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Beyond disgusting

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takeittakeit · 04/08/2024 19:11

We are luckily enough to be in Paris watching some of the Olympics - it has been fantastic - bit hot and steamy, poor air con but waiters actually trying to understand my poor french rather than the usual dismissive look!

Staying in an average 4star hotel, air con average but it has been vv hot and humid. Old converted office type building, narrow corridors and 4 small rooms on our floor.

We came back last night to a stench - only way to describe it. Then realised what it was, the American family in the room opposite had left their childs diaper folded up on the floor outside their room - not bagged. Their door is opposite ours about 1.5 metres away.

Went into our room, aircon had not been on all day and it honked. Opened windows sprayed deodorant no luck.

At 2330 - had had enough, knocked gently on their door, baby crying so not asleep. Mum opens it with a second diaper in her hand, bent down and put it on the floor by the other one and then said can I help you?

Now fairly obvious at this point one of her DCs has the trots - but who in their right mind thinks it is ok, to wrap up your childs diaper and leave it on the corridor for other guests to smell.

I politely asked her to put them in the bin
REsponse : I can't they smell so bad.
ME: Why do you think it is OK to share your childs stinking shits with other guests by leaving them in the corridor - my room stinks
REsponse: this is normal in the USA
ME: Well normal in Europe is to bag them and put them in the garbage, can I suggest you do that and take them outside to a bin on the street.
REsponse: No way, it is too late and started to close the door
ME: You really are disgusting - and promptly kicked the diapers into their room before she shut the door
REsponse : you can't do that
Me: watch me, either you bin them or I will bang on your door every 5 minutes, wake up your kids until you do

Two other doors opened to see what was going on - both American families who defended their friends actions.

So I offered to bang on all their doors until someone put them in a bin.
Stand off - I raised my hand to bang on the door and one of the men picked them up and legged it down the stairs.

I have not smelt anything quite that bad for a long long time.

They called me all sorts of names but seriously this can not be normal American behaviour?

OP posts:
Fraaahnces · 04/08/2024 22:31

I am so very proud of you for taking a stand like this! Imagine leaving this for poor hotel staff to deal with! Vile!

pinkstripeycat · 04/08/2024 22:31

ttcat37 · 04/08/2024 20:09

I’m sure your shit doesn’t stink!
I’d be more concerned about your thuggish behaviour than a dirty nappy. Open a window and ring down to reception if you feel so aggrieved, like a normal person, rather than shouting and threatening people.

Blimey! You’ve blown this out of proportion.

At no point did OP say she was thuggish, shouting and threatening. I think what OP did was reasonable based on what the nappy people did.

SeulementUneFois · 04/08/2024 22:30

Well done OP!
People need to get more assertive with such disgusting creatures.

Zanatdy · 04/08/2024 22:27

Given there was more than one person, absolutes no excuse for that, it’s literally disgusting. Good on you for being so assertive OP! I can’t imagine that’s normal behaviour in any country to leave shitty nappies in the corridor stinking the place out. Get some carrier bags or carry nappy sacks like most parents

mondaytosunday · 04/08/2024 22:25

That is NOT normal in the US. What is normal is to put them in diaper bags and dispose of properly.

Hoppinggreen · 04/08/2024 22:23

ForGreyKoala · 04/08/2024 22:19

The only people I know of who have been actively removed from my country for outrageous behaviour were Brits. People from any country can be boorish louts, there is no need to single one race out (and yes I know I have just done that, but that was an example to you, normally I wouldn't).

Brits can also be awful on holiday (and elsewhere) I agree but the thread concerned Americans

ForGreyKoala · 04/08/2024 22:22

DoIWantTo · 04/08/2024 20:28

Why was your first reaction to get aggressive instead of getting hotel staff involved? They were rank to leave the nappies there but there was a better way to handle this.

If the hotel staff were involved they wouldn't have been able to act as OP did, and anything they said would bear no result. I have to laugh at what is considered "aggressive" behaviour on MN 😅

ForGreyKoala · 04/08/2024 22:19

Hoppinggreen · 04/08/2024 21:13

How about Americans on holiday in other countries?
I have been horrified by their behaviour in various Carribean countries and also Mexico. The staff in our Mexican hotel last year told me that they would rather deal with Brits who treated them like humans than the Americans who were awful to them but tipped better - I speak excellent Spanish and got to know quite a few staff members pretty well.
I have also had cultural training on Americans due to my job and we were told that their behaviour to people they view as serving staff etc can be very questionable due to the fact that they think tipping makes everything ok and I have seen it regularly. They treat me well as I am an "equal" but anyone who serves them in any capacity is not always treated with the same respect.

The only people I know of who have been actively removed from my country for outrageous behaviour were Brits. People from any country can be boorish louts, there is no need to single one race out (and yes I know I have just done that, but that was an example to you, normally I wouldn't).

earlymorningcurlewcall · 04/08/2024 22:18

Tell them to buy diaper bags in the morning. Then tell them to scrape the diarrhoea out of the diaper and into the toilet, then roll up the nappy and put it in their bin.

Absolutely disgusting, and a total disregard to other guests.

AthenaBasil · 04/08/2024 22:18

While I agree staff shouldn’t have to deal with sick babies. They do have to deal with guests who are misbehaving, so don’t get the push back about contacting them regarding this issue.

