To wonder why more parents don't encourage daughters to freeze eggs?

I don’t get your logic

Look up the current statistics on live births and you’ll see you’re completely wrong. Although it’s a lot less likely if you freeze eggs after the age of 35 which is kind of the point. The cost of egg freezing is much, much less than a deposit for the average house. A lot of false, misleading information on this thread eg earlier on someone said eggs can only be frozen for 10 years which is completely out of date. Anyone freezing their eggs today will be able to keep them for as long as necessary

It would have been a massive waste of money for me. I got pregnant easily even at 39.

Have you thought about not taking money from your parents?

But how long will that take and how is it going to help women now

Who said anything about thirty years? If these babies could have been born earlier due to either economic or relationship reasons then they would have been. I imagine the ice comment will be hurtful for a lot of people

I don’t think people realise how common these sorts of issues are… And how many people are so desperate they would, and do, give up material possessions and get into debt to have a child. Far more debt than the egg freezing process costs

crazy, isnt it. The people who think themselves modern, civilised and advanced, to come up with totally utopian and dystopian nazi ideas

that is one of these posts where you question the sanity or logic of people making the post

I'm not sure that's entirely true anymore - at least not as a rule of thumb.

Biology lags generations behind: its still in the era of shorter life expectancy, women doing domestic "careers" and very different financial landscape.

All these things can impact a child's life.

The low chance of success

I completely agree.

Having gone through the IVF journey (obviously only as the male partner) and learning about the stats, and now having 2 daughters- I expect I will suggest exactly that. Probably not 18-25 yo eggs, but ~30.

There’s no guarantee but it’s a massive opportunity to keep a door open that will otherwise close for sure.

Keep in mind when looking at stats related to IVF they are heavily skewed by the fact that the people going through it are usually those who are already older and/or struggling. Odds of successful live birth for a woman 42+ are 3-5% per round of IVF. That’s something like 50% for a 30 year old. Age at egg retrieval is the biggest determinant.

I’d rather help my daughter have her babies when her body was ready for them - eg younger. I think that doing egg freezing encourages people to wait a lot longer. It’s beneficial to have babies when biology wants you to.

Probably because it’s usually not needed. And the tests and extraction are invasive and painful according to my friend who has done it herself (frozen age 31 thanks to her mum paying).

It would be better to help them have babies young.

I won’t be encouraging my daughter to have children at all. I’d rather she prioritise other things that will give her a better quality of life (financial security, career, good social support). Her choice though, obviously.

My parents couldn't have paid for me to have a Tesco value microwave never mind a London gaff and egg retrieval 🤷🏻‍♀️

I guess if parents could raise their children to be independent and stand on their own two feet & make good choices then they wouldn’t raise kids who ask what more can my parents for me:

Buy me house
Buy me wedding
Buy me baby
Tell me to freeze my eggs

Waaaaa

You sound like my (IVF) toddlers.

I am hoping to raise children who can think critically and can assess life for its instrinic worth than a list of I wants that can be bought.

It could make having living grandparents a thing of the past?

Why would you as a parent? Why would you be thinking about that in the first place (besides some genetic component within the family.)?

I’d be weirded out if my parents gave me that. Bad enough they were asking me when I was having children in my early 20s, would have probably gone low contact if they gifted me such a thing over helping with a house purchase.

Plus, having listened to someone talk about it and show what they went through, no bloody thank you would I have gone through the trouble even if I had fertility struggles.

Just because the technology exists, does not mean that it has to happen.

It would have been a hard no from me! I would have seen this as a pushy mother desperate for grandkids .

Me too!

Either do it naturally or don't do it at all. People managed quite well like that for generations before egg freezing was even thought of. Nobody thought they had a right to a child, they hoped, it usually happened and they were grateful, if they couldn't they found fulfilment in other ways.

Because it's expensive, invasive, and unlikely to result in a live birth. You're much better off freezing embryos, but to do that you need to know who you want the father to be. Most women don't need it. The vast majority of 35 year old women TTC for the first time will conceive within a year.

Gifting your child a large deposit is probably a lot more useful because they will then be financially ready to have a child at an earlier age.

I actually have a friend whose mother did offer to freeze her and her sister’s eggs when they were about 19-21. It seemed like a really far off thought at the time.

The girls will now both be mid-thirties and neither has had a child.

If I’d have had the gift of seeing into the future when my DD36 was 18, I would have encouraged her to have her eggs frozen. She has endometriosis, has already had to have 1 fallopian tube taken out, and the other one is partially blocked. She and her DH are starting IVF and have been given a 15% chance of success.