DP lives a mile away from me. We've been together on and off for five years.
He has recently spent six months travelling Asia with his friends. This happened about a month after he got back.
The previous night, he had told me to let him know by 2pm the following day if I'd be free for hun to come over.
I work in healthcare and had to deal with the death of a baby (my first experience). This was obviously unexpected, so I missed the 2pm deadline.
When I got chance, I was texting him to let him know I was dealing with a death. I told him it had really affected me, and that it was the worst day I have ever had at work.
He said "I doubt I'll be free now".
He was in the pub with friends, and then had people back over to his garden where they were no doubt smoking weed. At this point he was seeing his friends essentially 7 days a week.
He started a new job a couple of weeks after that.
His justification for this, is that the chapter of seeing his friends every day was about to close, and that spending time with them was important. As he'd only be seeing them on the weekends once starting the new job.
When I say "you had two options, and you chose to drink and smoke with your friends. Like you have been doing for the last seven months" he says I am over simplifying it, and taking it out of context.
AIBU? Am I expecting too much?