you use this lady’s picture? It’s not even a recent photo.

for being stopped in my tracks by beautiful women even though I’m hetero?
MonsteraMama · 05/08/2024 01:32

Daisybuttercup12345 · 04/08/2024 23:05

That's very ugly. Ai. Not real. Is this a joke?

What's wrong with you? That's a very real and very pretty young woman you've just called ugly. How insecure are you that you feel the need to be a bitch about someone else's appearance?

Yes this particular photo is heavily photoshopped for the stylist's Instagram (by the stylist) and not to everyone's taste stylistically, but if you take three seconds to look at the model's Instagram she's a real person and very pretty. Not ugly at all.

MonsteraMama · 05/08/2024 01:14

My husband laughed at me today because I got my head turned by a woman, but honestly she was so, so beautiful and striking, dressed absolutely flawlessly and just carried herself with a kind of admirable "fuck you" energy. I was completely straight yesterday, today I'm not so sure 😆

But honestly I think it's fine. You can appreciate beauty in all it's forms without wanting to shag it or marry it.

JaneJeffer · 05/08/2024 00:53

There’s something about Priscilla

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Opine · 05/08/2024 00:02

@WetBandits i agree. She doesn’t look much different to this on her feed. She definitely isn’t AI. The hair isn’t weird either. Just nastiness for the sake of it.

OP I am a million perfect straight but I am more often struck by women’s beauty than men’s. Perhaps she has features that you’d like for yourself? I wouldn’t know what the psychology of it is but I’m sure you’d know if your attraction to her was sexual.

MillshakePickle · 04/08/2024 23:48

She's gorgeous whoever she is. And her confidence shines through.

I'm as straight as they come. I do, however, work in an industry full of absolutely beautiful men and women. I appreciate beauty, confidence, and a positive attitude. Together and dressed well it's hard not to notice.

Just because I think or notice a stunning doesn't mean I want to shag her. It's just simple admiration and appreciation.

I have stopped stemages in public and complimented them on the odd occasion. It's nice to be noticed, and if they made an impression I share that with them.

Deardeidree · 04/08/2024 23:30

Hear hear @WetBandits

WetBandits · 04/08/2024 23:25

How depressing that instead of answering the question you asked, some posters are falling over themselves to say how ugly they think the woman is, or that she must be photoshopped/AI. The photo has been tweaked as it’s a professional shoot, but if you have a look at the model’s Instagram, she is indeed very pretty!

easylikeasundaymorn · 04/08/2024 23:25

I think it's fascinating what different people identify as extremely beautiful or attractive!

But no, of course just recognising/admiring beauty in any form doesn't have to have any link to your sexuality. I've been 'stopped in my tracks' (by which I mean distracted from what I was doing/turning round to admire/go back to look at/think about afterwards) by a gorgeous view, beautiful sunset, cute puppy, amazing pair of shoes....doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to any of the above!

Moonshine5 · 04/08/2024 23:25

What's going on today, another pathetic thread with a photo.
I hope this one gets deleted too.

Deardeidree · 04/08/2024 23:10

Bit rude to call her ugly. Idk if the image is AI or not but there’s surely women who look like that you’re basically insulting too

@Foamyclouds I think the woman in the photo is beautiful too but in a quite a common /commerical way - as in many people look like her - not a bad thing btw. Just an observation.

ETA: just looked at her instagram and yes she is stunning. Looks a bit younger in her videos than she does in this particular image.

Foamyclouds · 04/08/2024 23:09

She may be photoshopped but she’s definitely not AI! Click the image to see her insta, etc.

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Daisybuttercup12345 · 04/08/2024 23:05

That's very ugly. Ai. Not real. Is this a joke?

Babbahabba · 04/08/2024 23:01

The woman in the photo (if real) is beautiful but has an odd hair do and weird expression.

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