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Break down on motorway.

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SquatWeightaMinute · 04/08/2024 17:57

AIBU to be annoyed with DH or am I sensitive due to stressful situation.

I had car trouble a few weeks ago and broke down. RAC attended and said it was fine to drive, cleared the code and off we went. Car drove fine afterwards.

Today I broke down on the motorway with teen DS & DD with me.

I emailed DH to tell him and he didn’t even ask if we were ok. We were literally stood at the side of the motorway and all he said was - oh really, same fault as last time?

Not an ounce of concern.

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Treehotelcamp · 04/08/2024 18:09

it is lacking in empathy. Is this how he always has been - or is it uncharacteristic of him to behave like that?

xyzandabc · 04/08/2024 18:08

Is email the usual way you communicate with DH if you are out and about?

If you actually needed help or him to do something I would have expected a phone call to let him know, or at least a text/WhatsApp.

I'd say he was confident that you had it all in hand and would let him know if you needed anything. You sound like you were fine and just getting on with it, so he would assume you were ok. If you weren't ok, you would have told him?

Tacocatgoatcheesepizza · 04/08/2024 18:06

You emailed him? To be honest I can understand his meh response a little bit - people don’t generally email their spouse's if there’s something for them to be worried about! If you’d called him while it was happening and he’d said that I’d be more annoyed.

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SquatWeightaMinute · 04/08/2024 18:06

Ourshoddyhouse · 04/08/2024 18:02

Well an email doesn't exactly scream urgency to me so he probably thought everything was in hand? 🤷🏻‍♀️

He can’t use his phone in work so email is the only way I can contact him while he’s in work.

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Nightblindness · 04/08/2024 18:04

Meh, we are all different, of course, but it wouldnt occur to me to be asked if I am ok in that circumstance. It makes sense to ask about the car imo. If it is important to you, tell him.

Boomer55 · 04/08/2024 18:03

You got it sorted, so it’s done now. . Not much your DH could have done.🙂

Ourshoddyhouse · 04/08/2024 18:02

Well an email doesn't exactly scream urgency to me so he probably thought everything was in hand? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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SquatWeightaMinute · 04/08/2024 18:00

Sunshineafterthehail · 04/08/2024 17:58

How people deal with a crisis is very telling imo.

I’m not sure if you are referring to me or DH there?

I dealt with it ok, got us off the motorway into an emergency lay-by and got the RAC to recover us. I wasn’t hysterical or anything but a quick, oh are you all ok? Would have been nice.

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Sunshineafterthehail · 04/08/2024 17:58

How people deal with a crisis is very telling imo.