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Beyond disgusting

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takeittakeit · 04/08/2024 19:11

We are luckily enough to be in Paris watching some of the Olympics - it has been fantastic - bit hot and steamy, poor air con but waiters actually trying to understand my poor french rather than the usual dismissive look!

Staying in an average 4star hotel, air con average but it has been vv hot and humid. Old converted office type building, narrow corridors and 4 small rooms on our floor.

We came back last night to a stench - only way to describe it. Then realised what it was, the American family in the room opposite had left their childs diaper folded up on the floor outside their room - not bagged. Their door is opposite ours about 1.5 metres away.

Went into our room, aircon had not been on all day and it honked. Opened windows sprayed deodorant no luck.

At 2330 - had had enough, knocked gently on their door, baby crying so not asleep. Mum opens it with a second diaper in her hand, bent down and put it on the floor by the other one and then said can I help you?

Now fairly obvious at this point one of her DCs has the trots - but who in their right mind thinks it is ok, to wrap up your childs diaper and leave it on the corridor for other guests to smell.

I politely asked her to put them in the bin
REsponse : I can't they smell so bad.
ME: Why do you think it is OK to share your childs stinking shits with other guests by leaving them in the corridor - my room stinks
REsponse: this is normal in the USA
ME: Well normal in Europe is to bag them and put them in the garbage, can I suggest you do that and take them outside to a bin on the street.
REsponse: No way, it is too late and started to close the door
ME: You really are disgusting - and promptly kicked the diapers into their room before she shut the door
REsponse : you can't do that
Me: watch me, either you bin them or I will bang on your door every 5 minutes, wake up your kids until you do

Two other doors opened to see what was going on - both American families who defended their friends actions.

So I offered to bang on all their doors until someone put them in a bin.
Stand off - I raised my hand to bang on the door and one of the men picked them up and legged it down the stairs.

I have not smelt anything quite that bad for a long long time.

They called me all sorts of names but seriously this can not be normal American behaviour?

OP posts:
Mumtobabyhavoc · 05/08/2024 20:14

Greenbananasoup · 05/08/2024 19:59

A decent person wouldn’t leave a bag full of shite in a hallway

It wasn't a bag of shite.
Seems a game of telephone has emerged in this imaginary scenario.

LlynTegid · 05/08/2024 20:01

Have you since spoken to the hotel manager to get them kicked out of the hotel?

Greenbananasoup · 05/08/2024 19:59

Happiestwhen · 04/08/2024 20:48

You obviously feel some bit irrational or guilty if you've posted here looking for back up..I'm sure you're happy to see all your fellow selfish , arrogant uncaring, self centred friends have backed you up. A decent person would offer a helping hand not ridiculed a family with sick children.. I hope you're never in that position yourself.

A decent person wouldn’t leave a bag full of shite in a hallway

Calliopespa · 05/08/2024 19:50

VickyPollard25 · 05/08/2024 19:46

You deserve nothing but applause. How disgusting! How that is normal anywhere defies understanding.

You are enforcing the boundaries of decency with these revolting people. If you’d let it go they would keep doing it. So very well done you!

I’m wondering if the username was chosen especially for this response…

VickyPollard25 · 05/08/2024 19:46

You deserve nothing but applause. How disgusting! How that is normal anywhere defies understanding.

You are enforcing the boundaries of decency with these revolting people. If you’d let it go they would keep doing it. So very well done you!

laraitopbanana · 05/08/2024 19:27

Justcallmebebes · 04/08/2024 19:25

Why on earth would staff be expected to deal with stinky nappies when the parents could have bagged them up and put them in a bin?

Probably because from a non confrontational view, it seems nicer 🤷🏼‍♀️

But yeah sure knock to the door will work too. And in France, live like French people and they will defo have knocked at the door to make you bin it so…all in all 👌🏼

the « bad comments » were obviously happen as you chose confrontation. Noone is wrong…a very different point of view though!

DisabledDemon · 05/08/2024 19:09

I've never come across this sort of behaviour anywhere! And certainly not regarded as normal.

fetchacloth · 05/08/2024 19:07

It might be normal behaviour in America, but the point is that it's indecent behaviour.

CanINapNow · 05/08/2024 18:57

Just back from a holiday. We took Ocado single use shopping bags with us as a makeshift nappy bin. Kept in bathroom. Took outside hotel to a litter bin when it smelt. Common decency and good sense.

Buffs · 05/08/2024 18:49

I live in the US , their behavior is not normal.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 05/08/2024 18:33

None of my american friends would do this. CF behaviour of the highest order.

Jaxhog · 05/08/2024 18:28

This is absolutely NOT typical American behaviour!! I've stayed in many, many hotels there and have never come across this.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 05/08/2024 18:15

People sure are getting worked up about something that never happened... 🤔

Weald56 · 05/08/2024 18:14

Bet they are all f*cking Trump supporters!!

Calliopespa · 05/08/2024 18:12

GlitteryRainbow · 05/08/2024 18:07

If the poo was contained in the nappies and not over the floor where they were left they aren’t that bad to deal with. Chambermaids deal with a lot worse when cleaning rooms after guests leave. Especially if those guests have been ill.

That’s right. Guests are often on pressed timetables and without the wherewithal to clean up after themselves in the normal way. In the circumstances, I’d have taken them out to a street bin, but it will be far from the worst thing cleaning staff have grappled with.
Im sorry: when it comes to the race to the bottom I think Britain got there first this time; US only second place.

