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itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:05

Husband has barely spoken to me all weekend. It's a constant circle of me having to try and make conversation and get nothing back. I'm mad about it and I've told him so. So went I went to the shop he decided to drive off when I was inside and leave me.

It's only a 10 min walk from home. But I'm fuming. I don't know how to even react or what to say?

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itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:34

Yes, I said "we should have turned left there, shouldn't we?" because he went past. I've never known him to go to this place before so I thought he maybe didn't know that was the way. He was then having a go at me about that still as I was getting out of I don't feel I slammed the door but maybe I did because he was going at me

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Pinkypinkyplonk · 04/08/2024 16:33

There are never any reasons for driving off with the kids and leaving you.

BlastedPimples · 04/08/2024 16:29

His reasons for driving off are bullshit.

Ponoka7 · 04/08/2024 16:29

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:28

He said he drove off because he feels I slammed the door of the car when I got out and because he was mad that I tried to give him directions to a place he knew the way to.

Did any of that happen?

BlastedPimples · 04/08/2024 16:29

Why are you scared your kids will tell the grandparents? Your parents or his?

Are you afraid of him, op?

You can take some control back. Stop trying with him. He's abusing you by ignoring you and driving off like that.

He doesn't deserve your effort or energy.

Ponoka7 · 04/08/2024 16:28

Tell the GPs. My DP would shut down. I made it clear that he either communicated or we were done. Start to make plans to end things. How did it start?

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itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:28

He said he drove off because he feels I slammed the door of the car when I got out and because he was mad that I tried to give him directions to a place he knew the way to.

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Turophilic · 04/08/2024 16:26

MonsteraMama · 04/08/2024 16:24

He's a grown man and a father, he can sort the kids tea. Take yourself out for the night, sod him.

Damned right. Taxi home to drop oiff the shopping, straight back into the taxi to the nearest nice hotel. Or a friend's house.

DeadbeatYoda · 04/08/2024 16:26

Huge red flag. That is really crappy behaviour. I bet this wasn't massively out of character for him, was it?

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itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:26

I've gone home. I can't leave them for the night because he leaves too early and I know will be upset if I'm not there / they don't know where I am.

I don't even know what to do now. I think I know we've reached the end but I can't even face it. I'm scared the kids will tell grandparents what just happened. I can't het my head around it all

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BlastedPimples · 04/08/2024 16:24

You can't leave the kids with him. They will be so upset wondering where you are.

MonsteraMama · 04/08/2024 16:24

He's a grown man and a father, he can sort the kids tea. Take yourself out for the night, sod him.

dontstopmenowimhavingagoodtime · 04/08/2024 16:24

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Yes. Kids were in the car.

Oh they would've been so upset

What a horrible man!

Purplecatshopaholic · 04/08/2024 16:23

I am assuming he is doing the kids tea - why should you/how can you do it when he’s left you to walk home, and he’s there with them.
Btw you really need a lawyer op. The level of disrespect here - and in front of your kids - is really vile.

BlastedPimples · 04/08/2024 16:22

He drove off and left you with the kids in the car? They will have been distressed about that.

What an awful man.

I think he hates you and wants to make you miserable.

You deserve better. So much better.

Can you make an arrangement to see a solicitor? This isn't going to get better.

cupcaske123 · 04/08/2024 16:20

I'm assuming he isn't capable of making their dinner or taking care of them.

He's treating you with contempt which normally spells the end of the relationship. Ignoring you is abusive.

I wouldn't say anything. Just ignore him back and get on with it. Have a think about whether you want to continue putting up with this.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2024 16:19

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Yes. Kids were in the car.

Op, you cannot stay with this man. That is absolutely horrendous. Your poor kids. What a horrible example for them.

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itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Yes. Kids were in the car.

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MrsMoastyToasty · 04/08/2024 16:18

Let him sort the kids out.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Were your children in the car when he drove off without you?

CoastalCalm · 04/08/2024 16:18

Let him sort the kids out !

Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2024 16:17

Op, go back home, spend time with your kids, and make a plan. Get out as soon as possible.

dontstopmenowimhavingagoodtime · 04/08/2024 16:17

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:15

If I didn't have the kids to sort of be fucking off to a hotel far away because I absolutely hate him so much right now.

Our relationship is constantly me wanting more, wanting conversations, someone to talk to. But fuck all. That's what I get.

Were the children on the car when he drove off?

Poor them!

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itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:16

It's starting to rain so there's no sunshine to enjoy. I need to sort of kids dinner or I'd just not go back

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dontstopmenowimhavingagoodtime · 04/08/2024 16:16

HappyChicky23 · 04/08/2024 16:08

Take your time going home, go get a coffee or a glass of wine

This!

Enjoy the sunshine, buy a trashy mag and take your time to relax.

He sounds hard work.