To ask how you would react to this?

How are things now op

Can he not look after them or feed them?

When I was younger I put up with so much crap from men. I'm only in my early 30s now but I wouldn't even dream of sticking around a man who dared to be even slightly disrespectful to me. Dc or not. I have raised a baby alone and I'd do it again in a heartbeat rather than live a life of misery. My friends make jokes about me laying in bed while my dh serves me. It's funny but also true. As a woman I'm too good for any man and so are you. Men are lucky to be with us in the first place. They better treat us like they know this or they can go away. Lots of men are emotionally inept and we should avoid those men like the plague. There is no excuse for it but that's how they are.

Why would you live your life like this? I don't understand it when this loser brings nothing to the table and you are too good for him. Why continue to live in misery and show your dc this is what life is like. There is literally no point.

I'd react by telling him to go back to his mummy's because he's still in the toddler tantrum phase so needs to go back on the naughty step. The peace and relief you will feel will be amazing.

If you have a good relationship with your parents I would tell them what happened - he possibly expects you not to and so behaves this way. If he behaves like this he might play silly buggers when you decide to leave. Your parents need your perspective so that they don’t fall for any ‘she’s mad’ narrative from him.

They may be able to help you with the means to leave
I am sure you have read the info on here - get your ducks in a row, have your parents on side and walk away from the fuckery

I’d make the decision right now that this is the end and then get ducks in a row and massively grey rock him from now on. Just drop the rope with him. He sounds horrible, hope you’re ok. You can get through it, you just need to take things a step at a time.

He sounds like a pathetic baby. Give him something to really complain about and hand him a crisp set of divorce papers. Wanker.

Absolutely, this.

You would feel embarrassed because your h has behaved terribly?

Or would you feel embarrassed because you don't feel ready to ditch him?

That behaviour would bug me enough to ignore him for the rest of the day. Tomorrow I might bother to ask him what the problem is.

Seriously, this behaviour is unacceptable from an adult.

Please tell your parents Op, you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you're going to need their help to get away from this man. He's worn you down for so long you've lost all hope of something better and that's just wrong. You're flogging a dead horse trying to keep this marriage alive, he doesn't even like you, never mind love you. You must know this is a terrible example to your children

I would go home and go in and say nothing to him
I would make dinner for me and the children, not him
I would totally & utterly ignore him. I would ask why he'd driven off and I would immediately stop doing anything for him - laundry, meals, etc
I'd phone in sick tomorrow and research and set up a meeting with a divorce solicitor and get all legal & financial documents together, which I'd then ask a friend to hold.

When I was ready I'd tell him I want a divorce
Then I'd email everyone on Both sides of the family telling them our marriage was over due to OHs abusive behaviour

Get ahead of him & stay ahead of him
Control the narrative

Please don't raise your kids in this environment. It will ruin them.

How old are the children?

This is beyond awful. It would have been shocking behaviour if it had just been the two of you but the fact that your kids were there makes it even worse. For their sake as well as yours, please make any possible steps to leave this man.

That would be the end for me. Why are you worried about the kids telling their grandparents? Isn’t it past time they knew what a complete arse he is?

That's pretty bloody horrible OP.

So we can imagine he told your children he was making you walk home?

Or simply said nothing and they would have worked it out themselves.

He doesn't deserve a wife and family.

Get rid 😡

Get your ducks in a row OP. Your dh is vile, abusive and you deserve so much better. As do your DC.

Me neither, I definitely wouldn’t be going back today.

( Arse biscuit 😆 )

Honestly @itsoverisntit12 fuck that.

I wouldn’t allow myself or my children to live in that toxicity.

life is too short to waste it living like that.

start getting advice etc then once you know your entitlements etc pull the plug.

oh and as for the children telling the grandparents let them, they should know you are being treated so poorly! You have nothing to be ashamed or scared about

just to add I understand things are more complicated than just leave but that doesn’t mean it’s not possible with planning

What are your living arrangements? Are they his kids?

I’d like to know what he said to the children as he left you!

Have you been walking on eggshells for long?

Even if you did slam the door OP that is no reason for him to drive off and leave you. There is no excuse for treating you with such contempt.
How old are your children? Do you work?

He sounds like a moronic arse tbh.