GlitteryRainbow · 05/08/2024 18:07

If the poo was contained in the nappies and not over the floor where they were left they aren’t that bad to deal with. Chambermaids deal with a lot worse when cleaning rooms after guests leave. Especially if those guests have been ill.

Peanuts2000 · 05/08/2024 17:44

Well done OP. They are really disgusting. No-one in their right mind would think this is acceptable behaviour.

Calliopespa · 05/08/2024 16:53

LoneHydrangea · 04/08/2024 19:38

I agree it's disgusting, but I would not have reduced myself to squabbling in the corridor. Phone reception, let them take it up with mannerless guests.

This is the first post I even vaguely relate to.

Yes it was foul - of course it was.

But I’m cringing at the way you handled it. Kicked them into the room?!

Honestly, you sound really rough and crass… I’m sorry. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t see why people are applauding you ( or, tbh, how you came on here clearly looking to be applauded.) Why do so many people now think two wrongs make a right? It’s the beginning of a disintegration of society.

Ilikeadrink14 · 05/08/2024 16:46

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 04/08/2024 23:46

I was in Amsterdam once and saw an English tourist smoke so much weed he simultaneously pissed himself and vomited, then passed out in a pool of his own bodily fluids.

Seriously this can not be normal English behaviour?

Is it a cultural thing?

Can all posters please message their English friends and ask?

That is beyond disgusting!
In all my years of dining out, or staying in hotels, I have, thankfully, never come across anything like this. I have seen people get very drunk in pubs, but not to that extent.
In my opinion, I can say that this isn’t normal behaviour in the UK. Even in pubs where people can get very drunk, they are usually just a loud-mouthed pain in the a*se. Please don’t think we are all like it.

Bignanna · 05/08/2024 14:37

Sounreasonable · 05/08/2024 08:14

Yes- I once stopped to help a young waitress clean up a dropped bottle of wine in a hotel (she had dropped it when one of my younger cousins banged into her while dicking about in the corridor so I felt bed)… her manager happened to come along and was Not Pleased. Made me stop helping and said guests aren’t allowed to clean and tidy, health and safety, insurance, company policy etc.

The manager was right!

Bignanna · 05/08/2024 14:36

Sounreasonable · 05/08/2024 08:08

I’ve been told to change a nappy at a restaurant table- apparently that was what was normally done because there wasn’t a changing table in the bathroom.

Hope you didn’t , though!

ButterCrackers · 05/08/2024 11:41

Tulipsareredvioletsarebue · 05/08/2024 11:04

I have worked in a few hotels and seen the training.
Also, do you think the staff has some 'safe' way to dispose of shitty nappies? What would you say that 'safe' way is? Why would a member of staff have to do it and not the person who dropped rubbis?
It literally is- put gloves on, put nappy in the bag, put it in the bin. Not rocket science, not disarming a bomb, you dont need 'trained' housekeepers to put nappies in the bin 'safely' whatever that means. Parents can do it just as well themselves.
The fact cleaners have to clean body fluids does not mean they should have to, and they should not have to degrade themselves because of lazy assholes who think they can do whatever just because they are on holiday in a foreign country.

Edited

What review would you give a hotel that didn’t clean up after customers because it was degrading for the staff? Seriously there are customers who don’t keep their rooms and/shared spaces in a clean way. Obviously this is wrong. Think of it as being like littering at a concert venue or on a plane. This mess has to be cleaned up for the next people otherwise the business would fold. The people who make the problems are not always foreigners as you suggest. There are learnt procedures for dealing with the nasty parts of cleaning. This is to protect staff and guests.

Eejitmum101 · 05/08/2024 11:12

Good on you OP
serioilsy the entitled mom deserve this and sick of the entitlement t these people have making it bad for us who actually have respect for others and not do this.

Tulipsareredvioletsarebue · 05/08/2024 11:04

ButterCrackers · 05/08/2024 08:27

No one is saying that staff should be doing the parenting. If the customer doesn’t follow contractual agreed behaviour who do you think cleans up the mess? You trash the training of cleaning staff. They are trained to protect themselves and the guests. Body fluids such as shit, after sex, blood, vomit are what cleaners clean and for this there is health and safety. You expect a clean room and a clean place at a hotel so you should respect the work that goes into this.

Edited

I have worked in a few hotels and seen the training.
Also, do you think the staff has some 'safe' way to dispose of shitty nappies? What would you say that 'safe' way is? Why would a member of staff have to do it and not the person who dropped rubbis?
It literally is- put gloves on, put nappy in the bag, put it in the bin. Not rocket science, not disarming a bomb, you dont need 'trained' housekeepers to put nappies in the bin 'safely' whatever that means. Parents can do it just as well themselves.
The fact cleaners have to clean body fluids does not mean they should have to, and they should not have to degrade themselves because of lazy assholes who think they can do whatever just because they are on holiday in a foreign country.

Paganpentacle · 05/08/2024 10:17

paperrockscissors · 04/08/2024 20:06

Thats pretty gross but I find it astonishing that you kicked them back into their room. Quite agressive infact and a massive overreaction. You clearly also have an issue with Americans. Why is that?

Why is it aggressive to give them back their shitty sticking nappy sack ??
What's more aggressive is leaving it out there for everyone else to suffer.