Nanny0gg · 04/08/2024 22:16

ttcat37 · 04/08/2024 20:09

I’m sure your shit doesn’t stink!
I’d be more concerned about your thuggish behaviour than a dirty nappy. Open a window and ring down to reception if you feel so aggrieved, like a normal person, rather than shouting and threatening people.

Why is it ok to accept revolting behaviour?

extrasushiplease · 04/08/2024 22:11

This is NOT normal in America. They were taking the piss and would have some other stupid excuse doing the same thing in the US.

ForGreyKoala · 04/08/2024 22:10

Gettingannoyednow · 04/08/2024 19:20

Agree it's disgusting. I do feel for the woman trying to care for an ill baby in a foreign hotel room with people banging repeatedly on the door as well though. Could no one have called down to Reception and asked staff to sort it?

Why should "the staff" have to deal with it? How hard is it to put something in a bin? - which is the responsibilty of the parents. People wouldn't be banging repeatedly on the door if they had dealt with it in a normal manner.

Well done OP!

Normallynumb · 04/08/2024 21:58

I applaud you!
Simply vile.. Nappies and her behaviour

Ger1atricMillennial · 04/08/2024 21:56

The poster is either from North America or its a reverse.

I have been worked in a restaurant where someone changed their kid's nappy on the table in the middle of service. They didn't have any other adults with them to look after the other kids. She was still asked to leave by the manager.

ANGIEPANGY77 · 04/08/2024 21:56

In the words of the late Whitney Houston, oh hell to the nah, this is not normal American behavior. Additonally, on behalf of the 340 million other Americans, please accept our apologies for your smelly, raucous ordeal. In my family we always separately bag shitty diapers and take them to the outdoor garbage can. Never, ever are they left in the house. Never in a million years would think to leave them outside of the door of public accomodation. Jesus, help me!

Vikina · 04/08/2024 21:55

Didn't happen.

PeachLemonGummy · 04/08/2024 21:51

Sounds repulsive! The norm in Europe is to double or even triple bag diapers (you can cheap disposable diaper baggies everywhere) or use ziploc bags to prevent smell. Then place it outside on a balcony, window ledge or someplace that will not disturb anyone with the smell. Never indoors unless you have a diaper disposal bin supplied. Housekeeping know if there's a baby in the room and will remove those baggies along with regular trash.

Thedogscollar · 04/08/2024 21:50

@takeittakeit The family putting diarrhoea filled nappies in a public right of way were massively in the wrong. Honestly, who in their right mind would do this. Apparently some on here think it's perfectly OK even though there was another adult in the room more than capable of removing them to a closed bin away from the corridor.

You acted appropriately and with restraint. You probably prevented the spread of further infection by your actions. Well done. I hope the rest of your stay is free of unwanted shitty odours and health hazards in the hotel corridors.

TheHateIsNotGood · 04/08/2024 21:41

I get your drift OP but I would have very 'ceremoniously' bagged the diapers offering my open bag to "Modom" to dispose of the 2nd nappy. Then whilst her compatriots opened their doors would have offered to take any of their 'shitty stuff' too; whilst spouting a few mutterings regarding viva la france and how very handy those little brits can be, etc.

And looked them squarely in the eye whilst pointedly ignoring them over breakfast the next day.

But then I'm a classy bitch, me....

LemonadeSunshine · 04/08/2024 21:41

We stayed in a Parisian hotel when my LO was about 8 months old. I had the dilemma of WTF to do with the nappies, and swiftly dispatched OH to the corner shop to buy bin bags, which we filled and took out with us to a street bin.

NoisyDenimShaker · 04/08/2024 21:37

StormingNorman · 04/08/2024 21:36

All that stuff is available in shops.

If they're open at that time. And if a shop selling that type of stuff is nearby, and the person knows where to go.

StormingNorman · 04/08/2024 21:36

NoisyDenimShaker · 04/08/2024 21:24

There's a personal safety book written by an expert on personal safety. The author is a former Navy SEAL. It's hilariously entitled WHEN VIOLENCE IS THE ANSWER.

To explain the title, the premise of the book is that violence is rarely the answer, but when it is, it's the only answer.

Anyway, in the book, he addresses this scenario of confronting someone, and he says he promises the reader that it is absolutely not worth it. I wish I could remember more, but I read it awhile ago. But the gist was, walk away, it could easily get out of hand, you have no idea who you're dealing with, and confronting a stranger is absolutely not worth it, despite how good it might feel. I take that advice.

I'd have called Reception, not because I think staff should have cleaned it up, but because the family clearly needed to be supplied with some heavy-duty bin bags, air freshener, loo roll, etc.

All that stuff is available in shops.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 04/08/2024 21:34

Not normal. Normal is to call housekeeping to ask for an extra garbage bag to put dirty diapers into. You then loosely toe the bag so you can put more into it and ask housekeeping to dispose of the bag the next day. You try and empty poo into the toilet if possible then roll diaper up tightly front into back then tightly pull tabs acrooss and secure. They won't leak or stink. It's a tightly wrapped little pouch. No decent person would leave a dirty diaper outside their door. No, it's not cultural in N Am. I'm Canadian, but have spent a lot of time traveling in the US.

Ineedaholidayyyy · 04/08/2024 21:34

Ewwww no way, that's fucking disgusting and a health hazzard to everyone else. Also why aren't they bagging the shit filled nappies? You aren't a thug, you've asked a very reasonable request, which should never have needed to be asked in the first place!

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